When in a relationship do you think you have a duty to satisfy your partner’s sexual needs?

[Kerryk88]

Do you think you should have sex with your partner even if you’re not really in the mood?

[Lliam]

Absolutely.

Even if a guy can't get it up, he still has a tongue and fingers. He should be ready, willing and eager to satisfy his partner's needs.

The same thing should apply if he is in the mood and the she isn't. She has hands, a mouth and a pussy. She should well know what they are for.

Intercourse for women isn't always about achieving orgasm, anyway. A woman doesn't even have to be turned on to have sex. Theoretically, she could be smoking a cigarette and texting while he gratifies himself. But most women enjoy pleasing their partner and the feeling of penetration, even if it's just a quickie for his benefit.

So, unless she genuinely doesn't feel well, there is no reason not to let her man have a slice. And a guy should be equally considerate. That attitude will make for a very happy relationship.

And, of course, there will be lots of instances when you ARE both in the mood and have time to frolic. Just supplement those with one sided gifts. 😃 I mean, if someone asks for a favor, why not take a few minutes and be nice to them.

[Finchie40]

Just depends on how long you aren’t in the mood , it’s ok to say no but not ok to constantly say No , when you constantly say No and making your partner frustrated sexually you are making a selfish decision because you are only thinking of yourself and not thinking how your partner might be feeling , sex is very important in a relationship, when sex fades so does the relationship , you are allowing fire to enter the relationship and causing resentments between you and your partner , so if you don’t feel like having sex please
Your partner in other ways , give him a blow job let him to try fuck you give him a hand job still make him feel valued , if I don’t want sex with a girl I would still please her in other ways to show I love and care about her , I will finger her and eat her and let her have an orgasm so if I am doing that for her she sure as hell can do that for me , if she constantly denies me then she can’t be surprised when I tell her I don’t want this relationship anymore because there are other girl that want a man that wants to fuck , I am not
Going to stay committed to someone that constantly denies me sex sorry I won’t cheat but I will make it clear that this relationship isn’t for me , you have to remove selfishness for each other , sex wasn’t an issue in the beginning of the relationship so when it becomes an issue you are
Destroying what you and your partner started with , don’t strong someone along for your selfishness if you like someone else or want to bang someone else end it with your partner don’t keep them around to weigh your options

[katiesmuff]

Duty is a bit of a strange way to say it, but I consider a relationship that period of time where you and your partner are exclusive, and it is a learning experience for the both of you as far as compatibility goes which includes his or her sexual wishes. If it appears there will be huge differences in your thinking it's where you break it off with no harm no foul. You certainly wouldn't go forward supposedly to marriage knowing we have issues already.

[DizzyDesii]

My first relationship gave me this mindset and its hard to get away from it. If married, i feel like i’d be obligated to still have sex even when im mad, sad, tired. I mean i can get turned on at the flick of a switch so it shouldn't be hard. But i hate not feeling like i have a choice. However, no sex for the husband for sure if im sick, on my period, or just gave birth. The obligated feeling does not apply to those of simply “boyfriend” status

[DrillBeats]

Would you give head while on your period?

[chrissykerdock]

at the very least you have to give him a blowjob when he says he needs it... anything else is personal i don't think you have to do if your not in the mood... but a blowjob is one thing you have to do as a woman in a relationship.

[NamerOfStars]

To a point. You ultimately retain the right to say no, but if you're asking them to restrict their sexual activity to just you, that kind of brings a reciprocal obligation- at least TRYING to meet them halfway is an important part of keeping the relationship together. There's "I don't really want to do that right now" and then there's "I really don't want to do that right now", you know?

[weysally]

my duty is to provide for him no matter, his duty is to provide for me no matter, so fr we have achieved this, I called it duty, but really its what we both want to do,

[OlderAndWiser]

Within reason, you should WANT to satisfy your partner's sexual needs. If YOU don't do that, are they supposed to masturbate the rest of their life, or go find another sexual partner? Neither of those options sounds good to me.

[Irishgirl02]

Absolutely. I care about him.

[CA4444]

I think we need to have our own limits, it’s definitely not a duty if you haven’t decided it was

[Lowiu]

No you do not have to but you should when you have sex care for his needs and he for yours

[summiter]

Good? Kerry. I think both involved have to be in the mood. But I have to be honest and admit that I have received some great handjobs or bjs when I knew the girl did not want sex or maybe not be in the mood for more.

[LazerBean]

People in a healthy relationship will want to keep eachother satisfied in every area of eachothers lives.

[SnowedIn]

^^^^^^^ this. She said it in way fewer words than I did.

[Berethor]

Yea, if you don't want your partner to cheat or leave, you better keep him satisfied.

[SnowedIn]

The answer to your title question is always in terms of each partner should have in their mind that their goal is to satisfy their partner, for example they have the sex they need and want and have at least one orgasm.

That doesn't, however, mean 100% always even if one partner doesn't want to as connected to your second question.

It just means that a couple who is having sex needs to have the sort of communication in order to solve for when one partner wants sex and another doesn't.

While the answer to your second question might be yes in some circumstances it is not an obligation -- if they're not in the mood, then no, no obligation or duty to have sex.

[mrmonogamous]

You have a duty to do it and you have a duty to WANT to do it. That’s part of a loving relationship.

[BlondeGoneWild]

Absolutely yes

[Summeroflove]

When you are married yes you do. But before that not everything should be about sex. Nobody is entitled to do anything sexual especially if they're not comfortable with it. After marriage yes normal couples want to satisfy their partner but as well as they have mutual respect for boundaries and what one another feels comfortable with doing and not comfortable.

Now if someone says no to sex and someone proceeds anyways that is where you're getting into rape and other similar sex crimes like sexual abuse, sodomy, etc. depending on your laws in your area, and oh yeah sexual assault and there is many more.

[Bricealan]

No, absolutely not. I don't want sex with my partner if she is not in the mood or is not feeling well.

[DJB72]

Maybe sometimes. It's about mutual respect for each other's needs. That can be complicated sometimes.

Even the Bible says not to withhold from each other for too long. A marriage is designed to be a safe place to meet each other's needs - not just sexual but that's a part of it.

[Dargil]

In a voluntary relationship, there are no duties. You just have to do right and please your partner to keep it going. In marriage, it even then is not actually a duty but sexual intimacy is an expression of love.

[mstbooblover]

Sure there's a limit, a grey area I'd say. When not at all in the mood for whatever reason, I don't think there's any obligation to give in, and an attentive partner will understand. On the other hand, being in a relationship means caring for each other, and sometimes, the mood may improve while indulging.

[talka20]

Id say duty or must to satisfy when y'all end up doing... but getting in mood of doing should be like around both sides n if takes time or more effort thats fine

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

To an extent yeah, but in the moment each partner is free to do what they want. But if one partner consistently neglects those 'duties', then that's gonna be a problem.