What would be a right time to tell girlfriend about my extreme and bizarre fetishes?

[Anonymous]

[Xoxocutekitty]

Like do you need it a certain way everytime, or like can you make do a couple weeks in between because some sex is better than no sex and unless you find someone else who is also into it, it's probably one of those things she's does 'for the relationship?

If it's really bizarre or you need it every time or week, bring it up before sex.

No one likes to be 'blind-sided' sexually, even woman. If she failed to mention she was only into pegging, wouldn't you you want to know before she starts prodding your ass? (Unless that's your kink, then by all means).

[Asker]

I am into sex as well as my kinks. However, I'd like to entertain my fetish at least once a week. Do you think 3rd date is a good time? or Should I just inform her about it just before having first Sex

[Xoxocutekitty]

I would tell her after you've had your first kiss, which in theory establishes baseline attraction but before clothes are being taken off. The last thing either of you want is to feel humiliated while one of you thinks sex is on the line. If she's cool to trying it once, she will say so. If she's not, you've avoided a messy situation. I don't give a shit about # of dates if you haven't established she's attracted to you.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Ideally, you would start the conversation by understanding what she is interested and might want to try. While women may not be as forward with type scripted fantasies, you can sort of guess based on stuff she thinks is 'hot' or how crazy her sexual past has been, or what her bucket list is. If she's firm on vanilla only and thinks anything else is gross, you my friend should move on because it will forever be an uphill battle.

[Asker]

So, it should be talked about after we've have a kiss and not afraid to talk about our sexual histories etc?

[Xoxocutekitty]

Yes.

[Kaneki05]

I mean sooner than later if you really want it. If it's things your not really bothered about doing just you find it hot then that can be kinda left to whenever.

[Asker]

Is first date appropriate time?

[Kaneki05]

If it's going well then yeah I would say so. Just say your into somethings and don't want to drag it along if we aren't compatible in that sense.

[Asker]

you mean admitting I have a fetish without telling any further details?

[Kaneki05]

Nah just say what it is after saying what I said. There is no point dating someone multiple times just to find out it won't work anyway.

[summiter]

Are you two having sex yet? How long have you been going out together?

[mandyfire98]

Right out of the gate

[Asker]

Like firt date?

[mandyfire98]

Well in the talking stage whenever sex is brought up that's probably when. Don't blindside anyone with any extreme fetish.

[AviatorTom]

Preferably before you try any of them out on her

[magiusX26]

well before you ever try to impliment any of them with her

[_Just_A_girl_]

Right away

[Asker]

Wouldn't it be awkward if I tell her right in the first meeting

[Havthrills]

Probably before you do them. Like, now

[Asker]

is 3rd date good for such conversation?

[Havthrills]

Honestly, I don't know about dates. The relationships I have been in just started. One was I met her at her car and had sex. Just let her know asap

[maximumpower]

When she's securely hog-tied, gagged, and can't possibly escape.
How else are you going to make sure she complies?

[TonightYouu]

Like maybe after a month of dating or after having sex for a 3rd time

whichever comes first

[Charliefretz329]

First couple weeks\months at least. Depends on how into sex you 2 are. Once it gets sexual it should be disclosed

[CubaPirate]

ASAP is probably for the best

[Asker]

like in first date?

[CubaPirate]

Yep honestly is the best policy

[Asker]

Wouldn't it be too much for her to handle?

[CubaPirate]

Depends what it is tbh

[billluc69]

sooner

[Asker]

than what

[Anonymous]

The day after she dies