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Whats wrong with me?

This is becoming a pattern in my life and it's making me feel like I'm sort of inferior. So the most recent thing like this that has happened is after my ex and i broke up there was an older man that was coming into my work and we would talk sometimes. And then we ended up adding each other on social media and he ended up asking me for my number pretty immediately. We talk for about a week and then we plan to hang out. I hung out with him, we had a few drinks, and I slept with him hours later. I know, too soon but he was hot and I felt safe and I was in the mood. So this continues for almsot a month. i hang out with him, we have great sex and blah blah. He complimented me, calling me beautiful and one of the hottest women he's been with, some of the best sex he's had, and he said that he liked me and thought my personality was interesting. And he told me that he definitely could see himself gettimg into a relationship with me. Then he started acting weird after about the 5th time I hooked up with him. I went home and all of a sudden he wasn't texting first as often and we didn't talk as much. We still had conversations tho and then we got on the topic of kids. He had a vasectomy since he already has kids but I don't and I said I'd like kids one day but not soon since I'm young and don't have life figured out. We continued to sleep together and after sleeping with me about 10 times, he completely starts giving me the cold shoulder. I ask him why and he says that he doesn't see a relationship with me going well (despite telling me he wanted a relationship) and he just wants to be friends. So I stopped talking to him. Did I suck at sex or something? Because he wanted a relationship until I slept with him several times. And since I live near him, I see that he has a new girl coming to his house. It hurts but I'm not very sad, but I feel like I wasn't good enough. Like, I guess he played the field and found better pussy? He didn't even want to be friends with benefits.

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  • It doesn’t sound like you did absolutely nothing wrong. Sometimes people are fake or use others and let people down. It’s a major breach of trust.

    It’s equally upsetting to read things like this because as a guy I too look for the same thing in a woman. Someone who is actually genuine, wants to commit, and wants to have a life and family together. Almost no one wants that nowadays unfortunately. People just seem to want to play around. So it’s tough to read about someone getting hurt.

    Natural sex aka romantic making love is amazing and I love it probably more so than the next guy, but there are way more important things to life than sex. If there isn’t the human element of love and commitment, the sex has no foundation.

    • *it sounds like you did absolutely nothing wrong*

Most Helpful Guy

  • Congratulations.




    You discovered a player.




    Something to ask yourself, cause I personally already know the answer.




    If he didn’t say all those nice things to you, would you have spread your legs to him? Exactly.




    He knows his way to make a young naive woman fold like a sheet of paper

    • He said those compliments after he slept with me several times

    • And you kept sleeping with him right?

    • Well if it was bad why did he keep fucking me. That's why I'm confused.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • He doesn't want the same things as you.. so it has nothing to do with the sex.. He used you for sex and then figured no point going forward with you because you want kids and other things he don't want. Guys are shit, never fuck them before they commit.

    • Case in point. An older woman understands us men and how we think. This lady probably made the same mistakes when she was younger

    • @Danny_dan92 Lol no I didn't actually... I married the guy I lost my virginity to..

    • You got lucky

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  • He actually sounds like an asshole. You did nothing wrong. Just be glad to be rid of him.

  • Im not reading all that, ask the question in the headline next time.

  • Sounds like he used you.. sorry to say it

    • Guess it means he played the filedmand found better pussy?

    • *played the field

    • Yes... it sounds like it. But remember he sounds like a player and a jerk and you did nothing wrong

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  • Sounds like you’ve been adde into the ‘sex’ category and not the ‘wife’ category. Since you want kids and he’s had a vasectomy and has kids already, he might see this as just a casual relationship and may be taking it less seriously.

    Orr he got what he wants ( sex) and is ready to move to the next girl.

    • Guess it means he played the field and found better pussy?

  • This is why jumping to someone else after a breakup is bad, either ways he seems to have taken advantage of you breakup and weak point weither he had the knowledge of it or not, the weak point was there, older men seem to take advantage of younger women and it sucks, not all obviously but a lot of em from what I have observed and I wish you the best on your next choice I guess

    • So was I not good enough? He said I was some of the best sex he's had and one of the hottest women he's slept with and he said that he really liked me. But then after sleeping with me several times, he decided that we'd be better as friends. I offered a fuck buddy situation and he declined. But now since I live near him, I see that he has another girl coming over on the weekends. I guess he just played the field and found better pussy and dumped me in the loser bin? I never pushed for a relationship might, I add. I was fine with chilling and being friends with benefits... why am I so inferior?

    • He told me all those compliments *after* he slept with me, too.

    • You are chasing the wrong things I'm afraid, but in a way you let the breakup with you ex make you feel like you don't want another relationship and that's totally normal after a breakup but you tried to replace it with sex and that's where you fucked up, you ignored the red flags I'm sure and you were just desperate I guess, he played you, it's not even that he replaced you, he just lied to get in your pants, there was never a chance of a relationship with him and he took advantage of your sweet spot in your heart of hope and used it to benefit off it, then when you offered the friends with benefits, he probably denied it cause he didn't want it cause he probably does one night stands to keep it fresh i assume, he found someone else that he's probably doing the same too and he threw you away, most likely going to throw her away after he's done with her too

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