#WhatsTheScenario How would you break the news to your new love interest that…?

#Scenario lets say the condom broke, the birth control failed, plan B/abortion doesn’t exist, etc… and even if you are not straight, you can put yourself into someone else's shoes for this scenario—

For girls— you just found out that you are pregnant by the guy you last slept with some months before

For guys— you just found out that you got the last girl pregnant that you slept with some months before

You’ve already built something with someone new but just found out this news. Would you even be upfront and tell the new person to see if they wanted to stick around or would you break it off or even ghost the new love interest?

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#WhatsTheScenario How would you break the news to your new love interest that…?
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  • For news like that, which can have a serious life impact and really mess with people’s emotions, you have to play it straight and just tell the truth in a simple way. You want to conform to social norms, and not do anything that will seem callous or flippant. So, if my viewing of YouTube serves me, the only way of handling this is with a traditional Baby Momma Reveal Party. We’d invite all of the current girlfriend/fiancée’s family and friends to a picnic. There would be T-Shirts and stickers and little signs with wooden handles with the names and faces of each of the past girlfriends/flings/one-night-stands/sex workers from the boyfriend’s past; each with their own theme color. The guests would pick up some swag and form into little knots to cheer on “Team Heather” or “Team That-Redhead-at-Tim’s-Party” and the scene would get animated and exited. Then the boyfriend would be blindfolded and clobber a piñata -using a baseball bat shaped like a penis with a torn condom on it- releasing chalk dust and confetti and rockets that whistle into the air trailing smoke; all in the color that announces …and this is where everyone cheers and hugs the current girlfriend/fiancée shouting “It’s The Lonely MILF! He knocked up the wife across the street that he hooked up with while you were at a conference! Your step twins will live right across the street! I’m so excited!”

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  • If I got a previous woman pregnant I’d tell the current one about it and fulfill my obligation as a father. If she doesn’t like it tough. If my wife was impregnated by another man I’d be ok with it. If I love my woman I love her babies. Babies are innocent and need love and care. Only miserable cold hearted people would have a problem with that

    • Wow what a rare man

Most Helpful Girls

  • Can't bring myself to imagine myself in that mess as I am virgin.

    But I would let the new person know about my pregnancy. If the new goes then bye bye but I wouldn't expect the new person to raise the baby with me financially as I will make sure the ex knows that he expecting a baby soon. But if ex doesn't want the baby then I will still raise them.

    That's my answer. I don't understand what's fun about sleeping around before marriage. But that's a personal choice.

    • totally understandable. Good answer

  • Sex only after marriage would solve many problems in this world🤷‍♀️. Imagine being forced to grow up in a single home because of your parents' choices... I grew up in one so I'm not being mean but it's the truth. I have no opinion in this regard- my culture tho would require the man who got the girl pregnant to pay 'damages' if they ever got married

    • Damages? Wow. And i wasn't bothered growing up in a single home. I was a happy child

    • Haibo, my parents have been separated most of my life but co-parenting. And growing up more often than not I had to pick a side because of them being at logger-heads. I don't think any kid wants to grow up asking to see their father or wishing their mother was present... But, yeah damages haha. In marriage you pay bride price but if you've gotten the girl pregnant or slept with her already the girl's family will demand damages which is compensation for you having taken her virtue before time. Which is fair.

    • I was the rare kid who never cared to see my dad. My parents split when i was 4. I never had anything against him. Its just if you didn't live in my household, you didn't count to me. He’d always try to visit me and i just didn't wanna be bothered

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  • Woah, that's crazy. I'd be super scared to tell my new girlfriend. I'd probably freak out and not know what to do at first. After thinking about it for a bit, I'd know I had to be honest with her though. It wouldn't be right to keep something like that huge secret. I'd tell her we needed to talk, come clean about what happened before we met, and that I'm gonna be a dad now. I'd say it's ok if she don't wanna be with me after finding out, but that I really like her and hope we can still try to make it work somehow. I'd let her know I'm there for my kid no matter what too. It probably wouldn't be easy for her to hear, but keeping it secret would be way worse in the long run. Honesty is the best option, even if it's scary.

  • Okay, I can help you with that. Here's a scenario:

  • lol

    I don't hook up, so the guy I slept a few months before is still with me or we broke up... I just tell him and we decide what now. If abortion is not an option there are natural methods to terminate not wanted pregnancy. But I wouldn't mind raising more children, even if he wouldn't want to participate :D

  • Honestly I would tell the girl right away she would need to know and make that decision herself if she wanted to stay with me or not deal with that drama. It be hard but it's her choice in that situation

    • Thats good

  • I’d say, ‘I’m pregnant and you’re the dad’

    that’s all I can really do.

  • the right thing to do, no doubt about it

  • Well, at the end of the day my new partner in this hypothetical will find out sooner or later. I would just tell her and get it over with and see if she wants to stay or go based on the news.

  • I’m fine with that because it’s my boyfriend

  • I would tell them the truth. If they would be willing to stay, I'd be grateful but I would understand if they chose to leave. Either way, if I'm going to have the child, I'd rather do it head on if I can

    • That’s great!

  • I'd want her to tell me, and then we would decide, together, what do do.

  • As a man, I would receive the news, of a previous girl being pregnant, with some nice feelings and apprehension at the same time. The best in case of mutual trust, is always to tell the plain truth. Ultimately it's up to the girl to decide what she wants to do next, and if my new partner loves me, I don't see any good in not telling the truth, whatever her reaction may be.

  • With the new love interest I'd have to tell them. Inherently it is different in that paternity has potential doubt whilst maternity is never in doubt. Even though the condom broke I still might not be the dad.

    I believe that paternity DNA tests are now possible during pregnancy as i have seen an add that said that. If it was affordable, I'd want that. Still I'd have to tell my current love interest before the results were available and ask for her forbearance till the results were in.

    In any case I doubt I would be able to hide the pressure and stress successfully - it is just too big a deal.

    With what I'd do with the old flame, well that would depend on circumstances.

  • Well that's a lot of ifs for this to happen lolI would tell the new guy. What's the point of breakup up or ghosting? It's equal to the worst case outcome when telling him. Except that you also did an asshole move on top of it.

    Explain the situation and hope for the best.

  • I'd straight up tell her. The more I delay the news, the more she'll think I'm hiding something.

  • I'd explain the situation to the girl I'm dating, tell her that she's an amazing person who is totally marriage material, and say I will be breaking up with her because it's my responsibility as a father to at least try to be as present in my child's life as possible.

    Then I'd try to get back with the girl I got pregnant, and hopefully end up marrying her.

  • when I was younger it was assumed that you would marry the girl. There were a few girls that got married while still in high school.

  • I am with my wife, so if she got pregnant (she's had a tubal ligation, and is in menopause) we'd have a baby. It's not in the plan but these things happen.

  • I'd just sit her down and tell her no reason to beat around the bush about it and take responsibility for the child.

  • Yea I will talk to them straight

  • I’d be upfront. There’s no point in beating around the bush because it’s not something I can hide and if he wants to stay in my life and raise the baby with me that’d be great.

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