What should I do about my boyfriend?

So we been together for four years but the passion is lacking. He fucks me once a month and thinks I’ll be satisfied with that. I expressed to him I need more sex and he never gives me more. He’s a good guy but I’m tired of being unhappy and sexually neglected. I want him to do stuff with me more but I’m losing hope and I don't know what to do

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Superb Opinion

  • need to figure out what is going on and wrong else you won't be happy.

    I find it hard to believe a young male is only interested once a month... sounds like emotional issues, porn, master-b issues, etc..

    Since the issue has been ignored, then its time to take decisive action to save your relationship and ge ta therapist or sex therapist to sort it out. at minimum, deep talks about what is going on.

    and then decide if you can save relationship and make the changes.

    good luck.

Most Helpful Guy

  • If you are unhappy, why are you wasting your life with that guy? It's time to move on.

    You've already talked to him and he didn't seem to care.

    I wouldn't even call what you have a relationship. A relationship is when you want to be together. You're best friends. You love going places, doing things and having fun together; chatting, confiding and enjoying each other's company. You idolize each other sexually and are eager to satisfy each other's sexual needs and desires.

    You can't change this guy. Stop waiting for him to make you happy and move on. You owe him nothing. Find a real partner and let your ex find someone else to grace with his presence once a month or whenever he feels like it.

    You deserve to be happy. So get to it before more time slips by. ❤️

Most Helpful Girls

  • Leave and find a man who finds you irresistible. I stayed in a relationship where my ex used to reject me, even if I was in front of him naked. It was traumatic. After a few times of being rejected i lost complete interest in making the relationship working. Nothing he did was enough to make up for the brutal rejections. Eventually I left him and now have a boyfriend who is more than happy to give me what I want, when I want. It's intoxicating being wanted the way my new man wants me. I wonder why I even wasted 12 years of my life with my ex

    • How long have you been with the new guy?

    • @Truthatanycost 6 months officially, 8ish months all together. Not long enough for him to lose interest yet, im sure is where this is going. My ex and I had numerous conversations about his behavior and I stayed for years trying to fix the man. My new boyfriend will actually have discussions with me and if it's reasonable will accommodate me.

    • It sounds like you are expecting him to lose interest? Be careful of self fulfilling prophecy!

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  • Bottom line is, you’re not sexually compatible and never will be. Remaining in a relationship like that is a waste of time for you both. There are a lot of great people on this earth but not all of them can make you happy. Find one that does. It really is that simple.

    • This. 100%

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • tellhim straight, mor\e sex or you will lookelse where

  • If I were in your position, I'd find myself a side guy as soon as possible, but I'd probably keep the main guy, at least for now.

  • It doesn't get better. I went down that road. End it amicably and go get your needs addressed or there will be a blowout down the road.

  • expressed? dont be subtle. we blue often dont "get it" if vague signals. cuddle n say "dont you want intimacy too" or something clear like that. if he doesn't "satisfy" after open messages then find someone who will.

  • You need to find yourself a new man , one that would fuck you more than once a month

  • Sounds like he's basically telling you how life with him will be.

    Ignoring red flags is a BIG mistake. And you have the benefit of seeing the flags. Others don't.

    If you ignore the warning signs you'll regret it later. If you've already told him and he blows you off... it will only get worse.

  • break up with him.

  • Tell him that's bullshit. Tell him that you're young, attractive, and want to have some fun. And that once a month bullshit has to stop. If he gives you any shit any shit at all, tell him to go fuck himself.

  • Does he work a lot, do many projects when he's not at work, he's prob tired a lot

  • Honestly at that point I'd pursue another route. If your partner knows what you need and has the ability to give it to you but refuses (not for personal moral reasons) than they probably aren't worth your time

  • Have you tried initating stuff ,? Or do you leave everything up to him?

  • Have u ever initiated sex?

  • could be he's screwing someone else. or he's loosing interest as well

  • Has he said why? Do u live together?

  • Try something new like threesome

  • i think he cheats on you with another
    proof once a month

  • He must have low testosterone or he's getting it somewhere else. No way any normal guy in his 20s voluntarily goes a whole month without sex.