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11 mo

What to do if your partner has a porn addiction?

As many of you all know, me and my partner have been together a long time now. 5 years next year to be exact!

Anyways he used to wank to porn, video games, literally anything to do with sex. Multiple times a day the 1st year of out relationship. He finally admitted he had a problem in early 2020 the covid hit, so I guess that meant he couldn't get help? 😒

So nothing happened, obviously lol. We have continued this please stop this, you need to get help for 2 years now. It will be 3 years in a few months, wow 🥴

He actually said to me it increases his serotonin levels. Like mate it is fucking around with my head and making me hate myself more and my eating disorder and my body dismoprah worse but okay whatever you say 😂

He says he will stop, he is sorry etc. Then I go onto his laptop (which I know I shouldn't do either) and the cycle continues. His internet addiction is a tell-tale sign of porn or video games addiction in men. Does he spend several hours in front of his laptop of phone screen? Yes he does. He becomes very restless when the internet is down or he doesn't have WiFi access.

He was previously very social but now prefers staying at home. He used to enjoy meeting his friends or spending time with his relatives over the weekend and has slowly stopped going out and socializing, it is another red flag to look out for. He doesn't enjoy taking me out for lunch or dinner anymore and prefers to be left alone all the time. This is another reason why I think my eating disorder came back and my anxiety got worse.

I am at a brick wall. You may suggest couples therapy but he doesn't wanna do that. Not having sex hasn't worked and made it worse. He won't go to the doctor. He won't get help. You might say leave him but I love him. Please tell me you're opinion on this down below 👇
What to do if your partner has a porn addiction?
Updates:
11 mo
He doesn't masturbe he says he watches it because he is bored, sorry forgot to say that before lol. Plus thanks for all the help and opinions ❤️
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I will tell you about porn addicts, I am one of them.. I became like this because I do not have a girlfriend and my religion does not allow me to do this... But no matter who is addicted to watching porn, he prefers to connect with a real body and bond with it. That's a lot more fun than masturbating alone. Here I understand that the problem is that he does not find enough fun with you. Ask him, exchange ideas, change the usual movements and places, make it more fun, communicate with each other frankly about your sexual preferences,, finally if your problem with him is premature ejaculation or premature ejaculation. I advise you to buy a sexual drug and put a little on his penis after an erection and so it will take longer in the relationship to ejaculate.. good luck

    • He doesn't masturbe he says he watches it because he is bored

    • Don't believe it every guy who watches porn masturbates because it's not good to watch porn when you're cold and your penis isn't erect.. I'm talking to you From experience.. you say what he said to u...

    • Explain please

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  • If it's a psychological addiction he can't help it. Literally. He's probably masturbating without even realising it. That's where the serotonin levels come in.

    First: it has nothing to do with you, or how attractive you are. Addiction is borne out of something that unless you caused you probably can't cure.

    Second: serotonin is why crack cocaine is addictive. It's not the cocaine itself, it's the high from the serotonin people who are addicted to cocaine crave. Your boyfriend chases it through porn.

    Ask him to join AA. And don't kid yourself.

    • I understand that and there is AA for porn?

    • Addicts Anonymous covers any addiction, regardless of what it is

    • Okay thanks

Most Helpful Girls

  • Offer to have more sex with him more often and if he is bored and wanting to watch it, have sex then instead. Of course that means being by him and him not being alone.

    See if there is any other hobbies he could get into, that he can do when he is bored instead.

    If he would rather watch porn than have sex with you, that would be the time to move on to someone else.

    • He only watches it when I am out or in a bath. He doesn't wanna have sex more. He called me a courger for wanting to have sex twice in a week. Can't move on I lobe him to much

    • Twice in a week, oh my... that's a slow day for me.

    • I had a high sex drive before my meds. He would call me a whore, a slut, a curger etc. He was actually happy when I went on my anti depression meds because he said he could have some quiet now @Aerissa_Jade

  • -The time they feel that urge replace it with a diff hobby
    -see a sex therapist
    -restrict sites

    • He likes bb shooting but we have no ranges locally and we don't drive. He won't see a therapist and rrescting sites dint work. He will just fix it

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  • All guys has to masturbate. He is lying to you.

    He is not comfortable and needs help.

    Do you want to continue to suffer and feel bad about yourself?

    What do you want to do?

    • Be happy obviously lol

    • I have requested to follow you so we can dm :)

  • They have specific therapy for exactly that. It’s made people incredibly rich too.

