What is so wrong with a first date blowjob?

[Anonymous]

A friend of mine set me up with another guy she knows. I was talking about not having had a guy in a while and she knew this guy who seriously needed to get over his ex. It was really fun for a first date. When he dropped me off at my place he asked if I could give him a blowjob. I did it without hesitating and he really liked it. So did I. He was really nice and thankful and we're going out again. Why do so many people say never give head on a first date?

[HandsomeRaj]

People say never give head on 1st date cause then the guy thinks you are easy and available. It's a self respect preservation thing and I agree with them though with me respect and liking for the woman will increase if she's that open and honest on the 1st date. I'd want to date her than make a booty call out of her but most times it's the other way round.

Ofcourse I won't ask for a BJ I'd rather go all the way :) ;) :D Asking for a BJ on the 1st date I find it disrespectful towards the woman and selfishness on my part.

Again I don't think there's anything wrong with blowing someone on a 1st date, it's a matter of perception as long as you have your focus, confidence and self respect in place :)

[AdamThomas]

Because they stupidly believe that making a guy wait for sex makes a difference in whether he'll like them or not. Either that, or they're very manipulative, and they like to use sex to control a man.

[Asker]

That is exactly what I thought! Why would not giving him a blowjob, make him like you more? If he just wants me for sex, I'm not gonna be able to change that by making him wait. He would just leave!

[AdamThomas]

Exactly, or if he's desperate, he'll wait anyway. If I like a girl, when she has sex with me makes no difference. Me and my girlfriend had sex on the second date, we've been together for almost a year, we've moved in together, we're talking about kids etc. I'm with her because she's a great girl, not because she waited the perfect amount of time to have sex with me.

[AdamThomas]

Also, the girls who get "used" for sex and then dumped are usually lacking in personality or they're just bitches. It's the same as guys who get used for money - if money/sex is all you have to offer, of course you're going to get used. I'm not excusing the types of people who do that, but surely it's just common sense. As well, by withholding sex, they make sex the goal - the man then becomes more interested in getting the girl in bed than anything else...The exact thing they try to prevent.

[Cumbelly]

So true

[Anonymous]

I personally wouldn't do it, but I don't care if others do it. But if I were you, I'd still be kind of careful. If you feel like this might become something serious, you have to realize that you can't make it all about sex right off the bat. If you give him everything without getting him to commit, he might not see a reason to do so. But if you're just having fun, then have fun! :)

[Anonymous]

nothing I guess. it just depends what you both want out of it. although, I would advise doing this if you were looking for a real serious relationship with someone. if its just casual sex.. girl do whatever you want. :) the best advice someone gave me was, you do/did what you want/ed at the time because you wanted to.

[Troian]

I don't think there is something wrong with that. With my boyfriend we did foreplay the first night and I loved it, we're still together and honestly...I had one night stand so I obviously did that ^^

Some people will judge us but who cares, we live our life like we want to.

[jmowen]

What other people do on the first date is their business. I'm not going to judge them. I personally would not have any sort of sexual intimacy right away if I wanted a serious, committed relationship. I'm a bit more old-fashion now. I want to get to know her a good bit before any sort of intimacy.

[linds34]

There's nothing wrong with it per se, but if you want more of a relationship the guy may think it's just sex if things start on the first date.

[Ovrsees]

OMG ... You are seriously a girl Id love to meet ! That's hot and I don't care what others say...If you hit it off you hit it off there is nothing wrong with that

[katiesmuff]

Nothing they can be pretty darn good.

[gonyr]

That guy has some balls actually asking for a blowjob in that situation. Major props to him

[Asker]

And he got what he deserves for it. I liked the fact that he was straight forward yet not pushing. We girls kind of know it's on every guy's mind during a date.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Because if you did it with him, you've done it with others. Guys generally want to feel that they are special to you. If you'll blow any guy who drops $20 on movie tickets, it's not really special.

