Guys, What would you do if your girl hold back sex with you because she's mad that you won't ready to get married to her?

[Anonymous]

[MrOracle]

I would break up, because clearly we are on two different paths.

Just because you have feelings for someone doesn't mean that they have the same life goals as you - that's something you need to vet them for, and if you don't get the answer you are looking for, then you end things and move on. You are supposed to do this early on so that you aren't wasting your time (and theirs). If you don't vet a potential partner, then it's very easy to waste months or years of your life on them, and you can never get that time back.

Your feelings for a person are NOT enough to build a life with them. Long-term compatibility is just as important, and isn't likely to change, so you have to find someone you are ALREADY compatible with.

[socair]

Too individual a thing to ask
But based on experience that I will pass on. If she is hell bent on getting married then out of decency and respect for her feelings let her go as gently as possible and move on.

In real terms extremely few guys through out history have had the pros of marriage outweigh the cons and it is becoming increasingly less so. For most guys marriage is just not worth it. The advice is out there accept it... but like most of us you will probably at some time want to find out for yourself... the hard way

[tiamatx]

Does she have sex to get married or because she enjoys sex? I would be put off by such a manipulative way of having sex

[Asker]

Let's say they been having sex and when y'all talk about marriage you said you just ain't ready so she stop fuckin you

[Weapon77]

I'd break up with her more than likely

[MrHopper]

Not really give me other things to get on with without worrying about it

[integrale77]

Using sex as a weapon like that is going to push a guy into the arms of another woman especially if your openly doing it!

If getting married is that important to you get down on one knee and ask him!

[SnowedIn]

Dump her. It's over.

[BradleyinOK]

Well more details need to be provided. What do you mean by sex? Intercourse, oral, the use of hands to reach satisfaction? There are also alternatives to physical sex such as mutual maturation where you sit on opposite sides of the room and watch each other. If all of that is out of the question find some porn videos to suggest and let him know what you plan to do to him out of the videos when married. Then there's phone sex. I recommend figuring out what your going to be willing to try/do once married though because that dudes gonna be really freakin horny and sex will probably happen a lot. If you already know him and is a good person and you a ready for marriage now, then I would get that guy so sexually frustrated he can't live another day without marriage you. Do expect a lot of sex though in the beginning of the marriage. I mean a lot a lot. Also getting extremely sexually frustrated could lead to one of 3 things. He marries you, he breaks up on you, or he cheats on you.

[Summeroflove]

I wouldn’t be having sex until marriage anyways. Also…. I would be concerned if a girl was rushing marriage too fast. Both people need to be ready for that. It’s serious commitment

[Sevenpointfive]

break up with her

[AnUglyBarnacle]

Probably break up with her. If she'll withhold sex to twist my arm into marrying her, then what's to stop her from refusing sex *after* we're married? She has already set the precedent, and she'll know that intimacy can be used as a bargaining chip whenever she wants something again.

[Blackmoonsns]

If you're withholding sex in exchange for marriage you're most not likely the woman for me specially if you've already had sex with a man before me yeah definitely not happening