When a guy is just looking for sex would he bother to take you to the park on a second date?

[Anonymous]

And chat to you, chilling hanging out without sex being on the cards? Ending with a kiss at the end.

[btbc92]

Men date women for sex. If they aren't going to get the sex they won't date you. It doesn't matter what they do for you. What matters is your intent and theirs. Any man does that to get sex. A real man doesn't. He would want to get to know you and all and usually, they want friendship first. They wouldn't even think about sex. But then most women would assume he isn't interested in sex or is gay. You have to figure yourself out and the kind of men you want and need. They want to get something out of it. It's not the 1920s anymore where men grew up with integrity and respect. I know as a virgin and believe in waiting for marriage to have it. That is how I weeded out so many guys. If all your doing is that, they expect things to escalate later, or else they grow impatient. You need to make your intentions and boundaries clear from day 1. You will never know all of this by dating strangers and expect to know everything by the 2nd date.

[btbc92]

Asker, Was Cinderella and Prince Charming think about sex the moment they meant? I doubt it. When you want love, sex doesn't even come into the picture which is how relationships become fulfilling and satisfying, and once married it is rewarded with sex and a family. It's not that if he wanted to shag. The thing is he picked YOU for a sexual partnership. It is your choice to have sex or not. They may be curious but they don't entertain it. They've been taught as many of us how sex works and what is done. So nobody is really ignorant here. The question is the intent with it. Many people think about sex, is why many of them have so many sex partners and little to no solid relationship. Because to them sex is primary, love is secondary to none. Just because somebody have sex with you, it doesn't mean they love you. That's why people can have sex in a marriage but it's loveless. Or why there is mutual respect but the marriage is sexless. But any loving marriage would have sex but it would be out of mutual respect. Not sexual perversions. That's why so many people watch porn because they want to know what pleasure feels like. And think that's love. It teaches men if a woman gives him sex she loves him. It teaches women if a man has sex with her, it means he loves her and only her. Which again both is neither true.

[btbc92]

People sadly seem like they've lack intelligence and common sense and have been dumbed down. Especially for men. They say women are not as sexual or visual as men or interested, YET if women were not at least curious she wouldn't be dating or desiring marriage IN THE FIRST PLACE! Yet many don't want marriage without sex. And now women are given short. A woman thinks if a man isn't paying attention to her or is hypersexual he must be gay or won't please her. Yet if he gets another girl or married, those same women are bitter and jealous of the other girl because he is taken and is making another woman happy. NOW she wants him. So it really depends on you, Asker what you want and needs in a man. You can't say you want an Aragon but you desire Christian Grey. You dream of Aragon, but you sleep with Christian Grey. Then when Aragon isn't interested, then your upset with both Aragon AND the fact you only have a Christian Grey. The same with men. They dream of an Arwen but sleep with a Cardi B look-a-like. Do you think Arwen want these kinds of men? No. Were Arwen and Aragon thinking about sex when they see each other? No. You can clearly see their love and tenderness towards each other trumps over physical desire yet they had sex services and such in middle earth. If sex was the most important neither of them would have been virgins until marriage.

[Anonymous]

"thousands of girls out there who’d go for it without he even working for it" - Really? Umm, nope there isn't LOL. And definitely not "available" for most guys. But it really depends on the guy. You can't make ANY assumptions based on that. Yes some guys will put in that time if they want you enough. Someone's true intentions will always become clear before long though, regardless of what it is.

[Asker]

Dude I swear it is! As bad as it is for me to admit this saddly it is true. If you live in the US or UK I guarantee you a lot of girls are sluts and they’ll just give themselves to anyone - it’s called hook up culture! I think it’s sad really but there are thousands of girls out there who would give you what you want. Especially in this case, online dating lol

[Opinion Owner]

Yes I guess it depends where you live. And I'm in a small town to. I know it's never been easy for me, ever! lol And if it happens, I'm truly "shocked", to the point I question her intentions lol

[Asker]

Hence why I think his atitude comes from someone who wants more than just sex. I think...

[Opinion Owner]

Time will tell regardless. One thing I know for sure, you never know. Man or woman, some are terrific actors/actresses. Not trying to dampen this for you, it certainly seems like he wants more, and I'd "assume" he does until he proves otherwise, but my point is only time will tell for sure. You can also gauge anyone's interest in you by their actions. Do they take a genuine interest in you as a person and your life. That's the major one that's often over looked or people ignore.

[Opinion Owner]

But some "players" will go on 2 or 3 dates for sure. Especially if they are seeing more than one woman at a time.

[Opinion Owner]

It depends on the guy also. Like sometimes it will be a certain "conquest" and type of woman he wants at the time also (not necessarily about sex with ANY woman, but you specifically for whatever reason). So it might put in "extra" effort in that situation. Some guys are like that sometimes. Especially younger guys.

[Asker]

He’s 25 and yes he does take interest in me as a person :)) we have deep conversations about philosophical topics hahah and our professional lives too, about our ambitions etc. He has told me that he actually likes my personality more than my looks

[Leavesbound]

I don't know because I don't look just for sex. If we're having sex it's because I haven't ruled you out as a potential future wife. But I believe that you will find that guys who only want sex will tend not to be willing to engage in a lot of non sexual activities on a date and depending on the park, going to the park is usually a non sexual activity.

[exitseven]

Maybe he likes you for more than sex. It is possible.

[Caliguy88]

Well probably not just sex. But I’ll go on dates and even 2nd dates sometimes where I’m not looking for anything. So might not be only sex but also might not be looking to date... At this point in my life it’s nice to meet new people and if sex happens, great.

[MasterKS]

he just want pussy!