[Asker]

I didn't do it just cause he took me out. I did it cause I wanted to give him something cause I like him.

[Jsonason]

Sounds like you're pretty straight forward and you found someone else that is. Nothing to say but good for you. Who cares what others may think.

[Alexz0]

Nothing is wrong with first date sex or BJs.

[Dandeus]

If you're both cool with it, no harm no foul. But I wouldn't be interested in someone who was willing to suck off a guy she just met a few hours before. It suggests low standards, which in turn suggests the possibility of numerous partners and lax use of protection.

[Dandeus]

Also, an easily won prize is not very rewarding.

[Cumbelly]

Absolutely nothing wrong with it. Know women who sucked my dick and swallowed on the first day and now I suck dick and have a dick in my mouth just as fast if not faster than those girls.

[BayHarborButcher]

I don't see anything wrong with it.

[abc--123]

I personally couldn't wait for the second date with you.

[ThebestIndian]

If you guys both are fine, go ahead.

[Joeshek]

Real men don’t value anything they don’t have to work for. If you want to get used and feel empty, feel free to do whatever. If you want something that might lead to real commitment, act like a lady

[JohnDominik]

I don't know why so many people think that you can raise the chances of a long term relationship by withholding sex for a certain time. If two people fit togehter (aims in life, interests, values), it doesn't matter if you have sex (or a blowjob) on the first date or after the 100th one. Don't ascribe such magic power to sex.

I would've been happy to meet a girl who has such a healthy and normal approach to sex. I would totally go out with her on a second date.

[Anonymous]

I never had a problem with that, we would give blowjobs in high school to keep boys from pressuring us for sex.

[Anonymous]

Strange thing to ask a girl on a first date, it doesn't really show a lot of respect does it, and doing it doesn't show a lot of self respect, which is probably why your on a second date, because he don't respect you and you don't respect you either, so he now knows that he can use you. Don't be surprised if all he wants is what your offering,x

[Anonymous]

There's nothing wrong with it if that's the kind of girl you are. That will show me not to have a second date, and it will show other guys not to take your seriously. But, there's still nothing wrong with it.

[Anonymous]

Lucky guy! You sound like a great girl :) I wish more women were like you, but sadly many have these stupid prudish rules and some won't even kiss on a first date!

[Anonymous]

Nothing's wrong with it if you're OK with never hearing from the guy again unless it's a booty call...

[Anonymous]

First I would never ask a girl for something like that so quick. You hardly know the person. But if the girl brought that up or tried something that sexual with me on a first date, she wouldn't have a second date with me.

[Anonymous]

it sounds that you are desperate... and doesn't have any ethics...

most of the guys don't like to go for long term relationships with such girls...

many think that such girls are good at short term relations...i mean only for sex sort of...the rest is up to you

[Anonymous]

Well why not wait for the second or third date? I would honestly never ask for head on first or evener later dates. He now has the upper hand... Why didn't he ask if he could eat you out? Seems like a bit of a twat to me... I mean it sounds like he's just trying to get over his ex by having a girl go down on him.

But who knows, it could work.

[Anonymous]

my main concern is that that may lead the relationship to be more about sex , or that may make you end up as fwbs , so I focus on the emotional stat first because I don't want to feel someone is being with be because of the prize .

[Anonymous]

A lot. I'd rather have sex on a first date, why should he have all the fun?

[Opinion Owner]

Sorry accidentally hit submit... Secondly he asked, very presumptuous. You'd never have the reverse, a woman asks on a first date for him to give oral sex and that's it... Would never happen. I don't have a hard rule about sex on a first date but if the guy asked/kind of expected it it would be a huge turnoff. If you have a second date ask the guy to do you the same favour and leave it at that, I'm betting he would totally not be OK with it

[Anonymous]

"What is so wrong with a first date blowjob?"

Nothing. But girls are judgmental bitches, so I wouldn't tell another girl about it, if I were you.