What would you do if your friend had sex with your kid?

Inspired by a thread I saw on Reddit. What would you do if your friend had sex with your 16 year old son?

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  • I am going to assume a female friend 30+.

    First aspect is what is the age of consent in the locale? 16 and 18 are most common with a few places at 17. If it is 16 then I can only rant and rave. If 17 or 18 you can complain to the police and it can become a criminal case. More cards to play in that case.

    This hypothetical does raise different attitudes to sex with male or female minor. I think we would all be hyper protective of a girl but with a boy the view might be he got lucky. Even professionals in this area see the the impact as being less for a boy.

    At 16, either a boy or a girl might have been having sex with their peers possibly from about 12 yo. I think that would be a factor in my attitude. My 16 yo son might have the sexual and emotional maturity to deal with it.

    I recent years I have been surprised by the number of female teachers being charged with having sex with minors. Usually boys but in at least one case girls.

    It is untrue that boys are not affected. What I have noticed, from news, is that female pedophiles try to conduct a relationship with the boy. That is more how the damage occurs. Similar can occur in a strong relationship with a female peer - this the area that I have seen. I have not directly known of a 30+ female pedophile with a boy. I am not saying that a girl is not similarly affected by a pedophile but it is not within my observation (fortunately).

    The 16 yo boy can be thrust prematurely into adult manhood; give up school & get a job, forget university. That will have life long consequences. Another consequence is that there is strong rebellion to the father; the boy has got a girl he is fucking so he is an adult now. Parents can't tell him what to do.

    So I think there is a difficult path for the parent to tread especially if the AoC is 16. The boy is having a wow of a time with willing pussy. Not likely you can take that away without consequence.

    Whilst I wouldn't like it I could well be forced to deal with this 30+ female friend in a way that minimizes possible harm. It would be mandatory that she not only not discourage his schooling but positively encourages it. There would be no moving in with her. A lot of the rest would be fly by wire and situational. I know I wouldn't be able to take pussy away from him and I would retain more influence if I accept that aspect.

    • Exactly people don't realise the harm on boys. But I disagree about the attitudes towards sexes, as you can see from the responses here, lot of people would be upset with the woman, especially the mom.

    • In regards to the impact, from what I read, boys tend to get addicted to drugs commonly as a result and have relationship problems. They get addicted to sex early on. With girls they get depressed as they are weaker mentally. Also they become promiscuous early on.

    • I agree with all that. I am sure everybody would be upset with the woman. But courts go easy on female pedophiles. Locally one was given a good behavior bond because the judge considered that she had been punished enough by losing her teacher job and the community had forced her out of other jobs. So that is illustrative of what ordinary people might think and what the criminal system. Had that been a male pedophile it would have been a custodial sentence for years. Also psychologists seem to regard it insufficiently seriously from what I researched maybe a year ago. Boys are more able to deal with it was a view. Just as there is a gulf between you and I and the criminal system there seems to be a gulf between us and the pysch industry. Outside of parents - or those that taking that role hypothetically to answer your question - what would be the attitude is a good question. Well that female pedo getting a suspended sentence was just reported matter of fact. There was zero outrage. Had the sexes been reversed there would enormous outraged. The sentence would have been appealed and the judge would have done little judging afterwards. There certainly would have vigorous vitriol expended in that case In some cases the female pedo does not even go on the sex offenders list. There is a vastly different attitude unfortunately it is not condoning it to recognize that ambiguity.

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  • She'd be thrown in jail for rape.

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  • Would depend on like how old the friend is. I don't have many friends much younger than my age rn, but its not impossible I'd have one at that age when my own kid is that age. Kinda weird, tho I've been on the other side b4, so ik it can happen at some capacity. 🤷‍♀️

    If they was a full adult tho, I'd be fucking pissed. Regardless of age of consent here making that rape, even if it was legal that would still be totally unacceptable. My friends spend time at the house. They know my kid. They'd be in contact as an adult and child for years b4 the kid would be 16, so there's NO WAY they could have a healthy romantic or sexual relationship w the kid by the time the kid is old enough to understand that shit. It's just not possible. Their dynamic had been set.

