What should I tell my guy about sex?

I’m talking to this guy, we are both in our early 30s, I’m new to being single after a long term relationship, so I don't know what people even do in their 30s when dating but I’ve been talking to him for almost 3 months now; we met online on a dating app, and met up 2 times.., he’s a single father and I’m also a single mom. We both have been sending nudes and want eachother, but I’m so insecure with my body... I mean he’s respectful.. but how do I explain to him that I’m insecure? I also want to have sex.. but I’m scared.., should I tell him I want to take it slow? Even though I clearly show that I want sex..
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  • I’d just be honest about it. If he’s nice as you make him sound he will understand. Tell him it’s been a while since you’ve been w someone new so warming up to sex is a little challenging for you right now. Let him know you’re not saying it’s off the table, that you really want him as well but you’re just a little self conscious right now. He will try to reassure you that you look gorgeous n that he loves your body, but you’ll have to tell him it’s just what you’re going through right now and you appreciate his comments. Maybe if you’re open to it a hand job, even better give him head. This will reassure him how serious you are about wanting him. Maybe suggest that you’d like to initiate things when you’re ready. I think that would be sexy if you initiated things.

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  • Relationships are funny.
    They tend to consist of two people.
    You are half of that.
    Yet both people go around asking whats okay, normal, and expected. That's weird, don't you think?

    Who says you can't just tell him you're insecure, want to rip his clothes off but also kind of want to hide under a blanket? That its weird dating as adults and that you don't really get it.
    You define what is and is not right in your relationship. Heck, if I tried sticking to public conventions of how to behave I'd go insane. So don't worry so much over right and wrong.

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  • You send him your nudes, you can't be that insecure about your body. :)

  • Women like confidence in guys, we like it in you as well ;)

    But we all have insecurities and I can guarantee that you'll "judge" your own body FAR more and harder than he will. And your insecurities aren't going to get any better waiting (if you're ready and this is the only thing holding you back). Try to have the "whatever" attitude and just go for it! lol But you can mention you're very nervous, but he will be as well so it won't just be you. Just don't over think it. :)

  • Give him blowjobs or handjobs or just let him masturbate to you maybe just topless if you are confident enough until you are ready that way you keep his intrest and you show you care about him and his feelings as well as demonstrating your sexual intrest in him

  • Talk to him.

  • Yes, tell him you're a little rusty and need to take it slow. If he's into you the way you say, he won't have a problem. He's probably feeling the same way. I'm sure your body is beautiful and you are being critical of yourself for no reason like so many people do. Just be yourself and have fun.

  • Yes. He probably is in the same situation but no harm in telling him your feelings. Hope it goes well for you...

    • I don't know.. 😩 I told him about he said “aaw, I totally get that :)”

  • Tell him how you feel

  • they start talking about marriage, and kids

  • Learn to love your body.
    Confident girls are the sexiest

  • sending nudes is dangerous
    just tell him
    read this to him

    • 😩 why do you say that..

    • I’m talking to a lot of guys... but he’s my favorite 😂😂 he’s never thirsty, I was drawn to that..

    • you lose control of what happens to the photos

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  • Go for a romantic dinner.
    Give him a dozen of seductive looks.
    Touch him softly and seductively whenever you get a chance to.
    Get him to the mood and kiss.
    Invite him to your home and bang

    • 😂 omg.. no.. I don't know, is it wrong that I like him? I do but we’re not even exclusive... I feel like I’m getting ghost already 🤣

    • Can you have sex with someone you like?

    • Haha. What's wrong in that. Comeon plan for a dinner. Go go go 🤭

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  • Yeah tell him you wanna take it slow. If he’s not okay with that then he doesn’t deserve you