Girls, when getting fingered, do you NEED lube or do you get wet enough?

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MichelleJustAsking · Accepted Answer

Have you ever gone down a slide wearing no pants? That's what it feels like when you try to stick things up there when we aren't wet.

You don't put your fingers up there to get her wet, you put them up there AFTER she's wet.

Foreplay gets her wet... but don't start with your fingers down there as foreplay.

Try kissing all over her body slowly... kiss her neck... stroke her arms.. suck her nipples... basically get that engine running and get her wet and THEN start to put your fingers down there to rub her clit first and then work closer to inserting them.

Lube is good for when she isn't wet (for a variety of reasons which I can expand on if you want)... but remember; girls all need different stimulation to get wet and aroused. You have to actually ASK her what gets her going. It's not like we are instantly wet. You have to warm us up. Some women get wet fast... some slow. But don't ever skip over turning her on or you will end up with a girl who loses interest in sex all together because if you are ready to go and she isn't, it will just make sex feel like work.

Remember... girls are like a pot of water on the stove. It takes us longer to heat up and get ready for sex. Guys are like a bowl of water in the microwave. Usually good to go in 30 seconds or less.

The reason sex dissipates in relationships, is usually because the guy stops putting in effort to turn her on... so the sex just feels like work to her. Then she obviously doesn't want to do it as often.

I realize that there may be other reasons guys stop putting in effort (like if she lets herself go) that are completely on the woman, but let's each acknowledge the roles we play.

Guys need to keep putting in effort to pursuing her and making her in the mood for sex. Girls need to keep putting in effort to appreciating her man. Essentially, we all need to keep putting in the same level of effort as we did when we were initially dating.

And I'm sure that's more than you wanted to know for a simple question about lube HAAHAA!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It depends on the level of arousal that has occurred before the act.
If a guy just starts mauling my vagina without any foreplay or mood starting romance... chances are I will be dry. I NEVER use lube, if a guy can't get me wet properly... he isn't getting any.

A good sexual partner takes time and doesn't go for the goods right away, and when they do it's WELL prepared and ready for action.

Drooogie4 · Answer

It depends on the day. The pill can really mess with that.

CommieDearest · Answer

A finger isn't even worth my trouble. Yawn.

Nylena · Answer

usually no need for extra lube

TazWax · Answer

I get overly wet

lafemme · Answer

if he just goes for it without any other contact then it'll be too dry. but usually after some kissing and touching im set!

Skittles90 · Answer

Never needed lube for anything vaginal.  Especially when i get goin, squirting. Need a towel or 2 then. ;) Apparently, menopause is when the dryness hits. Oh, stay away menopause!

ClariceOwen23 · Answer

I never need lube. I get wet enough quickly

Anonymous · Answer

I can get wet enough for a finger or two. I don't really have a problem with getting wet enough, but lately I've been thinking about trying lube with my guy. He's well endowed and sex can be painful and I'm typically always sore after just purely based on his size (I was a virgin before him). Condoms and his size gradually dry me up a little.