What would be considered vanilla sex?

I've always considered myself a vanilla sex person and I'm perfectly ok with it but I started to wonder what really is considered vanilla sex? I know I'm not into anything that involves slapping, pulling hair and tying up, etc.

But what is considered vanilla?
Are moves like giving oral sex and doggy style basically vanilla?
Is a woman initiating sex considered vanilla?
Or for some is just laying still and not actively participating while letting the other person do everything vanilla?
What would be considered vanilla sex?
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  • I think, if we use your analogy of ice cream, then Vanilla Sex is plain sex, doesn't matter the "brands", like Missionary, Doggy or Spoon. :-)

    But usually, with Vanilla Ice Cream, we add chocolate chips or strawberry syrup, but to flavor up a little. So we add Oral, Anal, even Toys to the "plain sex", just to increase the flavors.

    But Vanilla ice cream is definitely NOT Chocolate Flavor, or Strawberry Flavor. So we rule out obvious ones like BDSM, Aerobic sex (careful... or you may go hospital type), even threesome, gay, etc.

    So in my opinion, vanilla by nature is plain old PIV intercourse (inclusive of side + rear entries), with usual add-ons like oral and a common toy (if desired like a vibrator). That's all. Beyond that is not vanilla.

  • That sounds pretty vanilla but that's not always bad. It's when you and your partner can't get any excitement out of what your doing but you not willing to change or try anything new when it's really bad but enough about my ex-wife.

    • Yes I think you are right. As long as both partners still feel an excitement and attraction toward sex and really look forward to it then it's fine.

    • I meant still feel an attraction and excitement toward each other and want sex with each other.

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  • Everything is vanilla except kinks basically. The most vanilla is missionary vaginal. Then it branches out to other positions. I don’t consider anal and rimming to be vanilla but it can be argued that vanilla refers to the attitude rather than the acts. So if there’s no bdsm involved then it’s basically vanilla.

    • I don't feel vanilla by attitude but more by acts I think.

    • Yeah that makes sense. I consider missionary doggy and oral all vanilla. But any position can be vanilla imho

    • I'm probably just vanilla through and through I guess.

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  • Plain ordinary sex. Same thing day in and day out. Where nothing changes. Sex just stays the same. That's vanilla sex.

    • Does penis size matter if you love a guy

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  • There is different levels, not being into BDSM is vanilla, disliking oral is even more conservative, and yes there is a connection between vanilla sex to how much conservative you are.

  • Vanilla is going through the motions or routine. If you aren't getting really excited or adventurous then it is vanilla.

    • I don't know how people could be that way.

    • How people can be vanilla or how they can not be vanilla?

    • I don't know. I think it partially depends on what people think is out there. I've had women tell me they'd never do oral sex or they don't like that but to me that is basic vanilla.

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  • Laying still is not vanilla sex - it's necrophilia.

    • well I think they call dead fish or something like that. The other is a bit creepy

    • It's all the same.

    • I would think if a woman was just laying there it would weird out a man like he's taking advantage even though he's not

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  • Can you make it dip?

  • Not sure i never had it.

  • To me, vanilla sex is just intercourse and not much else and usually just in the missionary position.

    • Ah that would be extremely vanilla.