What was it like for you to lose your virginity?

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I feel like I'm making too much of a fuss about it sometimes but then my hormones won't let me stop thinking about it. I'm just 18 and I don't even have the confidence to talk to girls and I feel like of bad when my friends talk about their sex life.
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  • It was great. I was 16, she was 15. We had started dating in December of my junior year of high school. We really liked each other and I had known her for a while.

    We would fool around and I saw her topless once, but generally when you are in high school, you don't get much privacy, so nothing really happened. She lived on a lake and that July 4th her family - as they did every year - threw a party.

    There was a BBQ, volley ball, etc. By evening, you would take boats out to the middle of the lake and watch the fireworks. She took their family's boat and we went out just the two of us. (It was one of those big pontoon boats.)

    After the fireworks, everyone else took their boats back to shore for a bonfire but we yelled out that we were going to stay out for a bit and stargaze. Well...

    We started kissing, one thing led to another, she actually said "let's have sex" first - and when you are a 16 year old guy, that is waving the red flag in front of the bull. Done and done.

    We were lucky. We had a ton of privacy and so, while we had heard that first time sex was generally not great, we were relaxed and, honestly, it was great.

    For a week, I was sure of three things. 1) I was in love. 2) This was the girl I was going to marry, have babies with, the house with the white picket fence, the whole nine yards, and 3) I was a man!!

    Then it hit me. "What if I got her pregnant?"

    All of a sudden I was imagining having to tell my parents and her's. I was seeing college go down the drain. It stressed our relationship and she was worrying and every other day I was, "Have you had your period, yet?" She got really tired of that question!!

    We got lucky and beat the odds. She was not pregnant. We actually continued to date - and have sex (with condoms) - till the middle of my sophomore year in college and we went to each other's senior prom, homecoming, all that high school and college stuff.

    In retrospect, I look back on it fondly. However, for a while there, the stress was off the charts. That was one hell of a few weeks.

    • wow, That's the kind of story you hear often from old people. Living the American dream

    • Well, I'm not sure if I qualify as old, but I'll take that as a compliment. I have been living with my current girlfriend for the last ten years and we have three children together. I could not be happier, but I do look back on that "first girl" fondly.

    • ^^ I was thinking the same thing. by the way if you don't mind me asking how did you two break up then? Why didn't you stay together? I loved your story, like out of a romance novel :)

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  • Very unremarkable. I was wasted when it happened. The third time was the best.

    • Why is that?

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  • It happened unexpectedly. I'd just turned 18, went to my first eve cocktail party at a university and got really drunk. At some point in the night a guy I was dancing with grabbed me by the wrist, dragged me out, fingered me on the grass, then took me back to his dorm. I don't think it clicked what was happening until we were already in bed. It was awkward, hazy. He put me on top. It felt like it took about 40 minutes of trying before we popped my cherry. I remember some blood on the sheets. I did a walk of shame back to my own room the next morning bowlegged because my downstairs area felt really bruised and sore, and apparently it was the topic of conversation for the day as I had multiple people come up to me and ask me about it. I have no idea how people knew. I ended up getting a boyfriend 3 months later and had sex again - and it hurt probably the next couple of times before it didn't hurt anymore. Oh, also, if your hymen is intact and breaks during sex, sometimes it'll hang. Mine hung like a weird visceral string across my vaginal opening. I realised about a week later when I got home from my holiday and was feeling myself in the bath. It's gross, but I pinched it and couldn't feel pain so I trimmed it off with scissors.

    • Could you follow my account I was trying to pm you?

    • @Virus_and_error sorry I'm not sure how you private message people - I've only had an account for about 2 days. I've followed you.

    • Thanks. I'll tell you. I've pm you.

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  • It was fine. I lost it to my boyfriend at the time so I don’t regret it or anything. I didn’t feel any different or anything afterwards except for feeling closer to him.

    • For how long had you been with him?

    • I was with him three months before we slept together. We together 5 months altogether.

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  • It was a really good experience- I lost it with my girlfriend. Made me want to have sex a lot.

    • 'same

  • Wet and squishy. I enjoyed it but it wasn't exactly good sex it was just novel.

  • Very painful.

    • and now?

  • Nothing special. Had sex, never saw her again. Had wet socks, and a lengthy drive ahead of me. Car smelled of fish. Sketchy rating: 5/10.

  • It was OK I guess.

  • I regret it losing it with someone who didn't deserve it

  • I'm a guy, which means I never had it or lost it. Only girls are virgins. Guys just have a first time.

  • You will gain confidence with experience. I was almost 20 when I had sex for the first time. My girlfriend was also a virgin. It was over very quickly as first times for guys usually are. I recommend checking out myfirsttime. com. it is a site where people post stories of their first times. Some of the stories are obviously made up but there are enough real stories to give you some idea of what it is like.

  • Felt nothing. Its basically nothing. Its all in your head. Nothing changes.

  • It was alright. I don't think it was anything special though.

    • same

  • Never happend. Kind of hopes first time was anal