    Friend: cut off. I can't threaten to involve cops bc they'd already know I wouldn't. But I would threaten to involve myself & husband if they try to contact our kid again. Kid: serious talk. Wouldn't take his phone or access to vehicle or anything, but would explain rlly clearly why that person is dangerous to him. Tap husband in for a history lesson from xp. & ask kid to be safe & not contact that person anymore.

    • She's in her 30s... Why can't you call cops?

    • Cops are basically useless or actually harmful in this type of situation. It would be much safer and effective to handle it ourselves..

    • Lol that's not true, its treated very seriously

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  • You mean if my adult aged former friend raped my child?

    If they're not mysteriously disappeared, they'd be taken to court, charged with at least statutory rape, and thrown in jail.

    I'd be sure to visit to out them to gen pop as a child rapist.

    • You wouldn’t just beat them to death instead? Why let the cops handle it?

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  • Murder her, cooked into curry, and then feed to him and the dogs. (Just joking.)

    • And seriously?

    • What say you? LOL!

    • Come on. Smile. It's just sex. Buy them a meal and then tell them to behave.

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  • I'd call the police.

  • *cocks gun*

    But in all seriousness... my kid better be older than 18. Or I shall proceed.

  • if female i would imagine he enjoyed it and so act around son like i did not know.

    • You think a girl wouldn't enjoy it?

    • What if it was a male friend?

  • they're not my friend anymore

  • Let's just say they would no longer be my friend... or maybe anyone's friend.

  • They'd be dead meat. I don't abide that shit.

    • What if your husband tried to defend her?

    • They wouldn't. My partners know better than to get between me and a sex offender.

    • Two men had defended this sex offender woman on reddit against the mother

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  • I would report him/her to the authorities.

  • Nothing illegal, but I would be annoyed

    • It would be illegal in this situation

    • Not in UK. Age of consent is 16, I'd hope I've done my job as a parent to raise my kid to be able to majd their own choices. But given my friends would be in their 50's by the time my kids are 16, I would think less of my friends

    • Would you care if it's your male or female friend

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  • Totally depends on the situation and who told me/how I found out, but I would probably be extremely creeped out. That would likely end the relationship for me.

    I'm in a bit of a similar situation where I get the distinct feeling that my buddy and his wife want me to marry their daughter. I'm 30, the daughter is presently 17.

    • Does it matter if it was your male or female friend?

    • No, that doesn't matter at all. There's something extremely unpleasant about the idea of an adult who has the ability to get their affection elsewhere, waiting until it's legal for them to get it from my child. To me, it would almost be less creepy if my friend and kid always had an openly flirty relationship through the years and just started banging one day, regardless of age. That idea of hiding their intentions until the kid reaches the age of consent feels worse to me.

    • Your kid would be under age of consent here

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  • Beat the fuck out of them

  • That would be considered rape here. She/he would be in for a whole lot of hurt unless the cops got them first.

  • Well him and I would either go hunting or fishing but only one of us would be returning.

    • The friend is a woman

    • We'll just go for boat ride and she'll fall off when I hit the wave.

    • How old is she

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  • I don;t have kids but I would be pissed off. Especially if my kid were under age.

    • They would be underage, what would you do

  • Take a hammer to his kneecaps.

    • It's a woman

    • I'd just call her a whore and remove her from my life.

  • Not sure how I would react to that, but I know it happens.

    • How do you know

    • I've seen stories on the news, and online.

  • After being shocked that a 28-year-old congenitally sterile man has a 16-year-old, son probably insist that criminal charges be pressed. California's age of consent is 18, no exceptions. Literally someone 18 years and 0 days can be charged for having sex with someone 17 years and 364 days old.

  • The friend would never be seen again

    • Like death be upon them kind of thing?

  • Call the cops

  • Beat the shit out of them, and light there car on fire.

    • Bless ya

    • Hope you realise its a woman, I think it was obvious

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