When girls use toys and can't last a more than a minute, doesn't that mean they cum prematurely?

[chris_987]

I'm trying to figure out how they shame man for doing the exact same thing as them, if they can't last either.

[Subglacial]

Probably because the guy's orgasm is usually considered to be the end of sex, at least that round of it. If the guy stops before the girl feels satisfied, she'll feel... well, unsatisfied.

"Why does sex continue if the girl gets off first?"

It might not. If the girl becomes too sensitive after having an orgasm, or she wants to stop for any other reason, the guy might leave similarly unsatisfied, with uncomfortable blue balls to boot. Historically, however, girls' pleasure has not been a priority for their male partners, and they might not have a say in whether or not sex happens. Until relatively recently, Western medicine didn't think women could have orgasms, so that wasn't even a consideration.

A man's ability to perform in bed is also tied to his masculinity in many people's eyes. If he doesn't do a good job, he might be seen as "less of a man". Women, in contrast, aren't judged by their ability to take dick - they don't even necessarily need to do anything to satisfy their partner.

Whether or not these expectations are fair is another question entirely. These are my observations, not my opinions.

There are also more practical reasons for why "premature" orgasms are different for men and women. Some (most?) women are capable of having multiple orgasms, so they might want to continue. Most (all?) men, in contrast, have a refractory period immediately after climaxing and are physiologically incapable of having another orgasm for several minutes at the least. The guy can keep going for the girl's sake, but it might be difficult for him to stay hard.

[oddwaffle]

Because a girl can cum multiple times in a session? A guy needs at least 15 min to recharge and probably not going to last more than 4-5 times. A girl can go for hours.

It's not about orgasms. It's about stamina. If you rod can last non-stop for a hour then I doubt she will care of you orgasm in midway or not.

[Guy13]

It means that their boyfriend isn’t getting job done and that’s why they have to both use the toy and then cum at lightening speed.

[Summeroflove]

Because they’re degenerates. There is many people who have double standards. Both men and women. When they do something and turn around and bitch about the other sex doing it.

[Guardian45]

Dude, you have a LOT to learn about women.

[chris_987]

You have a lot to learn about common sense, premature ejaculation was a disorder simply because it was a man. A girls reaching an orgasms in the same time from is seen as the guy know what he's doing. So go back to simp hole you crawled out off

[Guardian45]

Dude, I'm a paramedic. You're the simp.

[juliarox99]

Not at all.

[chris_987]

Lol ignorant

[Anonymous]

What?

[chris_987]

Girls cum fast too but it's only bad when a guy does it

[Opinion Owner]

I understood your question, but I was just seeing if you've left the planet. Most people are far too stupid to talk to people who reply to them. Good for you for not being one of them. As long as you're not too lazy to finish the job, she will be knocking on your door and wanting more. You might be surprised how many guys just don't give a shit. I think that most guys care, but some just don't. I like penetration, because it's probably the most intimate thing in life. But it won't get the mass majority of women to the finish line. If you know and can accept that, you will be a good lover. Women feel guilty for not coming as fast as a guy might like, but what can she do? It's a partnership, and you need to work with your partner. Just talk to her and NEVER be judgmental. If you have the ability to bring humor into the bedroom, women will love you.

[chris_987]

Well to be honest most girls are choosing guys who don't care about them, so I'm not surprised that most girls are making love to selfish guys. If being in love with a girl is a turn of too most women then they can't complain when they end up with guys that are only there to get there dick wet.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't agree, but I respect your view.

[chris_987]

You respect that I'm wrong ok that doesn't make sense

[Opinion Owner]

I don't respect that you're wrong, but since you've made up your mind, it really doesn't matter. You will never change, so it doesn't matter. Read your original question, and then read the hatred it morphed into.

[chris_987]

Could it be that anything negative said about a woman is seen as hatred. Don't you think shaming men for cumming quick was seen as hatred? Or is it only hate when you point out the same thing in women

[Opinion Owner]

I bet that deep down you're a fun guy.

[chris_987]

I don't know why you think asking a question means I hate an entire sex. But humour you a bit. Ok try to follow along because your about see how my mind works. Growing up on tv there would always be a gag about the guy who came to quickly during sex. It was seen as a a source of shame for men. And for girls there was even songs about it. Missy Elliott sang a song about how she doesn't want a one minute man, even though she was gay. So basically it was ok in society to Shame men for not lasting I'm bed. Ok now enter the new era of sex toys were we've figured out the clit has more nerve endings than the head of the penis, and we've developed toys that can directly stimulate that part. And now girls are cumming faster than the guys they used to make fun of. So I wondered how come girls first inclination was to shame men for not lasting I'm in bed. But now that women are being stimulated by toys and cumming just as fast as men, why aren't men shaming women for not lasting. Long story short I just think woman as the weaker more insecure sex their main tactics is to shame and emasculate men. Which ashamed because you guys still need us to protect you. But we're not gonna want to protect someone who doesn't respect us

[Opinion Owner]

I still think you're a nice guy. Women struggle when it comes to orgasms. Take your lady to the toy store and show her that you care. If you can manage that, she will reciprocate. Biology is what mother nature invented it to be. Mother nature is all about increasing the population. More cavemen inseminating the cave women, means increasing the population. If you're asking for help or ideas, then take that approach.

[chris_987]

Ok thanks for the advice

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome. But we spent a bunch of wasted time arguing, when we could have been making a plan for you. I thought that was what this site was about.

[chris_987]

Plans are easier to make in real life