That definitely depends on the person, the existing chemistry, & the state of mind. If I had to chose the option I've personally experienced the most I would be like you & say definitely a mixture of both, but I can also recall other instances where the connection was just so apparent providing such a symbiotic level of comfort that we both felt for certain illustrated by the chemistry occuring before, during, & afterwards. Leading to an experience that felt almost spiritual as it was physical & in those very few instances there appeared almost a sense of familiarity similar to the feeling of coming home after a long stressful day, taking a hot shower, & jumping into your own comfortable bed & that almost buzzing electric sensation of, "ahhhh, I've been waiting for this feeling a freaking day." Or something like that, if that makes any sense once so ever.
There has also been instances where perhaps that wasn't even a factor responsible for the overwhelming comfort, but was as a result of alcohol intoxication providing a tangible level of comfort being in that you're both drunk, having fun, & are both aware, but comfortable that your inhibitions are responsible for this occasion that simply breaks down to two human beings having fun, exploring, & making each other feel good physically. This phenomena can maintain it's momentum before & during but has the potential to breakdown afterwards if not careful once the alcohol wares off & the realization that that experience was largely inauthentic & was completely propped up with the help of alcohol, & although it was fun & felt good you're left with the unfortunate realization that that experience can't actually be duplicated with the assistance of alcohol, yet that authentic connection is something you absolutely yearn for but don't currently possess leading you to engage in reckless activities like one night stands to simply achieve a simulated feeling of what I described in the first paragraph. I probably should have just picked one of the multiple choice answers, cause I'm terrible at communicating my thoughts regarding something like this, but hopefully the just came across.
I'm nervous when I go on a first date. I asked her out because she's pretty and I hope we hit it off.
Once we get to the point of having sex for the first time, I'm just excited. I can't wait to see and touch her naked body. I imagine what she'll do to me and what I'll do to her.
I don't know, but it makes sense to me that girls would be a bit nervous because they have to surrender themselves to a man who is bigger and stronger than them. They are vulnerable. They don't know if the guy will be sensual or rough. What will he do to them?
I don’t know why your comment rubbed me the wrong way lol. Especially the ending, even though it’s true, it totally made me giggle
@hiopinionated_ LOL It rubbed you the wrong way but it's true. That's interesting. I'd like to hear your thoughts. If I was off base, I'm interested in learning.
No, again, you’re totally right. I guess what rubbed me a weird way is the fact that you’re a man and aware of all this. Men always pretend they aren’t dangerous to women so for a man to admit this took me by surprise is all. I guess I giggle at weird times. . 🫢
I have a lot of anxiety the first time with someone, with a little bit of excitement but its usually the man that is worried more than I am, so sometimes I have to calm him other times he just goes right in and that kind of worries me.
Second times are always way better in my opinion.
Mixture of both. I'm confident in my body and all. But will he find anything weird on me? What if he likes something that I can't do? What if he thinks I'm too tight/loose? What if I do something during the act that turns him off entirely? And so on.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I am always excited only. I get why people might be nervous... but I am a pretty confident lover. Not to say I have never been disappointed by a woman... but I was never nervous going into it.
If excitement is not there, then honestly I can't imagine how got to the piont of sex. Only thing I get nervous about is if I will fuck it up prior to the piont of having sex for first time. But once the sex starts, I am like all in... or not at all. Nervous is not part of the equation... its all about physical attraction.
Nervous about what?
I wanna smell and suck your breasts so bad 🥺
It was usually a mixture of both, but now it is with my husband so it's "Oh it's you again" (just kidding I am excited every time we have sex)
A little of both for me.
I don't get nervous on first dates because I've had so many and I know how to act, what to say, shat to do, what not to do, etc. Experience has given me self-confidence. But, sexually, I don't think I'm the ultimate prize that very woman has been hoping for, and I have some anxieties about performance and pleasing my partner.
I’m more nervous but still excited and also curious but I get super nervous because I’m just hoping we both enjoy the sex just as much and there’s no doubts or anything.
Anybody wanna put this theory to the test? If its more of excitement or nervousness 😂😂
I'm just jokin. With the last girl i met... When we got around to kissing, then making out... Then shaking the car around, it wasn't nervous for either of us. She wasn't nervous and i wasn't either because we both wanted it and we werent tryin to be awkward about it. If he is nervous, she might be nervous too. And vice versa. But sometimes for the first time there is no nervousness
The feeling of a new guy makes me cum faster
Honestly i have only managed to mess around with multiple partners… but so far each of them have been mixtures of feelings.
Always (was) both.
Uhm my first time was super nervous, the second was a big mistake... can't remember me being nervous or excited and the thrid... I actually tried to not sleep with him and my mind was full with "no, don't do it" so there was no room for excitement or nervousness
Usually excitement, I was never one for being nervous in the relationship. I usually focused on listening to her and just answering any questions she may have. The same thing applied to sex, just anticipation and wanting to improve upon the connection we already have.
excitement, yes...
nervous, no... never been nervous about it
but I am very selective and I've only done it with few girlfriends I had through this life, so... by the moment it happens, we're always quite into each other and that leaves no room for being uncertain or nervous, very much look forward to it instead
It gets super fierce like a rambo.
Definitely C. Of course there is tons of excitement but there's also nervousness. Will she like this or that? What are her major turn-ons?
I'm always super excited
What excits you the most
Mostly nervous
A bit of both
It's a mixture, with excitement the more important feeling. I'm excited to be with her and pleasure her, and a little nervous... will I perform well enough for her?
Excited Nerves.
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