What to do if your boyfriend is horny all the time?

Ok so I’ve recently been dating a fella and I’ve noticed very fast his libido is much higher than mine. I don’t want to disappoint him so try to keep his urges under control when I can but I feel like it’s becoming abit annoying. Like he is always in the mood even when I’m not and just want to have a nice wholesome time together.

What can I do?

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  • Oh dear...
    First of all try some aphrodisiacs for yourself.
    Then try some antaphrodisiacs for him.
    Teach him about what works to help turn you on (without having to ask you first, so he can help you get into the same mood as you).
    And honestly, if you two are *way* different in libido consider sharing him (not with just anyone, find a girl you trust to cover some of his needs).
    If you, him and her have have a shared understanding of what is or isn't okay you can get a bit more balance in your relationship.

    • Same mood as him I mean.

    • Another thing might be that because you have a choice in the matter, because you *can* say no it might be a turn off when he is essentially begging you like a submissive begging a Dom. A change in your power dynamic could perhaps help if that's something that you two are into.

Most Helpful Girls

  • This is the exact same issue I had with my boyfriend. The key to solving it is, firstly asking yourself if you actually love each other and want to be with each other... because if not, no problem, you just need to be with someone with less of a sex-drive. If you do want to be with each other, then communication is everything. My b/f needs sex much more than me, so I decided right from the start that I would help him out with hand-jobs at times when I wasn't in the mood, and he agreed (neither of us like BJs). And this has worked fine for 3 years of us living together. We have great sex usually 4/5 times a week, and I give him additional hand-jobs. It's absolutely no problem for me to play with his cock for a few mins, I can even be watching TV, or on the phone or whatever. It's literally a couple of minutes work for my hand. And there are occasions, when he'll just wank himself off. It really is no drama, as long as everyone is adult about it all.

    • good old hand jobs always do the trick in my opinion

    • Thats is awesome from you. On my end they will get mad at me

  • Set clear boundaries about what you want and what's comfortable for you, and don't be afraid to adjust those boundaries with him if anything changes for either of you. Establish hard boundaries and also be clear about what you can compromise on with him when it matters. If he's a mature human being he'll a) want to know this stuff anyway and b) respect it, and if he can't respect it then there are bigger issues in your relationship than his sex drive.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Different options are available to deal with that kind of difference in libido, some of those options still depending on how open you accept your relation to be. Everything depends on the confidence, and how deep the love you have for each other goes.

    - The first logic option is encouraging him to masturbate often, which maybe would make you horny as well... Win-win situation ;0)

    - Letting him have another sex partner from time to time, which may reveal a bit risky on different levels.

    - Still depending on how you accept the idea of threesomes, having a good female friend you like and accept to take over the excess of sex. Also risky of course for different reasons.

    - Depending on the guy's taste, a silicone sexdoll may reveal helpful and lead to amusing fun together.

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  • Your boyfriend been horny all the time is not your problem, your not in a relationship to solve his sex drive problems. What you need is find a happy ground for both of you to be happy, in how much sex should be performed on a weekly or monthly basis.

  • i think this is the classic case where you just have to give him more blowjobs which is a lot easier than having intercourse all the time... at least you can keep your dress on and give them.

  • let him fk me thats what i done with my ex just let him fk me if he's horny i could never say no to him he's to good so if he wants to do let him fk me

  • Fortunately he has to work and sleep at some point!

  • Well my man has porn so..

  • Encourage him to masturbate more... maybe buy him some male sex toys like a fleshlight?

  • Need to keep him satisfied if you don't want him to cheat or leave, it not so hard to do that.

    https://allthetropes.org/wiki/I%27m_a_Man,_I_Can%27t_Help_It

  • One woman I used to serve would occasionally make me go to her boyfriend's house and service him whenever she didn't feel like having sex.

  • I am always happy to share his libido with my friends :)

    • How?

  • Sexual compatibility is very important in a relationship. If you find there is a big gap in sexual interests, it may indicate that this is not a good relationship for either of you.

  • get him a PS5

  • Handjob or blowjob or both

  • Talk to him about how often he wants sex
    Of course can expect you to have it when you are not in mood
    Sex is never good if both are in full mood...
    So decide a specific interval which is good for both..

  • If you're not in the mood for intercourse, you can take care of him with a HJ or BJ. Or, if you don't feel like doing that, tell him you want to watch him jerk off... and enhance his experience by talking dirty to him while he's stroking.

  • What you dont do another woman will 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @foreversingle28 logic!

  • tell him to take a cold shower.
    He might be at that age where his hormones have taken over and it is time to go make some babies.
    Kind of nature's way of telling him to go get laid.
    Or you just might be that awesome in bed and he just can't get enough, or a mix of both.
    Kind of like a dog trying to hump your leg all the time when you just want to relax.

  • U r luckt to hav a boyfriend like tht honey... just hav sex all the times n if thts too much just give him blowjobs

  • Satisfy him always

    • @alena_543 thats a girl.

  • Don't be forced into doing anything if you are not in the mood, or your relationship will turn toxic very quickly.

  • Why am I not surprised you have this kind of problem. xD

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