When he says "this is all mine during sex" how should I react?

[Anonymous]

So this happened during sex earlier and chill it's dirty talk, inner me is like no you are your own strong woman and you only belong to yourself, where as the other part of me is like should I just not read into it that much

[s2cal]

Abuse effects people in different ways.
I don't know anything about you and your boyfriend so I can only make assumptions when I say he most likely doesn't mean any harm when he says you're all his and other things of that nature.
However, if you are having negative feelings about him doing that the best thing you can do is talk to him about it. You've experienced trauma and it is effecting you in the bedroom negatively. There is nothing wrong with that and it's not your fault. If he truly cares for you he will hear you out and do his best to understand. Communication is key in any successful relationship especially when sensitive topics need to be addressed.
Doing nothing will not help you solve this problem. If it bothers you then let him know.

[truthbeknown]

OMG, relax!!! He is just appreciating you and your body and happy only he gets to enjoy it and no body else. WTF is wrong with you people! Further proof to not date someone who was assaulted/abused because they are damaged goods and now think everything every guy does is evil!

[Asker]

I don't think every guy is evil, i have a trigger. I think that most people are generally good. But sometimes I struggle to respond the certain things and phrases because I've not heard them in a loving way before. I'm not damaged fuck you

[fufusion]

exactly what she said don't read into it so much. saying your his during sex doesn't make him possessive just appreciative that you're "his" not owned but his as in you belong to each other in a romantic way. if it still bothers you, talk to him maybe he can explain to you his feelings and reassure you that it isn't being said with a negative meaning

[Sha84]

dump this pervert as soon as possible, your body belongs to you only. he is developing a dominant master - slave relationship with you

[truthbeknown]

Really? He's a pervert for having desire for his girlfriend? Bedroom is pretty cold at and lonely at your place, eh babe?

[TazWax]

Don't read into it. It is sexy.

[dannymexico90]

Well that's the problem. If you where abused like that you have to make it clear to this new guy what your triggers are.

[boochie0]

Should be glad

[Trifulnoop]

Yeesh. You sound like such a joy to bone.

[masterkamasutra]

grab his dick and tell its all mine.

[Anonymous]

Say "Take me baby"

What does you being a "strong woman" have to do with anything?

[Asker]

Just feels really possessive makes me feel trapped and uncomfortable

[Opinion Owner]

I don't get that but okay then...

[Opinion Owner]

Okay i read your update and I understand a bit now. You do have to realize that saying "you're mines" is totally normal in a relationship so you can't be too surprised if a guy tells you that. Maybe you should talk to him and let him know your struggles so he can maybe ease of a bit until you're comfortable.