When I was raped I got really wet but I did NOT enjoy it, what does that mean?

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  • Mind and body can be very disconnected from each other. To get a bit Freudian here: the body is controlled by a carnal force at times, a distant you, which Freud called the "Es", or the It. Like an animal, it lacks higher desires beyond eating and procreating. On the contrary, the "real" you, the so-called "Ich", or just the I, is much more disconnected form the shallowness of the It. The I has desires, likes and dislikes, emotions, thoughts. This is basically you, minus the self-controlling part. The IT and the I are in constant disagreement, as their goals more often than not dont align.
    So, to get to the point: What your body did has nothing to say about how you feel about things. You own your body, not the other way around - If you dont enjoy something, you dont enjoy it, no matter how the physical, carnal you reacts.
    That said, i hope you have professional help, because this site and others is no substitute for a therapist, counselor or psychologist. I recommend and urge you to get professional help, if you haven't already.
    Stay strong, you deserve to feel good about what you do and be happy whit who you are.

  • could mean subconsciously you like being forced you like a dominant man taking things does not mean your ad normal or anything is wrong but I understand that part of what you're saying

    • You should be ashamed of yourself. If you don't know the answer, don't get involved in the conversation. A woman doesn't get wet during a rape because she secretly liked it. The body's natural response to a situation like rape is to produce lubrication so as to limit the physical damage that could occured from the forced penetration. You implying that she subconsciously enjoyed her own rape is beyond wrong.

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  • Ignore all of the people telling you that it means you subconsciously liked it, or it 'wasn't really rape'.

    Getting wet or even climaxing from rape is far more common than you'd think. Both are partially mental responses, but mostly physiological erections from the body to sexual stimuli. The body doesn't care if it's consensual or not- it simply responds in the same way to physical stimuli (like a penis being inserted or about to be inserted) regardless.

    All that means is that your body was functioning properly, despite the fact that the circumstances were ones you were put into against your will.

    • I am 100% sure I didn't like it. Thanks so much :)

  • It was a normal reaction of the body. Even if you didn't enjoy it, your genitals acted by themselves if they makes sense at all, besides, you can still look at the bright side of this horrible situation, the fact that your vagina was wet probably helped to avoid or reduce the chances of internal injuries. I'm sorry you had to go through that. Even if we don't know each other im here for you if you need me, anytime.

    • Thank you offer :) I not need now to talk. :)

  • You didn't enjoy it your vagina is a self cleaning machine if it's stimulated it will go in overdrive to keep clean hence the wet... before your period you leak a lot of fluid you need to wear a pad even though you haven't had sex or thought about it...
    Along with that his own penis secretions like pre cum as well

    Don't feel guilty about it though... you didn't enjoy it

    • Thanks sweetie :)

    • It's that very natural thing the body does that stops a lot of women reporting rape! they think they got wet they must of enjoyed it when in fact that's false.. :( these men who said u enjoyed it have no idea about women at all

  • Some girls have rape fantasies etc. You might enjoyed getting fucked forcefully and all that, but hated the face you were getting raped on the spot.

    • That is the most ludicrous thing I have ever heard. Women don't get wet from rape because they secretly like it. It is a body's natural response to produce lubrication so that there is as little damage as possible. It has nothing to do with whether they enjoyed it or not.

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  • It means your body reacted but it wasn't because of what was going on in your head.

  • Body's natural reaction.

    • so girls are supposed to get wet when they are raped?

    • No. Not "supposed to"... it's something that happens naturally to your body... it's being touched so it happens... not cause the person like someone it... that's different... especially if this rape is done on someone who has never had sex, it will be even more hurtful even if it gets wet. It's just awful to think a rape victim is enjoying it simply because she got wet... it's an involuntary thing that happens.

  • It means absolutely nothing. It's just your body's natural reaction and does not mean you enjoyed or wanted it.

    When you're tickled, you laugh no matter whether you like it or not, right?

    • A lot of people say that and I agree. The problem is I do not always get wet when stimulate. And it was so much. So I always think why. I am 100% sure I not enjoy it.

    • I agree with what the other girl said, about your body trying to help you because it was in pain. I hear that happens sometimes.

