When me and my wife have sex she doesn't want to take her shirt off

When me and my wife have sex she doesn't want to take off her shirt or bra she wasn't always like this she use to take off everything and and when I asked her about it she says that her boobs hurt and She also tells me she wouldn't have sex if I don't don't ask for it What does all this means
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  • If she doesn't want to take off her shirt, maybe you're making her feel less attractive somehow or she's developed more insecurity herself. If it's just a bra, believe me, I do the same thing because it hurts when they move like that too much. Also when girls have big boobs, they're worried that they'll look saggy whereas the bra holds them up and holds them in place so it won't move and hurt. As for the last part, she's either upset at you for something, very insecure about any of her body, or is actually thinking twice about being with you at all. After clarifying with her that she does love you which I'm sure she does, make her feel attractive. Don't make it sound phony. Make it gradual. It's common for people to say that women lose their attractiveness once they hit 40, so maybe her age is affected her this way.

  • I think she's feeling insecure about her body and you should try and help her get her confidence back. Get her some really sexy lingerie and tell her you'd can't to see how it looks on her. Ask her to model it for you or something and then jump her bones while she's still wearing it. leave the bra on at first and tell her how amazing she feels/looks and then slowly start removing the garments...tell you feel like a kid unwrapping his present Xmas morning and stuff.

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  • She might be insecure about them. I know one time the guy I was dating made a comment about my nipples and even though he meant it as a compliment, it made me feel really insecure and not want to take my shirt off around him any more. Did you perhaps say something about them?

    Who knows, though.. maybe they really do hurt. Sometimes my boobs hurt for various reasons and just the movement from laying down to sitting up hurts really bad. Wearing a bra for support can really help. I'd say this would only be the case if she has bigger boobs though.

Most Helpful Guys

  • I don't now how old this is, but this is definitely something you should see a marriage counselor or sex therapist about, not an web site. Especially when you're married suddenly not wanting to be naked or have sex is a pretty serious deal.

  • two questions;

    1. are her boobs good looking?

    2. is she fat/fit/average?

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  • Ask her to go to the doctor to see if he can do something about the boob pain.

  • Is she large chested? If so moving around a lot can tear the breast's connective tissue and hurt really bad, Maybe buy her a sexy see through bra, but one that also provides support.

  • is she shy about her body?

  • Maybe She's feeling self conscious about herself & is feeling like she's unattractive. If she's scared to take her shirt off she might be worried about how she looks.Even if her boobs did hurt, that's normally not enough to keep cloths on lol She sounds more worried about her body image. Her telling you that she wouldn't have sex if you didn't ask for it another sign. If you don't feel good about yourself than your probably not going to want to have sex.