What would you do if your wife didn’t enjoy having penetrative sex with you?

[Anonymous]

[AndyOh]

Assuming you were having sex before you got married, I would ask what was that all about then? Did she enjoy it before? Why not now? Is there something wrong down there?

I know 3 couples where the wife said she did not enjoy intercourse with her husband after menopause, so older couples. One guy is allowed to find other women, the other two are looking outside the marriage and are very frustrated. They all love their wives, but feel cheated that the sex they loved so much with their wife is not gone.

[Asker]

No one said anything about not having sex

[ArsenalTheYhur]

Men have sex with women because men feel sexual craving for women body, it’s like we get hungry and feel craving for foods.


Women's body have many feature, boobs, butts even their whole body sexually attract men. But if you see men body there is nothing in it. What to see? It’s just a flat billboard. Men only have horniness.


Women never feel struggle for their horniness. They don’t feel this pain. If all men were asexual women would be lucky. They don’t have to perform this work.

[GoldenAxer]

I don't see why we'd get married in the first place.

[ananias55]

I'd leave her. But then again I once dumped a girlfriend who got tires of giving bjs.
If you don't put in the effort then you're not dating me.

[ZackBan]

Depending on how hot her sister is we might not have a problem at all...
Joking, but seriously though it's not something I would roll over for. I'd try to get to source of the reason and find a fix

[abc3643]

Accept it.
"For richer, for poorer.
In sickness and in health..."

Part of that "in sickness and in health" might include her inability to have sex...

[abc3643]

God gave us masturbation for a reason...

[Asker]

I didn’t say unable, just if she didn’t find it pleasurable.

[abc3643]

No difference. If you are the young lady who also asked the question about not enjoying sex with her husband, there are all sorts of things you can do. For one thing, try to enhance your libido. Alcohol will help with that...

[abc3643]

You asked this question too, didn't you?
Is it bad that I don’t enjoy having sex with my husband? ↗

[DonkeyDan]

As long as we could find a way in which we both received satisfaction then it could work. She'd have to limber up that jaw of hers 😂
Failing that look at marriage counseling or sex therapy or consider separation.

[Asker]

I’m not saying she would deny you sex, just that she doesn’t find penetrative sex pleasurable

[DonkeyDan]

Ah right, I'd find a way we can work together to make sure she can enjoy it, more attention to foreplay and oral and maybe use some toys to help her if that's what she wants.

[Mofunfour20]

Come to my senses and Divorce her. She's taking advantage of my resources. Its not cheaper to keep her because self respect isn't expendable for me.

[Asker]

Well that escalated quickly. What on earth does not finding penetration pleasurable have to do with taking advantage of your resources?

[Mofunfour20]

Because thats the only reason men like women. When has a guy ever said "this party would be much better with my girlfriend here"

[Asker]

I feel sorry for you that you have never had a significant other that you wanted to spend time with. but regardless, in this situation doesn't mean you wouldn't be having sex, I didn't say anything about that.

[Mofunfour20]

sucks you feel sorry for me, im not that sensitive i guess. I feel fine, in fact im going for a run

[slatyb]

Why wouldn't I have learned that before marrying her? How would she feel if I had penetrative sex with someone else since she isn't interested?

[Asker]

No one said she wasn’t interested

[slatyb]

If she’s not enjoying it then I won’t either. Ewww.

[Asker]

Just because it’s not physically pleasurable doesn’t mean to at it isn’t emotionally or mentally pleasurable. Sex arousal and pleasure is more complex than that

[Kaneki05]

I mean i would of married her so presumably i am okay with it lol.

[The-Wise-Phoenix]

Say goodbye

[Asker]

Because she doesn’t find penetrative sex pleasurable?

[exitseven]

Holy crap. I don't really know.

[FunkyMonkee]

My ex-fiance got like that after 5 years. I stayed with her figuring she'd eventually snap out of it and then, eventually, discovered she was fucking somebody else.

[Asker]

Well it turns out she did actually like it then

[FunkyMonkee]

Apparently!! But, the biggest reason she stopped fucking me was because, according to her, she didn't even like sex and was only letting me fuck her about 100 times a year for the previous 3 or 4 years was to make ME happy!! Yeah, sure, I believe that!

[Asker]

so you guys were still having sex every 3 to 4 days... that still seems like quite a bit.

[FunkyMonkee]

Yeah, something like that. I mean, I never counted because I was sure we were gonna spend the rest of our lives together and, for as often as we were fucking, there was no point in keeping track, anymore (like, my 1st girlfriend, I know I fucked her 4 times but can only recall the exact date and relative times of the first two), my 2nd girlfriend I only fucked 3.5 times and I can come within a week of exactly what days we fucked but, had I been fucking either of them much more often than that, it would've been rather pointless. I only kept track because I figured, in both cases, I'd never get it more than first time or two. As for my 3rd, she invited me to live with her so, I bought us a waterbed and we probably fucked 3 or 4 times a week. (They say you can't fuck on a waterbed! I never had a problem with it!) Some nights, she'd come over to my place and we'd fuck almost every night we were there.. I DO remember that, in our last 2 sexual years together, we only fucked 3 times. There was always an excuse why she didn't want to fuck. As for it being quite a bit at 3 or 4 times a week, I was in love with her!

[Jersey2]

At least you didn’t marry that bitch.

[Asker]

@Jersey2 truth

[FunkyMonkee]

@Jersey2 Yeah! I know!!! Kinda dodged a bullet, there!! After 10 years of us being together, she leaves me for this other guy and claims she's gonna marry him and then drops HIS ass a year later!! Turns out she was a gold digger! I didn't have a ton of money so, she went after him and then he did something like accidentally run over a cat, or something, and she left him over it!!

[humanearth]

Start looking elsewhere for sex

[Asker]

No one said anything about not having sex with your spouse

[FilmGuy93]

Ask her what she didn't like about it, and find ways to improve.

[Wester1967]

Go to Colombia for a three month vacation

[Nik1hil]

Consult I gynecologist..
And few sessions with sex therapist...
If she cannot change...
Divorce it is...

[worldscolide]

It would end the marriage.. Thankfully she's not like that lol.. Only woman I have ever met who can multiple o from penetration alone.

[Andres77]

I'd be very frustrated.

[Asker]

Why, doesn’t mean you can’t have sex

[Andres77]

My first priority is to please her. If she can't cum from me fucking her then I'd find out HOW she cums and EVERY OTHER WAY to make her cum. Penetrative... maybe you only meant with my cock but I also use dildos and vegetables and fingers so if they didn't work... I'd be frustrated. I'm also very attentive when giving oral. Her pleasure is my priority. I truly try to make her cum so much that she just wants it to end so she can breathe. I only ever fuck her after I've pleased her thoroughly in many other ways.

[genericname85]

they wouldn't be my wife. because i wouldn't marry a girl that can't be sexually satisfied with me. i would try my best to se what i can do for her. but if it doesn't work, it's in boths best interest to break up.

[Ironic_Method]

Lots of blowjobs and a friends with benefits/girlfriend.

[Asker]

So you’d cheat on her?

[Ironic_Method]

Of course not.

[Shah11]

I will shoot her cunt.