    • Yeah he doesn't wanna do therapy but thanks anyways

  • We've talked. You latch onto what you want to hear and ignore what makes you uncomfortable. You and he are a poorly matched couple. You hold on because you think you'll never find anyone else.

    Get help. You're in a toxic relationship. You're articulate and intelligent. Guys like that. If you can't leave him then be happy with what you have. It isn't perfect, but it's something.

    • I know and thanks :)

  • There must be something going on or not going on in real life that makes him seek solutions elsewhere. Since he is committed to the relationship and not seeking the company of another woman, that at least says something for his character. As for what to do about it, the therapist that develops a successful cheap and easily delivered treatment answer to that question will be an overnight billionaire.

    • Thank you

  • I do not know whether it will work or not, but after everyone's opinion post, I am giving this opinion. If he doesn't even want to have sex with you and watch empty porn, then you also watch porn with him Or do one thing, you ignore him and you also watch porn all day, make him feel that if someone ignores you, how does it feel? And if it doesn't work, then as you said, he does not masturbate, then you also watched porn with him and give him a handjob and get his cum out. And try to make her pay attention to you instead of making him realize on porn that real sex is more fun.

    If I was in his place, I would not watch porn, but give extreme pleasure to my wife or girlfriend, whatever it is and take care of her

  • You’ve probably heard from everyone on this. I’ve battled this to some degree like most every male on the planet. I know you have and will try everything possible. He’s the only one that can stop it at the end of the day. I have an alcoholic sister-in-law and this is very similar in many aspects. He has to want to give it up and want the help otherwise he will continue and it will consume him. If I can help I’m here for you darlin.

    • Thanks :)

  • fuck it out of them do it every way you can think so you are better that the porn

    • He doesn't like when I ask or start sex first

  • It really isn't his fault they pushed us all into this internet world when none of it is normal and people are gonna react differently to it and there will be addictions that come with it. All I can say is get him to unplug from online but that is easier said than done.

    • He doesn't masturbe he says he watches it because he is bored

    • That is not true lol

    • Yay then :/

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  • I mean as a man most of us are gonna watch porn in a realationship or not. As you can see the porn industry is Alive & well due to the high volume of men who watch & pay for it. Even when it's free. Which is way more then woman.

    I don't know about jacking off to everything I see that's has to do with sex that's pretty strange and reminds me of when I was 11 and just found out about jacking off. Maybe soon he will just get bored of it and stop watching it so much.

    • Thanks :)

  • Nothing you can do as with any addiction. It’s an addiction as powerful as crack or meth. All you can do is leave and maybe you leaving will make them hit bottom so they change

    • Thanks

    • This is the thing with any addiction. You can’t “help” them. It’s just enabling if you do. All you can do is make it as hard on them as you can. That means no girlfriend, no couch to crash on, no food etc so they hit bottom. Anything you do that you think is compassionate “help” prolongs their addiction

    • True and thanks again :)

  • You don't need couple therapy. He has an addiction that actually interferes with his life. And if he's not ready to admit it, then you should dump him. Watching porn is fine as long as it doesn't interfere with your life or with your relationship

    • Thamka

    • * thanks

  • sounds like you are unhappy and he's not willing to change. Might be time to go?

    • Can't just leave

    • ok. Well good luck either way :)

    • I get that and thank you helping it is just hard

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  • You are just bad in bed🤷

    • A sub can be bad in bed? 😂

    • yeah u dont move, so u can't blame ur boyfriend for watching porn, at least he hasn't left you yet. If I was him i be long gone

    • Fucking wow 😂 @bzcxx

  • Its not an addiction to the actual porn its an addiction to the rush in the brain. So replace that rush.

    • How?

  • Enjoy it with him and have fun together

    • He doesn't masturbe he says he watches it because he is bored

    • I'm not telling you to masturbate with him you can watch together and have mind blowing sex afterwards

    • No he doesn't like doing that either. Tried it before

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  • watch it with them

    • He doesn't masturbe he says he watches it because he is bored

  • Tell him to get help or your done, and be a woman of your word.

    • He doesn't listen

    • Then it’s time for you to think about moving on.

    • Easier sais then done

  • Dump him. I have been through this and they never change.

    • I get that but I want that to be the last option

  • You should try different things with him , like foreplay what he enjoys, you can see his porn search what types he like.. maybe he enjoys some different fun which you can't do with him

    • I am a very open person when it comes to sex. He varies what he likes. It has destroyed my body image and self esteem

    • A healthy/respectful relationship should help you feel good/happy. This is not a good sign.

  • https://theawarenesscentre.com/addicted-to-porn/

    Read this article. Hope it helps.

    • Thanks

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