When you have sex, who cums first?

[stephanieclt]

Obviously, the question is intended to represent the majority of the time.

And then what happens once the first person finishes?

[MrOracle]

The girl does the vast majority of the time. In fact, it's the exception that she doesn't have at least one, if not several orgasms from foreplay before intercourse even starts. But even on those days when she's begging to go directly to intercourse, she almost always cums first. I attribute that to the fact that I keep her in that mental state nearly all the time, so that she's emotionally connected to me and anticipating the next time we'll have sex, so that, mentally, she's a good ways there before anything even starts. It takes both skill and a good amount of effort to maintain that connection, but it's worth it.

Everyone has off days, where even though you really want or need an orgasm, you just can't seem to get there, and that does happen occasionally, but I figured that out decades ago and learned to accept it and roll on. But a typical session is going to involve 15-30 minutes of foreplay with building intensity, and the girl almost always has 1-3 orgasms before penetration - with a few girls having considerably more.

I've always just considered this my role and responsibility - one that I very much enjoy and do not see as a burden, but rather an opportunity.

[kellytheman]

She needs to cum first no matter what because if I cum first that kind the end of it. I usually make she she cums first going down her. Then during intercourse I do multiple positions that I know I can make a girl cum. Me cumming is the finale but if I cum before her I keep going from more oral sex or finger her pussy and clit. I also might use her sex toy on her if she has one.

[EmyyWolf]

Sometimes me, sometimes him.

But I don’t cum like the girl squirt.

I have orgasms from penetration alone. So I guess I “cum” all throughout the experience.

[petitedollbabee]

Him. I don’t like cumming very often, so I usually don’t during sex, as that’s my preference.

[stratford]

Why don't you like to orgasm very often?

[petitedollbabee]

When I cum, I strain my legs. It’s not something that I control, it’s just a natural reaction. Usually my legs get so strained that I struggle with standing and walking for the following 48 hours. Which impacts my gym and work life, so I don’t like to do it often.

[stratford]

That must be tough. It sounds like your orgasms are very intense?

[YesterdaysChild]

The guy who has premature ejaculation usually.

[nayans]

Out of a total 10 times 6 to 7 times it’s him the rest it would be me

[Orion84]

The goal is for her to cum first, always.

It obviously doesn't always happen that way, but I make a concerted effort for that to be the outcome, every time.

[katiesmuff]

It varies!

[Potteplante]

With majority of men: I never came.

With my late fiance: most of the time me and then we continued.

[turnpost]

Sorry for your loss.

[Paulalove98]

He usually does but I cum shortly after, although I’m always super super wet right away for him and 10x wetter as he fucks me.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

He does but, fortunately, he can remain hard and keep on going until my orgasm is over.

[Apple1996]

It sometimes varies but most of the time he cums first. We always do multiple rounds so doesn't really matter who goes first

[mandyfire98]

I normally cum a couple of times before he does.

[Samantha36]

Definitely me. By the time he cums, iv had 5 to 10 orgasms.

[turnpost]

Any tips?

[BoopBoopBeep]

Well certainly not my hand. Duh...

[Reichmann75]

Depends. If I just met the girl / haven't had sex for quite some time I cum in less than 5 mins so it is me. If I like the girl, I can finish her off with fingers / tongue. If I don't, I just bounce out.

If I do have sex on a daily basis with the girl, she usually cums first.

[Miristheiss]

My wife.

[AviatorTom]

I have to be honest. Usually I cum first, then my cunnilingus to help her to cum, which she doesn't always do.

[Bricealan]

Initially, before I was had any brains, I did. After I got smart, I ate her pussy until she climaxed, and THEN we fucked. That was the rule for me after that first licking/orgasm session.

[Fireguy17]

I try to make sure she cuts first, sometimes 2nd and 3rd.
Sometimes she might be doing something that drives you past the point of no return.
Then I just reach for her favorite vibrator and make sure her happy ending (s) are very happy.

[Drumlin2001]

She usually cums through foreplay before intercourse. I cum in intercourse

[exitseven]

It varies.

[stratford]

I always make sure she cums first. Unless she insists on driving me over the edge, then I do.

[worldscolide]

my wife, first, and repeatedly