What to do if I can only get off with my boyfriend by zoning out?

I think about other things I’ve done in the past like threesomes and yes can make myself cum he’s not really doing it. Sometimes I zone out... this has happened with my past boyfriend as well. How do I stop envisioning...
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  • That's what sex is. You can't just undo what you already did ans chose to do. What you're experiencing what you doing is the consequence of sexual sin. You basically what it says in the word of God. Reaping what one sows. That is a price to pay for the things that you done. Sex is meant to be natural between a man and a woman, husband and wife. When the two join together no one can tear it apart. And the two shall become one flesh. That's marriage, and that is sex. Sex is a marriage and marriage is all about having sex. But because you had made a decision to have these sexual relations outside of marriage with all of these threesomes and your ex boyfriend and whomever you laid up with the first time that's a price. Everybody who had premarital sex always experienced this. Just because I don't always tell you this, that doesn't mean they don't go through it. It's not talked about because it's out of mockery for people. When you go through these hardships society mocks you because of your suffering. Whenever there's a problem in your life, you are always pointed the fingers at. Because Society wants to see you fail. That's another reason why you don't do these things before your marriage.


    You're not getting off anyting. What you did is that you rewire your brain sexually to only respond to how the first person you lost your virginity to headed to you. Unless you have been exposed to pornography, masturbation, or God forbid you been raped in some form of way, what you learned is how to have sex with that person based on what they wanted sexually. It has nothing to do with you per se but who you bonded with sexually. This is what the Bible warns about. This is what God warned us about. When you choose to do these things outside of the one person you're supposed to be with and they are still alive, is considered adultery. When you have those threesomes and you do all the things you do, it's considered whoredoms. And the one that has to live with those decisions is yourself.

    There's only one thing that you can do and you're not going to really like the answer. That is to repent from those sins. And don't sin again. And I'm being very serious. If you choose not to be serious that's something they got to live with the rest of your life basically I'm sorry to say. Because the reality is that's how serious sex is. People playing games with this and they do not understand what they are doing. You're having sex based out of pleasure and want and you have no idea what you're doing. And that's all I can really say on that matter. What you experience and what you're going through as a top reason why I'm glad I'm a virgin and why I never done those things. And while I have experience what I've experienced with the sins of other people, and while I'm going through the things that I went through with others, I can safely say I never done those things. But there are even things in my life that I still at time's is forced think about. And sometimes these things are a reminder for us to never do these things again. Again, it is better to repent in the stop what you doing then it continued and add on more burdens and suffering. Because the more you think you're going to fix it by getting other men you're just adding on more people than you did from the last. Especially if they already had more people than you did. What you're experiencing is why sex isn't just sex. Why it isn't just pleasure, why it isn't just physical. It is serious business. You need a lot of counseling, you need a lot of therapy oh, but the key here is repentance and having a desire to truly change in life and not do those things again. It's going to be at a course where he is not going to want to stay with you again because you already given this man what he wants sexually out of you. But you have to decide what you really want. Because as you see, feel, and is witnessing oh, it is detrimental to your well-being and your life if you don't change and if you don't get help.

    • I can't make you think or feel one way or the other. But I'm only going to tell you the truth and nothing but the truth. Again, as long as you are sexually active, you are not the only person who is sexually active and have multiple partners who went through that. Everybody who is sexually active and who had done this outside of marriage and was different people doesn't matter if it's hookups, relationships, Etc. If you were not married before you have sex and if you're having sex with different people other than whom you first had sex with who should be the only person you should be having sex with unless one of the other half die oh, this is what happens. Sadly they do not teach you this in sex education. Because according to 90% of people is too religious. And yet the one that is suffering the most is yourself oh, the one that has to live and deal with it is sadly yourself, it does not mean you have to carry it by yourself this is where the grace of God comes in. This is where Jesus Christ comes in. But again that's your choice. Things that you struggle with, the things that you are experiencing is all right they're written in the word of God. Everything you have an answer for you can only get it from God. You won't be able to get it from anyone or anywhere else except for those who God may allow you to come in contact with. I believe he will speak to you directly, either he can give you something, or speak to you other ways, or he send somebody to speak to you, or you meet somebody who can tell you. I feel compelled to come back on for a reason oh, but it was somebody else was already replying back to me again. Which I assume is more nonsense on that guy's end. But what I have to tell you is very serious. I say what I say as a believer in Christ and as a child of God, it is not my place to judge you oh, but I say what I say in righteous judgement.

    • I pray for your deliverance I pray that you stopped. And if it's for you to truly be with somebody in that way again it has to be done in God's way and it has to be in godliness and not worldliness in sin. But it is again your choice. I can't live your life just like you cannot live mind. I can't force you to do anything you don't want to do. But I only gave you the answer that you need, it's up to you to accept it and make a decision or do nothing. If it's your time to understand and I pray that you received the understanding. If you can't understand it yet I understand. But if you choose to ignore what is being said, but its choice. just know that the whole world has been deceived by Satan. But God's word is true and is of truth. Just know that what you're experiencing with these men is basically flesh. It's not love. Because when a man truly loves you you would not be having all these partners. You'll just only be with that one man you truly love and you want to love and share that bond with. Sadly that is not the way of this world. Truth is this world does not care about yourself ring. Doesn't care if you live it doesn't care if you die. But God cares. We are all born with sin oh, we're all sinners, and and while all of us make mistakes, thank God there is a God who loves us and wants to redeem us from it. But it is again your choice. You decide. Even if you don't fully understand what is being said to you, it's still your choice to find it answers. Just make sure you're getting it from the right source.

Most Helpful Guys

  • You should talk to a sexual counselor. There's a lot of possibilities going on here, including sabotaging yourself. Or it could be just as simple as "you don't like real sex because it never lives up to your fantasies" ? I strongly suggest talking to an expert and getting their opinion. It couldn't hurt.

  • you expecting better sex but unfortunately not getting enough.

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