What would you do if your parent was keeping tabs on you?

Question

Recently I’ve found out that my dad has been keeping track of all of my online activity. He’s been paying someone at his job to stalk all of my social media accounts to see what I post, what I talk about, and stalk my online purchases. Even sex toy and fetish purchases. He has screenshots of my accounts and photos of everything on his laptop. He has information about me over the span of 8 years, so this isn’t something new that he’s started doing, but I’ve just found out about it.

I’m really disturbed. I haven’t confronted him about it yet, because I don’t know how. In the last 4 years our father/daughter relationship has become really good, I’m worried that if I confront him about this then our good relationship will crumble and go back to how it used to be.

What advice can you give me?

shanshu · Accepted Answer

Well since it's has been 8 years that means he started when you were 13 which I understand at the time, he was being a protective father making sure you were safe online and no old creeps were talking to you.

I'm not saying it's right but maybe he didn't want to stop being a safety parent. Maybe after 16-18 he should of stopped but maybe also he liked getting to know you and find out stuff that he prob should of already knew by this keeping tabs on you and think of good presents to buy or good conversations to have with you.

It's not right though that he's keeping tabs on you especially at your age but now you know you can be wary of what you say on your social media and chats and Amazon stuff.

What I'd suggest to try is find a tech friend you know to see if they can block this tech guy your dad has. Also don't go on your house WiFi or family mobile data plan if you have one for any personal time, that's prob how he's tracking your activity and also log out of your Google account too, they can track what you search.

Or use it to your advantage and write stuff you want your dad to hear

gorydetails · Accepted Answer

Wait, you’re really 21? It’s really easy. You change your passwords to EVERYTHING. And yes, you confront him. That’s an extreme violation of your privacy.

ushagomez · Answer

Ask him about it after telling him you noticed what you thought was a random stalker. See what he says and take it from there.

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

Hi, Dad!

SawerBrown · Answer

Purposely alter your online presence to the opposite it has been and have some fun, use a incognito browser, or get a good vpn to do the things you want to do.

Eliiiiii · Answer

I'd prolly outsmart them if not the child support

Jennz6 · Answer

They didn’t and I got in trouble

roy_ricky09 · Answer

It's their job for your well being. You are who you are because of them only. Once parents see the maturity in their kids, they stop it.

SweetTwistedSatanist · Answer

I'll play along and give him some content. "I am being followed so Imma give him a show" that's all he gets at the dinner table.

Pete671 · Answer

Disconnect from him, he sounds like a right control freak,,,

peterrezeeek · Answer

ask him why he is doing that? tell him ur not a kid yet.. talk to ur dad with respect and tell him to stop that cuz its ur privacy...

TallAnon · Answer

Just casually mention that he should stop, a good dad would say "Oh, you knew? Alright, sorry about that"

Guardian45 · Answer

I understand his need to protect you, but you're 21. What he is doing is a crime. It has to STOP NOW!

Pudsmucker · Answer

Sometimes you need to confront the parental unit. Tactfully ask him to stay out of your personal life. None of his business. The only thing I'd question does he pay for your expenses?