What would you do if you found out that your kid was not straight?

[MrJMM]

I'm asking because I have seen a lot of comments on this social platform that they would not either kick them out or hate them. But I'm asking because I want to see if the results are going to be repeated.

[midnightmoon05]

I had that scenario last year. My daughter was 13... she got confused... because she saw a music video of two women kissing...
however since she was around 10... she can’t stop talking about how much she likes this boy or that boy. She has always been boy crazy... well.. I set her straight to focus on her core value and not let social media or peer pressure confuse herself. so it all depends. Children need to be guided and help them find their way.

[MrJMM]

I understand that. I understand but if this continued like into her adult life or teenage life would you accept her?

[midnightmoon05]

I didn’t do a good job to guide her to become the woman she needs to be. If she was borned with some kind of gene defect... okay, I will accept her.

[Fion3il]

a defect is to imply it is worse or incomplete or even inadequate, these are simply not true with being gay so its not a defect. Besides its not like you did a bad job guiding her, she was just lesbian and she doesn't need to be straight

[midnightmoon05]

@Fion3il I am a little confused with your points. I can only speak for my own situation and do what I can as a mom who knows her best. When we know our child from the heart, we can support them. As I shared, if she was burned with certain defeat of brain developments or hormonal diff. (I have seen “girls” like that when I visited my sisters all girl school) ... those are lesbians. If that’s my daughter, I am okay.

[midnightmoon05]

However, I refuse to not take responsibility to be there for her when she is still in the process of forming her identity. And refuse to let social media or social pressure to confuse a young child.

[lightbulb27]

my girlfriend had this issue with her child. Kids today are thrown so much crap and they are trying to sort it out. Am I LGBTZYCFE? "Maybe I'm something else?" Am I bi... seriously... kids have to face this at 12-13yrs, idiot gay/lesbian/libtards have taken over... I can only hope Elon Musk build a rocket ship and sends most to explore a far planet. Who screwed this generation... and why? anyway...

Didn't take much to straighten out that kid. Granted, not the case for every kid nor does every kid have such a good and attentive parent. Man... the work it takes to raise a child today, i feel for so many kids who don't have 2 good parents. They are thrown to the wolves without.

Failure to engage and clarify that kid at that time, she could have drifted into all sorts bad ways that screwed her whole life to pieces... just like so many kids on gag. if people only knew how this society is warping the hell out of them... hell being the correct term.

[Fion3il]

so you are saying that society is making kids gay and that you have to straighten them out

[lightbulb27]

@Fion3il It is influencing. She could have explored "bi", tried kissing girls and who knows where that lead. She was helped back to "traditional values" and accepted it. Kids brains are not developed to handle everything, they need help sometimes. Too many ideas. I never heard the word "bi" in my generation. Some people may be "gay" or whatever due to whatever reasons... hormonal, genetic. emotional development, etc.. Gay has been around long time... but how much of it was a parenting issue? Genetics+Personality +hormones + emotions = most of the human behavior.

[onahole-san]

"I never heard the word "bi" in my generation." I think this sums up your argument fairly accurately. Resistant to change. You never heard those things because your generation is the one that maintained the societal norm at that time, that it was taboo. Nowadays, boomers have significantly less influence. Thier hyper-puritan, and oftentimes religious zealot values have eroded along with the spread of information. That's why we are seeing this change.

[lightbulb27]

@onahole-san fair enough and I'm not opposed to someone being bi if that's who they are, I don't care, it's their life. But it's not ok to for people to project bad ideas onto others... but that is what happens. If you let children to their own devices they will eat cheetos and ice cream and the house will be a mess as well. Some will follow others bad ideas. It's ok for some minority who are bi, the problem is projecting it around like it is "normal" and good. What it is is corruption of the emotions for many. Children should not be so sexually confused in school, but it's a common problem now because "everything is ok".

[Fion3il]

It is normal and it is good and its not a bad idea. People like who they like why is that bad or not normal its the most normal thing out there

[lightbulb27]

@Fion3il my experience is they don't know and are being given impressions from someone else, that they may start to explore. not everyone is confident who or what they like and draw from others. kids are being exposed to so much more, at a young age, with all sorts of impositions they aren't ready for nor understand. Once go down a path, can cause all sorts issues. all tht is influenced by hormones, probably internal generated and externally input from environment. That makes up a good portion of what we "think" and "feel".

[BeenThereLovedIt]

I think that older generations believe that if their child isn't like them, then they are contemptible and don't deserve love or attention. Gayness or any trans child would simply be abhorrent and intolerable to them.

Me, I wouldn't care. I have plenty of millenial and genz relatives who are openly bi or gay. They are still the same people I've known throughout my life, and they aren't harming anyone, so who cares?

[MrJMM]

Well said.