    • Thanks :)

  • Well first, I'm very sorry that happened to you. The fact that you got wet does not mean anything. Your body was just reacting to physical stimulation. It's very common and it does NOT mean you liked it or wanted it to happen. It's just a biological response. Please ignore the people who say otherwise, they don't know what they're talking about.

  • Lubrication is a physiologic response to physical stimulation. It means nothing more than that.

    • i know but it has been stimulated before and not got lubricated.

    • Sometimes, there are other physical factors which can interfere with physiologic responses such as lubrication. For example, low estrogen levels are associated with reduced lubrication.

    • I guess I'll never know

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  • It's just your body reacting to physical stimulation and what it is supposed to do to protect the Vagina from being significantly damaged on the inside and bleeding.

  • That means, that "Sex" & "sexual incitement" is allways INTOXICATION :-O... but never a real NEED ! "Sex" NOT "love making". So there can be NO real Satisfaction in it ! "Sex" is the avoidance of Intimacy & closeness ! ... Every "Sex" is always "violation" ! :-O :-( It´s NEVER bodily love.
    Sad & shocking , but true... but also a RELIEF, don´t you think? :-/
    All my Life, I was afraid, that "Sex" could PROOF to be a REAL need ! :-O

    • you're right

    • did you have a stroke while you wrote this?

    • @Buttcake a-greed

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  • It means your bodily functions are working as intended. They got triggered by sexual que's and prepared your vagina for intercourse. These instincts are completely separate from consent so other then the physical response that your body was ready for intercourse it means absolutely nothing. It doesn't mean you enjoyed it, it doesn't mean you consented, it means absolutely nothing on a mental scale because the one who decides the meaning is you.

  • It means your body was trying to protect you from injury to the extent it could. Friction without lubrication would lead to greater injury, so your body took care of it. Very common in these cases and has nothing to do with normal arousal.

    • Thanks sweetie :)

  • A certain amount of vaginal lubrication is always present.

  • that your biology is working properly.

    we can get hard and not be aroused so women getting wet and not liking it is understandable

  • It got wet because it hurts. It was trying to help you

    • Yes I want to think that also thanks :)

    • I heard it happens to lots of rape victims

  • Some women have been known to orgasm during rape. It's not any fault of the woman's, it's her body's natural response to stimulation.
    She doesn't want it, didn't ask to be raped and having an orgasm or feeling any stimulation makes a horrible experience even more traumatic.

  • Obviously you did on a subconscious level not being raped but the act of being physically dominated.

    • I don't think so. Maybe it is just natural reaction?

    • I do, most women do like being dominated, it's an evolutionary thing. And well generally if you are wet it's because your turned on or because of physical stimulation but usually it's the first one.

    • What a load of absolute nonsense when men pretend to know anythin about a woman Is that the same as a man who wakes up with an erection even though they weren't dreaming about sex? Unfortunately the body goes against the grain... the vagina will secrete fluid if it's being manipulated to do so... the muscles are being worked so even in rape her body is working

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  • Women lubircate themselves in case of sexual penetration. 1000s of years ago there was no such big deal about "being raped". It just happened. So in order to prevent physical damage from the forceful penetration, the body lubes up.

    • It is a big deal :(

    • It isn't. It's a natural reaction from your body to avoid physical damage. It's self-preservation.

    • I mean rape. It is a big deal. Effect my life.

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  • You secretly enjoyed it

    • troll, whatever

    • Then don't ask the question

  • It means you were raped. Your body got wet to protect it from further damage. Being wet doesn't mean you were wanting it.

    There are people who orgasm, they still don't enjoy it.

  • If you want to message me we can talk, i know a bit about these kinds of things i learn from friends

    • I am ok thank you offer :)

  • getting wet is just a biological reaction to that area being stimulated

    • i know but it has been stimulated before and not got wet.

    • for you it may be more of an emotional reaction than purely physical. not saying you enjoyed it, but emotions that quicken your heartbeat.

    • maybe, i am really emotional

  • It was a physiological response. We have the reptilian brain and the rational one. The reptilian brain has to do with our primitive instincs and even in situations we don't consent it can react. Unfortunately rapist are gorvern by primitive desires and by that been so the best that could ever happen to them is lifetime is prison. He may force you to have sex with him but you got the last word with what you decide to with your life, there is always a choice. Unfortunately many woman suffers sexual harassment, even rape from guys who don't give a fuck. There is a lot to be done.

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