What would you do if you found out that your husband had a mistress?

I wouldn't be angry with my husband. I would probably think she was seducing my husband. what do you think?
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  • You're either a man with a pink account (in which case, shame on you) or, and I say this gently: Girl, you need help and there is no shame in that, no matter what you may have been told. If this isn't a hypothetical question, you need to talk to a licensed therapist as soon as possible. They will give you space to process and you will learn skills for dealing with people in healthy ways. If you are embarrassed about possible divorce now, visualize being 50 years old and dumped by your husband for the cute little 20-something who likes money. You'll have nothing, plus the shame of not having stood up and said no when you had a chance to change the trajectory. I am not a man-hater and I support marriage whole-heartedly, but infidelity is a violation of you and it's not OK.

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  • Why blame the woman and assume she “seduced” him?

    He's the one is a committed relationship with you, not her. If you cheated would you blame the other man and not take responsibility as well?
    Anyways, yes I’d be upset. That’s the one thing I won’t tolerate, so divorce.

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  • If you excuse your husband and blame her, you are heavily in denial!

    What would you do if you found out that your husband had a mistress?
  • It takes two, baby. No one can steal someone's partner.

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  • I think you have SERIOUS self-esteem issues.

  • during our relationship? It means break up and divorce.

    even if she seduced him, he still had his own brain and could say "no"

    sayonara looser

  • I'd be cross that he lied but would want him to include me. I could join in or at least watch

  • Why wouldn't you blame your husband? If he cheated, it's worse on his part than hers (though she's a hoe too if she knew). He was the one that made a commitment to you, and is exposing you to the risk of some nasty std

    • Just goes to show how little someone cares about their partner if they cheat on them

  • I couldn't even comprehend doing that to my wife. Why would I want to break her heart like that?

  • divorce immediately or if it would be a bad move for whatever reasons to divorce at the time also get a side lover. eye for eye tooth for tooth

  • I think my then-wife and current SO would be extremely disappointed, then angry, at me, if I ever cheated... which I've never done.

  • That you're an idiot if you only blame the chick. He's part of the issue to 😒

  • I would find a hot guy to cheat on him with.

    • @sheikalana revenge is never a good option…

  • divorce.

    • Smart girl! Never settle for less than your worth

    • @Bklynbadboy12 indeed cheating would be the end of it

    • Deal breaker huh

  • It takes two people to cheat, my dear. Your husband and the woman would be equally at fault. Therefore, I’d re-evaluate that point of view, if I were you.


    Anyway, I’d be upset with both of them.

    • Also, consider this. What if your husband initiated the affair with no seduction from the other woman? What if he liked the woman all along and decided to go for it? We REALLY need to stop shaming the woman and labeling her the “home wrecker” and looking at the man as the poor, innocent victim of seduction. Also, it doesn’t matter how much he claims to love you, respect you, etc. Please know that people are really good at leading double lives.

  • That is an ignorant perspective. If the only thing stopping someone from cheating is opportunity then they are already a cheater

  • If a married man feels the need to get some side action, it means his wife at home isn't doing her job. She should consider it an opportunity to improve herself.

  • You are right, I support you

  • It takes two hands to clap. Cheating is a choice that your husband makes irrespective of how seductive that girl is.

  • Can I be your husband?

  • I think you’re a catfish.