What would you do if you found out your best friend is a pedophile?

not a sex offender or a child molester. He doesn't act on his thoughts and he's in therapy for it. He hates people that hurt children, and he wants to be cured of this mental illness.

I had no idea until he told me. I've known him since he was 15, and he's 22 now. I'm devastated and I don't know what to do.
I hate paedophiles. I'm disgusted by them.
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  • When I was age 21, my mother babysitter these kids, and one of
    them was a girl age 11, well me and this girl went to Church together
    I sent her letters in the mail that was really mean in them, yes I admit
    that I had a major mental illness and yes it was horrible I was in and
    out of mental health treatment and took medications, yes I do regret
    this happening, now to this day the girl is age 43 and does not speak
    to me and seems like she hates me which I don't mind cause it was
    all my fault for my actions and I deserve it, Since I've got older I
    am now on the best mental health medications I ask myself what
    the hell was wrong with me and her parents were talking about taking
    me to the magistrate to get the letters to stop and It sure woke me up
    I just hope God forgives me

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  • Offer what help and support I could. People don't choose their orientations; there's no difference between hating someone for being a pedophile and hating someone for being gay.

    Would you feel disgusted by him if he had some other form of mental illness? People should be judged by their actions, not their attributes.

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  • To me it sounds like he hates the people who are pedophiles.. he's not a pedophile himself whats the issue here? Id love to have every man and woman killed that ever unjustly hurt a child or sexually molested them.. world would be a better place if we didn't allow them back into our world.. or create a place like Australia or PEI for all of them to live among themselves so they can have a good taste of their own medicine..

    • He is a pedophile. didn't you read? He hates paedophiles but he is one. He has fantasies about children and is in therapy for this. He doesn't *act* on these desires.

    • Well he's gotta force himself to stop thinking about it.. because our thoughts become our actions and our actions our behavior and our behavior our nature..

  • He would find himself cut off from me, and most likely most of our mutual friends, if not all of them. I’m glad he isn’t hurting then and doesn’t like those that do, but I cannot be around someone like that and be any level of civil.

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  • Everyone has dark thoughts about different things. The important thing is that we don't act on them. Thankfully he doesn't act on it (as far as you know) and is getting some counseling which hopefully will help, but the studies I have seen say it's not likely.
    As long as he isn't acting on it, he's ok, but yeah... fucked up and creepy.

  • I mean hey as long as he gets help for it and is trying to correct himself then theirs no problem

  • Turn the sick bastard in

  • Laugh hysterically

    • @Degenerate

    • Lol why u tag me

    • lol what

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  • I'd keep my kids away from him for sure.

  • I'd take a baseball bat and then...

  • Does he tell you he looks at them and thinks nasty sutuff

    • *stuff

    • No but he has fantasies about them

    • Oo noo he plays with his part while looking at them?

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  • This guy sounds pretty much like ME. You mention what he DOESN'T do and DOESN'T like, but not what he DOES like about children. The differences between him and me is that I'm not in any therapy, (because I have no need to be) and I don't call myself a "pedophile", because I don't ACT on my desires for female children

  • i was in this situation and i was ready to bust his head wide open with a baseball bat when i found out. i told him he better not look at that shit on my computer or i'd bust his head open and i'd call the cops on his ass. needless to say he's an ex friend now and he was a selfish piece of shit anyways who never helped anyone out and if he did patted himself on the back for doing it

  • The guy who told you is doing the most he can possibly do to avoid it and he seems to be being honest about it. I wouldn't tempt fate by having children near him

  • I have a friend who used to watch CP but then it became normal for him just like normal porn and then he completely forgot it
    now we just talk about it like it was a joke
    don't worry at some point he loses intrest

    • Are you 12? Your friend is a creep. You talk about it like a joke? You're both creeps.

    • I'm 17 my friend is also 17 he used to watch those when he was 15, yeah we know it's an embarrassing thing but if I make him shame because of something he did and noticed was wrong then what kind of friend I am?