What would you do if your partner was sexually into something that you hated?

[Anonymous]

It could be simple things like oral, anal, or more complex like fetishes (cuckholding, bdsm etc)

[Anonymous]

Oral I'm fine with. Nothing but a finger goes up my ass. No bdsm, threesomes, or cuckolding. Nothing involving urine, feces or pain. About the weirdest thing I will do is blow smoke in my boyfriend's face. I don't know why but it turns him on sexially. Thought it was weird at first but now I kind of enjoy doing it. Its fun pushing someone's sexual buttons. Especially after sex when I want more and he has already came. I'll light a cigarette, inhale deeply, and blow a cloud in his face. He is hard again and on top of me in seconds. Occasionally, it gets annoying when he is practically glued to me when I'm smoking but it beats dating a cigarette Nazi and having to sneak off for a smoke. I also indulge in foot fetishes which I think is weird too.

[Anonymous]

Thankfully NOT into anal which was granted only once per many years.
If it's not doing anything for me, then it has to be a favor seldom granted if ever. Lucky for him the rest of this is OK with me, except a few positions my body can no longer do w/o sex distracting pains too great.

[fauchelevent]

If I hated it, I wouldn't do it. It's no fun unless both of us are happy and cool with it. If it was just something I was neutral to, then I'd probably give it a go

[btbc92]

I'm out. I don't believe in premarital sex anyway. But I would not date him.

[Asker]

See that’s the problem with not having premarital sex. What would happen if you discovered your husband was into something you’re not, but you’re already married? You can say “oh but we’ll talk about it beforehand” but he fact is you don’t really know until you’ve had sex...

[btbc92]

Because I don't view sex as twisted as that. I know what sex is and what sex isn't. I know what marriage entitles and what it doesn't. I know how to treat a person and not how to treat a person. I'm not going to have perverse sex and ruin my life, possible catch disease, fornicate and end in a divorce, besides disrespect myself, my family, him and his, etc over pleasure. Sex is a marriage and marriage is all about having sex. I know who I am as a person. And I refuse to do something like that to a person who won't be able to truly love me the way I needed to be loved and treated because he fooled around with other women. I am not other women. It's not about talking. It's about views, beliefs and, values. And those are not my values. Vaginal-penile sex is how it should go. If it's a problem, goodbye. Sex is learned, not taught. You have plenty of time for that with your spouse.

[btbc92]

What your suggesting is why there are so many divorces and infidelity today besides other problems. Why set yourself up for failure because one is so impatient? Not worth the stress and the hassle. It's bondage to live in fear of STDs, pregnancies out of wedlock, etc. At least in marriage, you know what to expect and the risk it comes with it.

[Asker]

Oh wow. Ok. Well that was an essay I didn’t read. But yes, vaginal penile sex is one way of having sex and even if you don’t have any other requests apart from the vanilla, good luck finding a guy that’s the same... you sound like you wouldn’t even suck on a cock... I really pity your future husband. Anyway I have the feeling that even if you didn’t want the divorce, he would...

[btbc92]

First of all I want is what you're saying is why I am celibate and have no desire to be with anybody in the first place. I'm not going to be having perverse sex because he wants to. That's not love that is lust and that is not worth somebody getting married to. There's nothing I'm missing that he can't give. Except disease.

[btbc92]

Call it what you want but that is very whorish. I'm not going to have somebody treat me like that. If that's the kind of person he wants then he don't need to be married especially to somebody like me. If other women or men want to be treated like that then so be it. I refuse to be treated with what's below my feet.

[btbc92]

From what you're saying*

[btbc92]

And that's exactly why I wouldn't be kissing anybody because I don't know where their mouth has been, doing who-knows-what. I don't do those things why would I want a husband who does the same?

[btbc92]

The type of man your describing make poor lovers and they would have divorced you anyway, or cheated on you. Because they're not satisfied with you and not satisfied with anything. They only care about is sex they don't care about you. That's how many of you women get hurt and you want to know why he's cheating on you and using you. Because you see yourself low so now they treating you just as low, as they see themselves. So when they meet somebody who doesn't do all of that, they're not going to bother anyway because they can't meet those standards, and don't want to. Or think it's too late. I'm not stupid. I made my choice and people make theirs.

[Asker]

It sounds like you have a poor understanding of what sex REALLY entails. But that’s fine, you continue living in your little bubble. But one day someone will burst it.

[Ripper_E]

It would really depend on what it is, and whatever it is, they would be free to tell me about it. Perhaps they would be things I'd be willing to do for them, even if I hate it. I'll let her tell me what she wants and then let her know how I feel about it. Take it from there.

[Kreneman]

Communicating is always key before you hook up with somebody and even if it comes after you hook up, communicating is still key plus it all depends on what the sexual act is and may I ask, what is the sexual act do you hate?

[Asker]

It’s just a general question. There’s no specific thing.

[Kreneman]

Oh ok,

[Veronica101]

I'd inform them that i wouldn't do it and if it's an incredibly weird fetish we might even break up, as I'd question their mindset.

[therapeuticrose]

I'd talk about it so maybe I can get a better understanding and if it's not scaring or repulsing me I might try it

[neurolove]

I would just say so.

[JimRSmith]

Well, it could be a potential deal breaker, depending on what it was.

So there would be a talk, and if necessary a further talk, and if that didn't work, then we'd need to have a frank and adult discussion about calling the whole thing off.

[socklint]

I hated getting cuckolded by ex but I loved her, she was so hot, first week was panties and all the house work, she would masturbate on the couch while I vacuumed in panties, later she started coming home full of cum and having me eat hermit was gross at first but she loved it, you have to give your partner what they want always

[UltimateGohan]

I would first have a talk about it before doing it

[MajorEasy]

Time to move on, I'd say...

[katjakazuhira]

Well I'm pretty submissive so I'd be fine with it, even if I'm not into it, as long as I didn't have to be dominant as part of it.

[Scarlet-Williams]

I would just do it

[Chaz269]

Depends on what it is. If she wants me to pee on her, ok, gross but whatever.
If she wants to fuck other guys while I watch, bye, Felicia!

[owens97]

well i give everything a go once but i would talk to them about it first make a safeword give it a go if u dont like it maybe only do it for special events like there bday or a couple times a year

[makeit234]

You could do that sexual thing in a bad way and make them hate it... but that would be cruel. Best thing to do is find someone else. E. g. if my girlfriend told me to do anal with a strap-on, I would say, "FUCK NO". And if she made it a big deal it would be over.

[LegateLanius]

If it involves anyone in addition to us, the relationship would have already been broken up by me

[castratedwhiteguy]

That's a deal breaker...

[2opaz]

If my girl ain't gonna let me eat her booty hole there's no sense in us being together

[Krumpir]

I could understand almost any fetish... Except probably the strapon where she would fuck me or cuckolding which is just disgusting...

[OralYoda]

Could be a stick point try do it a little but don't override the sex life that makes them uncomfortable

[flavio222]

I will try that shit, really

[Dr_Latex_McPeggin]

I am in the flip situation and she has me take my playtime solo most of the time and will join in occasionally but overall, she wants me to do what makes me happy as long as she is still my one and only. And I feel the same way if the roles were reversed...

[rajandrobe]

I'll do anything for my wife.