What to do when you're both bored of sex?

I have a best friend of 10 years and we are both friends with benefits. We do have sex with other people and no in the 5 years of having sex with each other neither of us have caught an STD. We're very adventurous. As in he's fucked me and I've fucked him (pegged). But lately we've been bored with sex and not sure how to spice it up. I get it can happen but I just want to know how to spice it up.
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  • When I'm in a relationship and I have sex I never ever try to have sex the same way twice I am very kinky and I want to do that show her that by touch and everything that I do to her there's no possible way in this world that you would get tired of it there are so many things you can do that are unreal beautiful sexy hot it makes me feel things deep and make you just have the best orgasms ever but you have to take your mind there you have to experiencing Explorer in the fantasies but it takes both of you

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  • Mutual masturbation is a great way to spice things up. There are two ways to do it:
    1. Lie or sit side by side and masturbate yourself while watching your partner.
    2. Lie or sit close together, legs intertwined, and masturbate your partner.
    Either way, spice things up by talking dirty to each other.

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    • I wouldn't call us swingers lol. We aren't married and do have other sexual partners. We're just besties

    • I didn't know you had to be married to be swingers. If you're in some type of relationship with your friend, and you still have sex with other people, I think you just might fit into the swinger category. I realize the many people despise the term "swinger" and many are now calling it poly (which is wrong) and some are calling it "ethical non-monogamy" which I think is right. No matter how you slice it, sex gets boring with the same partner. I would suggest you bring in a third to the bedroom, or maybe go to a club to be seen by others.

    • The definition of swingers are married people who have sex with other people. Me and my best friend are swingers or poly because we aren't in any type of relationship. We are both pansexual, aromatic. Basically we are sexually attracted to people regardless of their gender identity but we aren't romantically attracted to anyone. My love for people is platonic only. We are just friends who bang. Not married. Not boyfriend or girlfriend. Just banging with my buddy lmao

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  • Take a break and find another friends with benefits what's the point if the sex isn't fun any more?

  • With summer here try a lot more outdoor sex. Try some different positions or go for round 2 or 3.. Have you considered a 3some? How often do you two get together for sex?

    • It depends. Sometimes we go weeks without fucking each other and just hang out. Other times uts sex everyday for 2 months straight lol. We though about role play

  • It's great sometimes to randomise online porn, then carry out what you see with your partner. Never knowing what you'll see next.
    That's a lot of fun.

  • I do not know because I am not there yet.

  • If you're bored then you're doing it wrong.
    Boredom also suggests lack of creativity and intellectual laziness.
    Focus on... giving as much pleasure rather than getting as much pleasure out of it.
    Watch what happens.
    I hope you find what you need.

  • Sex toys, if you two agree, some kink. Also maybe some more things in the foreplay

  • New partners

  • You are formicating, it is like eating lobster every day, you get sick of it. If there was love, things might be different. Each time would be special because of the love.

    • We are both pansexual aromatic. We are sexually attracted to people regardless of their gender identity but don't feel romantic attraction for people. I love him but it's all platonic. I guess we are kind of opposite if asexual lol.

  • Depends on what you're both willing to do. There are lots of more extreme ways to have sex.

    • I mean we've never really talked about going more extreme. We've had the same kind of sex for 5 years and neither one of us has ever brought it up with the other

    • Then maybe you should. There's lots of ways to experiment with d/s even in pure sexual relationships. If that doesn't tickle you you may want to explore a bit of sm or maybe invite some of the other people you sleep with to a party with the intention of it becoming an orgy.

  • Aside from the Pegging Incident which I don't completely understand lol. I would suggest experimenting with different types of sexual activity.

  • This has never happened to me

  • different locations...

  • time to change the partner.

    • I don't want to change partners. I mean I have multiple sex partners but I still want to continue having sex with my best friend

  • Try oral

  • Um maybe trying some new poses or toys or having long foreplay 👀