When you first start having sex, would you rather have a variety of girls, or just one for a long time?

[rachel776]

[TheorionMage]

It is an aspect of nascent emerging sexuality to celebrate the here-to-for 'forbidden' myriad sensations and its 'naughtiness'. Beyond self-stimulation there's the immature 'use' of one's paramour as the subject & means to evoke these novel new sensations both to oneself AND the empowerment to gain mastery in bringing one's partner pleasuring beyond their conscious control to resist. The Bee Gee's ballad: 'The Woman in You Brings Out the Man in Me" Its ''normal' for pre-adolescent curiosity to then seek opportunity to 'test' and laud one's newly-gained life experience to as many a complicit partner, as circumstances affords.

This is NOT 'puppy love' but... the awkward coming-of-age experience of animal arousal Lust... both for Oneself and One's OBJECT/Means-of-Desire~

Intoxicating for BOTH participants, but MOST potentially life-changing if birth control is not employed during vaginal copulation. Statistics cite a 1:4 potential for pregnancy. All OTHER oral / anal / lingual and manual sexual play only risks sexually-transmitted health risks and still allows exploitation of the neurochemical 'feel good' of Orgasmic hyper-stimulation. ; )

[ZackBan]

I think variety is important to start with because it helps get you over the phase of romanticizing sex or believing in soul mates or thinking that out there are better partners out there.

That being said variety is also risky because you can easily fall into the trap of racking up a huge number eventually ruining any chance of a long term relationship with someone decent.

So I'd say a handful of sex partners over a long period of time is good but not a truckload over one summer if you catch my meaning

[summiter]

Great? I wanted to experience sex and some great orgasms with as many wonderful girls as possible... but we all have different values. What are your thoughts?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I think in a perfect world, your first or second time is your biggest heartbreak, you date a lot of people and that will give you the experience and maturity to handle the right one as well as the self awareness to recognize them

[Paul_in_Indy]

Having started, self, by chasing after short sexual encounters, I would recommend starting with someone steady.

Aside from the advantage of being able to practice and improve with someone who knows that you can always try again (because that early sex was not always great, to say the least), think about the effect on an adolescent male of finally -FINALLY- getting some action, but not having any idea when or how he can do it again. That maniacal and unfocused sex drive brought out the worst in my my personality; and it shaped who I became.

I became sexually active at a young age, without a girlfriend and not really wanting to invest in developing a girlfriend. All I could think about was when I could get my dick wet again. Over the years, I’ve become very good at doing that (I surprise myself, sometimes)…but I was a pretty unpleasant person for years while I chased that impulse.

[Paul_in_Indy]

I will say that I learned to be a good first-time lover; because it was almost always the first time. That’s one good trait I developed.

[NathanDavis]

I've only been with my ex-girlfriends... and it was one at the time, lol

[mrmonogamous]

Well, I first started 40 years ago. It was then, has been, currently is, and will continue to be with one person with whom I'm in a committed relationship. I was never a "player". I e had set with 5 different women. I married number 5.

[20yearsolder]

Honestly it depends on the girl, of course the very first time I had sex I wasn't looking for others to do it with. I was shocked that she was willing to do it and that she wanted to do it more so I was pretty content with one

[20yearsolder]

Welcum

[Sevenpointfive]

too late

[DJB72]

It's all about relationship. The longer you're with someone the better the sex gets as long as you keep having it regularly

[Sixgunsound]

Having sex with the same woman for a long time generally turns out better and more fulfilling for both partners, but most older teen and young adult men don’t know that until they get around enough to realize what they’ve been missing out on. It’s a bit of a damned if you do damned if you don’t situation.

[HighValue]

I think being with just one person that you are strongly emotionally attached to is much better. I have never wanted anything casual myself.