[hhadeshatesme]

Love them the same way I would if they were straight. The possibility of your child being gay should be a consideration when you start to try to conceive. Not saying you have to wrap your child in a pride flag as soon as they pop out the womb but if you’re 100% not open minded to the off chance your child might end up gay then you should reconsider having kids. There would be less shitty parents disowning their kids just cause they are attracted to the same sex.

[MrJMM]

Well said. Congrats you have my respect.

[Bricealan]

My brother is gay and I love him the same

[Account]

There would be no difference to me. I would embrace them just the same.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

My kids are my kids and I love them, support them regardless of what their sexual orientation is💯

[DizzyDesii]

Try to talk them out of this trend/phase. If theyre serious about it, tell em i dont respect it but that i’ll love them regardless. However, if they wanna date the same sex or dress as the opposite gender then they can do that once they've moved out and gone off to college

[loves2learn]

Accept them and love them. I love my children for who they are and I support them 100%. I want them to be happy.

[wakeupchy]

i gave birth to that kid whether i agree or disagree i would love him or her the sameway. but personally i wouldn't care as long as they are with a good person who treats them in a healthy relationship well, i dont care what gender they bring home

[ChrisMaster69]

Just not a problem, they are the same person as just before they told me.

I grew up with a sister that came out to me and close friends at 14 and parents at 16.

most of my friends are bi, gay, Lesbian or trans.

it would be like yeah okay, mainly as it would be announced in a fairly casual way,

[MCheetah]

Off myself for failing as a parent and failing my child. (Jkg 😄)

[hahahmm]

They will only dress & behave as a straight person in my home. If they don't like it they can go find another family to adopt them. Given that the actual percentage of homosexuals & lesbians is small it's very likely that the kid is actually confused and looking to experiment. I don't run experiments in my house.

[Chriscunning]

I got my own kinks to deal with. If my boy/girl wants to date the same kids, well, let them be.

[igaveyouanickname]

Gotta let them be who they are and who they want to be. Support, don't judge or criticize.

[Dnc873]

I'm not gonna lie if I had a son that told me he was gay it would fuck me up, I wouldn't make them feel bad about it but I can't say I wouldn't be crushed behind closed doors

[Ms_Vanderquack]

I'd be confused how they survived the abortion and concerned that they somehow tracked me down.

[MrJMM]

I'm sorry what?

[Ms_Vanderquack]

What part of that did you not understand?

[MrJMM]

What that has to do with the question.

[Ms_Vanderquack]

Everything.

[MrJMM]

So basically you hate the kid either way because they didn't survive your abortion.

[Ms_Vanderquack]

What? No, I would have the kid either way just for existing. That's why I would abort the damn thing. And why I would be confused that it survived.

[MrJMM]

Ok question are you homophobic?

[Ms_Vanderquack]

The last girl I dated was a lesbian.

[MrJMM]

So wouldn’t you accept your child isn’t straight?

[Ms_Vanderquack]

I wouldn't have a child at all, that's the point you appear to be missing.

[MrJMM]

But you said you would have a kid.

[Ms_Vanderquack]

Lol, when?

[MrJMM]

Your third comment on this. You wrote “What? no, I would have the kid either way just for existing.”

[Ms_Vanderquack]

Typo, meant to be "I would hate the kid either way..."

[RACSKC0B]

You're ABSOLUTELY the worst person on here.

[RACSKC0B]

I love you.

[MrJMM]

@RACSKC0B Um... are you talking about how ms_vanderquackuack is the worst person on here?

[Ms_Vanderquack]

@RACSKC0B I love me too.

[MysteriousDarkness]

@ms_vanderquack Seems like your mother shoild hzve Bortex you

[Ms_Vanderquack]

@MysteriousDarkness Yes, she should have. What’s your point?

[Interstate]

I'm actually watching a movie right now about a girl who came out of the closet to her Parents. It's called "The Truth About Jane", starring Stockard Channing.

[Peuples_Francs]

Ask them why they think they're gay, they might just be confused. If they really are, then I don't really have a choice, they are my child. I'll care for them until they can leave.

[Adam1978]

Well don't have any kids but if I had, I would have a discussion to see if they aren't just confused because there is so much bad information out there. But in the end, it's their choice.

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

Wouldn’t treat them any differently but I would still
let them know it doesn’t change a thing, they’re still my child and i will always love them and be very proud of them no matter what

[onahole-san]

Accept them and love them. Easy choice, no discussion required.

[Bluemax]

I would say, "I love you and hope for your happiness."

[wittymilf]

I hi fived my daughter when she decided to switch teams.

[Qdbrown]

Yeah, my daughter came out she was a lesbian. She now lives with her her mother. So now my son and I live in the straight house.

[MrJMM]

Am I supposed to understand that you support her but she left to learn to live with her mom? Or that you didn't support get and you and your son live in a straight house?

[Qdbrown]

My job is done. Except to make sure she has what she needs. All of this cute fun love crap serves my agenda so little. She needs to be closer to mom any ways. Getaway from us crazy guys.