What should I do when my husband bores me to death?

My husband bore me. Everything we do is because of me and my planning. I want sex, it is often me initiating. Sometimes he rejects me, sometimes he then just finger me and sometimes (he is often tired) he is just like turning over and laying like a starfish and say ok do your thing (Which i dont because it turns me off). Most evenings he out tv and turn off the lights he fall asleep while watching tv And then i am just laying there, because he is sleeping and it is dark.

He isn't that old, he eats healthy, does exercise, he doesn't smoke, only drinks a bit weekends, so I dont get it and he get enough sleep. 99% Sure he is faithful.

what should i do i am sooooo bored and dont feel satisfied at all sexually, sex is good only miss foreplay and kissing and touching but sex sex is good.
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  • well this is a talk you should have with your man, the thingbwith relationships nowadays is that people dont even talk things out with their partners anymore, relationships work things out, tell him that you aren't sexually safisfied in that relationship and that y'all should work things out, something that can fix this is scheduling, y'all make a schedule with everything that has to be done and complete them, with the free time y'all can have time for both of you and y'all can make love, the good love not that starfish crap

  • That sux. He forgot it’s still his job to seduce you just like when you were dating. When you tell him you need more foreplay and want to feel desired what does he say?

    • He says sorry I will make it up to you, but he never does or then just offer himself but me doing all the work but that makes me uncomfertable to do it with somebody who doesn't really want to and is just laying.

    • Oh i meant talking to him when you are not in the bedroom? Like don’t you all have weekly ‘meetings’ where you discuss your relationship and talk about goals or things to improve it?

    • Not meetings per se, I have brought it up, but he doesn't really say much about it and then he still comes with the excises that he is often tired.

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  • Divorce, no need to ruin your life being with him if he's so boring. You're still young if you don't leave him you'll regret it and become resentful and bitter towards him.(I know a lot of people like that and they basically just ruined their life themselves and blame other for it).

  • Oh boy. Has he always been like this? The way you described it he seems like he lacks any type of motivation in life. Maybe depressed?

    • Has always been like that, but not that bad for the first 6-12 months. Maybe i dont know, could be the case

    • He seems very disinterested in life altogether, I feel like he's doing everything as a chore, and that's concerning. Guys in depression is more concerning than girls in depression because we tend to show our emotions. Guys tend to not show what they go through which takes a toll on their mental health. He might not even tell you even if you ask. That's just me guessing , it might not be the case. But if he exhibits more signs of lack of interest in life altogether or lack of motivation, depression etc, try to understand from him, let him open up. It might need medical help.

    • @potatoiswhoiam I kindly disagree with you, I think it has to do with his personality, when you live with someone you learn more about them and their bad habits. I believe its just who he is as a person and she has to accept him for who he is

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  • Girl, get yourself a damn toy... ok?
    seems like you married early... and married someone that sex is probably a chore... you want the works and he is not willing to explore...
    I'd say that you should get a fuck buddy on the side, but, lets keep it PG,
    so... get yourself a damn toy.
    (i find it interesting that your cheating radar is only 99%... where is the last 1)

    • Last 1 is because you can never really know for sure unless you have a camera on them 24/7. But yeah, maybe I should just do that

    • well.. if you want, i have a few suggestions... having worked in porn and all... and i totally agree with you... i was just being a dick... you can never be 100... and even with a camera...

  • Does he work a lot?

    • No, only 4 hours a day for now

  • He’s probably more bored with you than you are with him

  • Why marry at a young age to then say your bored lol you guys on here love fucking about with your lives meh tell him you need change and if it don't happen you are prepared to divorce him

  • What does he say about this? Could be depression. What was he like before?

    You are young. Can you imagine another 40 years of this? If not you may have to exit the marriage. No one's fault, just making to young to someone you didn't really know.

  • Talk to him about this.

  • As long as its only sex then you should find other men to fuck. Id gladly do it. If however you're not happy overall then you may need to reconsider staying together

  • Talk with him about it. Let him know you're not satisfied. If he loves you, and it sounds like he does, he'll want to fix this problem. The thing is you have to talk about it because no matter how long you're married to someone or how much they love you, they will never know what you're thinking or if somethings wrong if you don't communicate with them about it.

  • You must have a talk on this with him urgently. That's nothing which can wait because frustration is building up

  • You chose the 'sure thing' instead of the exciting guy. Now you see what happens when you do that.
    Let him know he has an obligation to perform his end of the marriage bargain, and if he doesn't you're going to dump his ass.

  • the always tired sounds like a mental, medical, or both mental and medical issue.

    what type of work does he do? some examples are sales, construction, accounting. what type of personality does he have, introverted or extroverted?

    • Introverted. He just works four hours daily in sales.

    • lol. i am an introvert too and work in sales. it very well could be psycologically exhausted all the time from dealing with people. i know am near exhaustion most days and my typical work day is only 6 hours. many of us introverts get exhausted this way from interacting with people. the amount of tiredness varies mind you.

  • He exercises and has a healthy diet but what about you?

    Maybe he doesn't think you're attractive.

    • I am slim and young, eat healthy, exercise daily, always try to look my best for him and a lot of guys think i am

    • Well maybe he's just bored then.

  • You could ask him you need him to treat you better or you are going to need a second partner for your needs. Last resort.

    Right now though just act like a bunny girl or dress in his favorite girl outfit to please him

  • Maybe you can buy some masturbation toys?
    Also, what's he into? What really turns him on? If you know what that is, you can use it, maybe.

  • You sound too sexually focused that’s a turn off

    • Well for me it is important in a relationship

    • Then it sounds like you two are not compatible.

  • How old is this guy?

  • Buy some sexy lingerie, roleplay and stuff like that

    • Tried all that, I love lingerie, and I have a nursing , school girl costume and a maid costume.

    • Sexting? Or nudes?

    • Tried all and he couldnt care less

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  • Hi there u should message me when you are down I'll help

  • How old is he?
    In medical issues?
    Did he take any medicine?
    Any problem with erction?
    Does he have fast cumming problem?

    • He is 39, no medical issue and no medicine, he gets erection and hold it it is just not always very hard and sometimes get soft halfway but he has been like that since i know him for the first time 3-4 years ago. No he takes long time to cum.

    • OK great How old are you? Any physically change happened to your body? When this issue start? Can you tell me about last time it happened?

    • I am 24, no my body is fine and looks fine and i do sport and i am in shape. It is just getting worse and worse gradually. Last happend last night. I was kissing him and he was like no. Then he laid on his back and said ok help yourself, and i told him no not if you dont want. Then he fell asleep.

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  • Cuckold him

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