When he prefers porn to sex/oral with you?

My boyfriend recently expressed how he gets extra turned on when we watch porn during sex/oral which I do to but not all the time... it seems he’s making it a habit to want to watch it every single time we do anything. I feel like he prefers or imagines he’s doing it with another girl rather than me and I’ve expressed this multiple
times but he sums it up to me being insecure. But the moment I watch the porn I like (BBC) he feels some type of way and I’m a whore and a slut who just wants to fuck a black guy? I e never judges what he watches so why is he judging me?
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Superb Opinion

  • There are actually studies that show porn can be significantly more addicting than sex. And most guys have an addiction to pornography. It is extremely common. Some guys embrace that addiction, others like myself struggle to end it. You have every right to be uncomfortable with it. He should try to overcome that addiction for you. If he can't at least try to do that for you, then he's not worth your time. But if he does try to stop, please have empathy for him when he fails. It is extremely hard to end an addiction.

    • Let me put it this way, an addiction isn't something you can cut half way. You either cut it entirely or fall back into it after a while.

    • I agree and I’ve asked him not to but then I would watch it so I became a hypocrite. Then I finally put aside my feelings and embraced it by joining him but NOW it’s like he can’t get hard or want anything with me unless porn is involved

Most Helpful Guy

  • He definitely has an addiction and tbf I understand why he’d feel a type of way about what you watch he probably feels inadequate “downstairs” and you watching BBC porn most likely really gets to him. he should probably work on not watching so much porn and be more in the moment with you and you should probably reassure him that you’re with him for a reason and that what you watch is all fake and fantasy.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • If he prefers porn to vaginal sex or oral sex with you, he has a problem. Likely a serious issue.

  • I'm gonna get rude.
    It's time for a new man.
    If it takes porn for him to enjoy being with you then he's gay.
    It ain't the actresses holes he's looking at.
    It's those monster cocks.

  • Find someone else. He’s obviously damaged goods.

  • I think it’s time you dump his ass and find someone a little older and more mature.
    Someone who gives all his attention to you.

  • It sounds like he watches too much porn and he’s insecure, it’s affecting your sex love.

  • its ok here and there not all the time

  • Not so wasbi there then are you or is he gay?

    • I mean he’s never expressed or shown any gay tendencies

    • I could only do that if I didn't like a gal or care what she thought about me needing that not her.

  • He is into dreaming only and doesn't like it real?

  • It’s OK to watch once in a while but most times I never needed to