What should I do when my boyfriend told me I turn him off?

[Anonymous]

So we've been together for 7 years. We split around the 5th year because we grew distant but later he contacted me and wanted to get back together. It's been awhile and I've changed especially for religious purposes so I was telling him about no sex before marriage. So he seemed fine about it but later he was being petty to me purposely not showing affection. So I got mad and confronted him. So he was saying he was sexually frustrated then I felt bad and said we could again. Then he spouted that I turn him off. Now I feel like turning him off completely. I know not everyone wants to wait before marriage but if he felt that way he could've ended it.

[bubblegunnn]

U have done nothing wrong with it girl, its ur belief and ur right to be religious.. its not a shame at all and im proud of u.. u changed to be a better person thats good..
Ur boyfriend said u were turn him off? Definitely he got mad cuz he didn't get what he want. Definitely he only want sex.. u better leave him for someone better and worthy..

[Asker]

Yeah, I considered it from a "guy's perspective" but he was being petty and rude about it

[bubblegunnn]

Just leave him tho.. u r not deserve guy like him

[PeteBy]

So I need to clarify. You have not stated if you had sex with him before. This will cause confusion if you already have.

Don't get me wrong you have the right to your stance and he should respect that, especially if you're willing to sexually gratify him in other ways. I am just curious if you ever had sex with him before as that would confuse him.

[Asker]

Yeah I have it was before we broke up the first time. I've changed

[PeteBy]

Ok. He is being selfish. I get he may be confused as you've already had sex but he should respect your choice. I can see why he would be confused but if he feels anything for you, he should respect it.

[Asker]

Yeah I told him we could then he said he felt like he's being forced

[20yearsolder]

From the sounds of it you were having sex and then you found religion. He didn't find religion. Why would you think that he would want to stop having sex? I understand that you told him that you no longer wanted to have sex until you were married. Old habits are hard to break.

[Asker]

Least I told him about it upfront before we got together but he started acting petty

[summiter]

Time to move on you can do better.

[slatyb]

You should split permanently. Your values aren't compatible.

[Blackcupcake]

leave him

[Asker]

Yeahhh he knew about it and still got mad. Granted he can be mad hell he can leave but don't disrespect me

[FilmGuy93]

Why are you still dating this person?

[JPresidente]

Ditch him and move on.

[animesenpai]

This relationship sounds toxic af

[Asker]

Yeahhh probs so

[Wise4myage]

Rid yourself of him, permanently.

[Somoneelse]

I would advice to break up. It sounds like you have diffrent plans than him.

[Twalli]

Well if you had sex before that religous revolution you had, it makes sense. You've already done it with him and now you are witholding it from him. If it was a new guy who you haven't had sex with, that'd be different. It would still be hard for him, because you had sex with other guys before him.

[Jenny-Marie]

You should stop wasting your time, he has no respect for you.

[Paul09]

Religions are usually a huge turn off. So..

[TheSpaceGnome]

This ^ If a woman is religious, it's a no from me, zero exceptions.

[In_Trance]

dump him

[FckY0u998]

the only time i grow distant is when she cheats

[panamared1]

find a new one

[Anonymous]

He's doing an emotional approach. He expect you to open your legs for him.

It's your decision, But I'm on his side. at least a makeout session is needed.

[Asker]

I just said sex, I reconsidered but I was willing to do other stuff but that's on him being a baby

[Opinion Owner]

Ohh.. if you're willing to do other things, i think your boyfriend should respect your decision