What would you do if you unknowingly slept with someone transgender?

You hook up not realizing they are transgender, but they tell you the next day. How do you react?
What would you do if you unknowingly slept with someone transgender ??
What would you do if you unknowingly slept with someone transgender ??
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Post Op Transgender. Obviously you would know during the hookup if they hadn't had surgery yet
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Assuming I didn't notice, I would be pissed off. Not because they are transgender, but because I would feel lied to and deceived. It would be like dating someone that didn't tell you they were married. I feel like you have a right to who the person is
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  • In my personal view:

    It wouldn't matter honestly. Because for me to sleep with that person would have mean that there was chemistry between us and we made a connection. Maybe I was interested physically, some transgender people have amazing bodies.

    In conclusion: I would be aware that i analyzed the situation and made my decision without anybody forcing me into it. If I liked that person enough to sleep with him/her I would be understanding enough to accept what happened. Besides, is not a matter of life or death nor a treat to my health.

    I believe the problem here is that many people rely on their enforced believes and social norms too much when making judgmental decisions. They may believe their reputation or manliness may be on the line or even they would have sin. They place more importance to what others may think about them than the connection and resolution of the hook up.
    I would assume people who would over react negatively to this, have not done much reaserch about sexuality. Otherwise they would know having intercourse with a member of the same sex does not make you "gay" or homosexual for that matter. You are homosexual if you have emotional feelings and are attracted by members of the same sex. Also religious people may have have a strong negative response to this situation but they have to understand transgenders are people and deserve the same rights as anyone else and should not be discriminated for something they didn't had control over.
    And last, in the end sex is a beautiful thing, but some people make it ugly with all their barriers and stigmas.

    As I see it, the trans biggest mistake would have been not telling me about her birth gender, which is part of his/her privacy and personal decisión. It wouldn't be a fair world is we forced them to say something they find unconfortable. (Putting it into perspective do you think it will be fair to be force into telling our penis size so that girls could decide is they want to hook up with us.)

    Kind of long but i am tired of hearing so much ignorance and hate coming from this topic. I hope this opinion can be useful somehow, great question by the way. Have a good day.

  • I honestly wouldn't care, but I would appreciate their honesty, just because I know that telling me might've been scary for them. So I'd thank them for that, but let them know that I don't mind and that it doesn't change anything

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  • Well for one I most likely would have found out by the stage of the relationship of me sleeping with them, as I wouldn't be in a relationship with secrets. But anyway if i were to find out i would most likely just laugh my head off, but also be very annoyed and upset that they lied to me. The fact that they are transgendered would not be the reason i break up with them, the fact that they lied would be, I don't want a person who lies.

  • That wouldn't happen.
    I mean... assuming I don't catch on after hearing their voice/wondering where their adam's apple/arm hair/broader shoulders are at, I'd gtfo of the date/bedroom the moment I saw a slit in place of a dick.

  • It's happened to me where I knew during as it was during op amd a separate situation with after I don't mind as long as they don't keep secrets about it

  • I think you would know once they took off their clothing something just looks off

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  • Trannies are fairly easy to spot in the crowd. No amount of makeup, surgery or hormone treatment can fully hide what they are.

    You don't really hear of people who slept with trannies unknowingly.
    It's much more common to hear about people rejecting trannies when they find out or suspect it.

  • One I wouldn't just hook up with someone... But let's say it happened I'd feel tricked disgusted and angry I have the right to at least know before I make a decision

  • I'd be surprised but don't think it would bother me.

  • Homicide, then off to the asylum!

  • I'd think "That's cool" and "good for you for making that difficult decision to transition"

  • Hmmmm... That's fucked up! Like would I be fucking his/her post op vag or his/her asshole? I suppose, then I would consider him/her a woman, since the parts are sort of there. As well, to everyone else, for all intensive purposes, he/she is a female now. So, meh, chock it up to, WOW, NO WAY. COULDN'T EVEN TELL!

    • Why did I get a thumbs down by a woman?

  • Haha i would say they did a good transition! I bet a lot of people wouldn't like it, but personally i dont care..

  • I see that kind of trickery as rape. The fact that they didn't tell you before hand is all the proof you need that they new you wouldn't otherwise. No truly straight man would choose to sleep with another man regardless of the surgery. So, to fool them into sex with a born man is rape.

  • Unless they had surgery it's kinda hard to miss a penis, no matter how fucked up you are

  • No way that can happen, if you do any kind of foreplay.

    • And as I said in another post, this is why so many transgendered people end up seriously hurt in the hospital and dead when they are not honest about what they are.

  • Be very offended that they didn't tell me.

  • I would not have any issue. I'd thank them for being honest and forthright with me!

    • In the grand scheme of things, it's not something I choose to get upset about. I can't imagine what challenges they've had to deal with on their journey and I don't need to add to that. If we had a great night, we had a great night.

  • I wouldn't... Personal preference

  • Freak the fuck out

  • Pretty sure I'd notice a lack of a penis.

    • They surgically create one.

    • @Red_Arrow I still can't believe it woukd be the same. Of course I've never experienced this...

    • Ummm. There is this secret I have been meaning to tell you...

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  • Yaa. Its weared to know all of sudden.. Bt all i can do is let them know my interest and ask the person to go.. As i am not interested in same sex..

  • If she is nice to me!! I will date her 😊

  • No second date

  • how does one unknowingly sleep with a tranny? that seems illogical.

  • You'd know right away lol.

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