When it comes to sex, what are the main differences between men & women that you’ve seen, observed, or experienced?

[Anonymous]

•Selectivity
•Preferences
•Interests
•Into casual sex?

[Slingblade1126]

I maybe wrong but in my dating experiences, it seemed when a woman truly falls for a guy, they fall heart and soul and aren't guarded or ashamed. They put it all out there. While a guy tends to be more guarded and reserved. To the point of not committing because something "better" might come along.

[Asker]

Really?

[England4eva]

Men don’t know how to choose a genuine good woman, and women fail to choose a genuinely good guy.

The sweet guys run after an attention seeker and the sweet girls run after a player.

[SaoirseS]

That men have penises, and women have vaginas. I think that’s the main difference. 😀

[Asker]

Well, yes, you’ve described the physically differences but I’m trying for something beyond that. Do you understand what I’m trying to ask? For example, when it comes to casual sex, popular understanding is that men are more interested in this domain as opposed to women. Now, this isn’t to say that there aren’t women who go against this popular understanding, same for the men as well. I think scientifically, we understand well why men favor casual sex and all other things adjacent to it, whereas women do not. Men don’t bear the burden of pregnancy. Men can have children up to a much longer age than women can. Etc. Women are much more selective, sexually, which can be answered by giving the reverse answers for the above points for men.

[SaoirseS]

Yes, I know what you were asking but couldn't resist :-) I think a lot of men are more interested in the primal aspect of sex, and a lot of women are more interested in relationship. I've heard so many times other women saying "men just want one thing," and I've run across a few guys where that was pretty obviously the case. Not to say there aren't plenty of women interested in casual sex, I just haven't run into any (or it's never been a topic of conversation so I have no way of knowing). As far as selectivity and preferences, during my dating time I never concerned myself with looks, appearance, or (especially) height, etc. It was (and is) all about character, personality, sense of humor - no assholes or hateful people for me. Interests don't have to line up, but there has to be enough common ground for me to stay interested in someone. And again on selectivity, since I was never promiscuous, I felt no need to get in bed with some guy to satisfy his urges. That's why a lot of my dating relationships were short-lived, because I wasn't interested in sex and some guys were truly all about that. It's not like someone has to set milestones like "it's date number four so we need to start having sex." But it all depends on the individual.