Girls, when getting fingered, do you NEED lube or do you get wet enough?

[Anonymous]

[MichelleJustAsking]

Have you ever gone down a slide wearing no pants? That's what it feels like when you try to stick things up there when we aren't wet.

You don't put your fingers up there to get her wet, you put them up there AFTER she's wet.

Foreplay gets her wet... but don't start with your fingers down there as foreplay.

Try kissing all over her body slowly... kiss her neck... stroke her arms.. suck her nipples... basically get that engine running and get her wet and THEN start to put your fingers down there to rub her clit first and then work closer to inserting them.

Lube is good for when she isn't wet (for a variety of reasons which I can expand on if you want)... but remember; girls all need different stimulation to get wet and aroused. You have to actually ASK her what gets her going. It's not like we are instantly wet. You have to warm us up. Some women get wet fast... some slow. But don't ever skip over turning her on or you will end up with a girl who loses interest in sex all together because if you are ready to go and she isn't, it will just make sex feel like work.

Remember... girls are like a pot of water on the stove. It takes us longer to heat up and get ready for sex. Guys are like a bowl of water in the microwave. Usually good to go in 30 seconds or less.

The reason sex dissipates in relationships, is usually because the guy stops putting in effort to turn her on... so the sex just feels like work to her. Then she obviously doesn't want to do it as often.

I realize that there may be other reasons guys stop putting in effort (like if she lets herself go) that are completely on the woman, but let's each acknowledge the roles we play.

Guys need to keep putting in effort to pursuing her and making her in the mood for sex. Girls need to keep putting in effort to appreciating her man. Essentially, we all need to keep putting in the same level of effort as we did when we were initially dating.

And I'm sure that's more than you wanted to know for a simple question about lube HAAHAA!

[Asker]

Hahaha that was all really unnecessary because I know exactly how to treat a lady and how to get a wet etc. What I wanted to know was when we finger you do you dry up fast and need lube or do you stay wet enough. But thank you for that effort :)

[Anonymous]

It depends on the level of arousal that has occurred before the act.
If a guy just starts mauling my vagina without any foreplay or mood starting romance... chances are I will be dry. I NEVER use lube, if a guy can't get me wet properly... he isn't getting any.

A good sexual partner takes time and doesn't go for the goods right away, and when they do it's WELL prepared and ready for action.

[Drooogie4]

It depends on the day. The pill can really mess with that.

[Asker]

Thank you :) but under normal circumstances and no external factors?

[Drooogie4]

Yes, normally I can if it isn't for that.

[CommieDearest]

A finger isn't even worth my trouble. Yawn.

[Asker]

So you're too loose for a finger?

[CommieDearest]

It's like the grand canyon down there.

[Asker]

Please, please, please!!, distorted vision arising x_x

[CommieDearest]

Sounds like something that's my problem exactly not at all.

[Asker]

Sorry I don't understand your English?

[CommieDearest]

Your issues with my answer... are not my problem. Sorry I didn't give you the masturbation material you were desperately seeking.

[Asker]

Lol I was joking though. When I said distorted vision I was just kidding just as your comment of canyon was you just kidding. Good terms?

[Nylena]

usually no need for extra lube

[Asker]

You're hot as fuck so

[TazWax]

I get overly wet

[Asker]

That's a good thing isn't it?

[TazWax]

Lol, my boyfriend thinks it's a great thing.

[Asker]

The wetter you get the better rough fast sex feels

[TazWax]

Yeah I know that ;)

[Asker]

So you like it rough ;)

[TazWax]

Ahahahaa I like sex. Rough, slow it doesn't matter.

[Asker]

How often do you get it

[TazWax]

Now that it's summer almost everyday.

[lafemme]

if he just goes for it without any other contact then it'll be too dry. but usually after some kissing and touching im set!

[Asker]

Can I set you up?

[lafemme]

aha what do you mean?

[Asker]

Can I make you wet enough :p

[lafemme]

i doubt it anon

[Skittles90]

Never needed lube for anything vaginal.
Especially when i get goin, squirting. Need a towel or 2 then. ;)
Apparently, menopause is when the dryness hits. Oh, stay away menopause!

[ClariceOwen23]

I never need lube. I get wet enough quickly

[Asker]

Do you Like being fingered?

[Anonymous]

I can get wet enough for a finger or two. I don't really have a problem with getting wet enough, but lately I've been thinking about trying lube with my guy. He's well endowed and sex can be painful and I'm typically always sore after just purely based on his size (I was a virgin before him). Condoms and his size gradually dry me up a little.

[Anonymous]

Foreplay is usually needed first, but I don't -need- lube.

[Asker]

Yes of course, though fingering is part of foreplay

[Opinion Owner]

I meant like, kissing, touching and rubbing places other than going directly there. Otherwise it's dry and will be painful. Soft sensual touches down the arm, kissing my neck etc will get me going.

[Asker]

Do you like being fingered?

[Opinion Owner]

It's ok sometimes.

[Asker]

Do you like clit rubbing?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah that is better.

[Asker]

Nipple sucking?

[Anonymous]

If he gets me turned on before hand nothing is needed if not then yes it's needed

[Asker]

How long can you get fingered for before it dries up?

[Opinion Owner]

As long as he keeps me aroused but usually it always leads to more so...

[Anonymous]

i get wet enough

[Asker]

For how long?

[Anonymous]

Depends. Personally touch and makout a little before hand 5-10 min I get turned on enough and wet enough without lube.

[Anonymous]

As long as I have had enough time to get turned on I'm usually fine. If you just dive right in, no kissing or messing around beforehand then yeah I haven't had time for my body to do the work and then lube is needed

[Asker]

But that's no fun for the girl

[Opinion Owner]

What's no fun?

[Opinion Owner]

The lube? I don't mind it once in a while if we're both just into the moment and wanna dive on in

[Asker]

No foreplay is not fun for the girl

[Asker]

Like if I don't kiss You, rub those thighs. Kiss the neck. Rub and lick the nipples then you won't be wet and its no fun and so selfish to the woman

[Opinion Owner]

My boyfriend and I both enjoy foreplay for sure! He works out of town for extended periods so sometimes we're both so charged up that that is foreplay enough in itself lol. Just depends. But yes, foreplay is fun for girls and should be fun for both parties involved!

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not saying no foreplay should be involved, 9 times out of 10 foreplay should be involved and is fun and makes things a lot better but for those times that you're both so charged up, with my boyfriend and I when that happens sometimes we just kiss for a couple short minutes and then hop right in lol but even at that I still don't usually need lube.

[Anonymous]

Depends, usually my body self-lubricates but it can be helpful if they guy wets his fingers (like in his mouth) before fingering me if I'm not soaked yet.

[Asker]

Spit dries up quickly

[Opinion Owner]

I'm saying for the very first finger (s) that you stick-in... it's painful if there is no lubrication and sometimes spit is your best option.

[Asker]

If i put my finger in with a "come here" motion what's gonna happen?

[Opinion Owner]

If I'm already turned on I'm usually already wet. If you do that the correct way it generally feels good and produces more natural lubrication.

[Asker]

On that gspot ;)

[Anonymous]

Some do, some don't, also depends on mood

[Asker]

You personally?

[Opinion Owner]

Oh, shush, you! All women.

[Asker]

Lol you're adorable! :)

[Opinion Owner]

Why THANK YOU! This is adorable me...

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[Asker]

Just puked on my textbook

[Opinion Owner]

You didn't find it alluring? I'm not your average woman!

[Anonymous]

Wet enough

[Asker]

Thanks girl