Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health My partner and I have been going out for 4 years in September. We are an age gap relationship. He is 55 and I am 29. I believe I am above average (skinny, brown hair, blue eyes and Italian/Australian) he has high testosterone funny enough and I gave him some videos of me and him together so when he is away he can look at my videos (wink wink) anyways…I am a little psychic and I called him up one night and my gut feeling told me he is watching porn…(he knows how I feel about that hence why I gave him videos of us together) he denied it at first and then once I broke up with him he came forward and said he did and has been lying about it for a while. Long story short…we went away together and for the first time I felt beautiful and we had a few drinks and I said “yeah I’m hot” he then proceeded to say “ehhhh, you’re attractive but there is a woman out there that is more hot” I was shocked and I said “you don’t say that what the hell” (I know there is always someone more beautiful in the world) but you don’t say that to your partner right? Anyways makes me think he is comparing me to other woman he sees (he claims he was giving me a compliment and was joking) please I need your advice. Much love c
What should I do am I feeling too insecure?
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1 0Knock your ego down a peg. You sound really full of yourself. Nothing wrong with self love, but being told that someone else in the world is more beautiful (which is obvious) and taking that as an insult? I don’t see how that’s an insult, it’s simply an observation.
No no I’m saying I understand there is more beautiful people in the world!!! I look at other women too and think wow she’s so beautiful. I’m saying with the porn stuff and him watching porn over videos of me and then that comment..:I’m just trying to get an understanding if that is disrespectful
Ohh I see now. Sorry. Yes I do think it’s very disrespectful for him to be watching porn when you’ve told him that you don’t want him to watch it. Especially if he’s hiding it from you! He’s in his 50’s, he should damn well know better at his age. And you’ve gone above and beyond by giving him videos of you two together, so there’s truly no excuse for him to be watching other porn.
Yeah thanks…I thought you thought I was full of myself!! I’m actually not :( I’m insecure and with him being much older and him watching porn over videos of me and then that comment…do you know why he would say that? It is very hurtful (I have never said that to him)
The comment happens last week when we went out all dressed up…he watched porn 3 months ago and says he has stopped since he knew it nearly broke is up. 3 months later and this comment?
Honestly I’m not sure why he would say that.. maybe he thought that you were getting carried away with your confidence and he wanted to make you feel a little bad about yourself or doubt yourself? Sometimes men do that to women so that the woman stays with them, instead of thinking that she’s beautiful and can get any man that she wants, and then the man gets her all to himself. But in your case, your man is watching porn and betraying your trust, so he sounds like a lost cause.
Do you think he is watching porn still? Seriously he says he stopped but the comment was rude and he knows it nearly broke us up. I’m not talking to him and he acts like he can save things again… thank you for reply it helps
I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s still watching porn. If he was still watching it, why would he tell you? If he knows that by him watching it “3 months ago” that it upset you. He’s likely still watching it and just not admitting it so that you don’t get more upset and leave.
That’s what I thought. He said he means it and says he has stopped and then this comment through me. Also when we were watching a show about what guys think he goes “if you knew what men think, you would run away” I said “what do they think?” He goes “‘men think about sex” I go so when they see me with you what do they think…he goes “ they want to have sex with you.” I said so if you saw an attractive young woman, do you want to have sex with them?” He just laughed and said I knew you would say that.