When you learn that someone is bisexual, what is your genuine first thought about them?

[Anonymous]

[KathleenYonder]

Good lord, many of these answers are scary. Hi, I'm bi. I don't have any STIs and I've been with three entire sexual partners at 38 years old. Wow. Exciting life full of promiscuity. I have also never cheated but not that it matters.

Also, I don't have a larger dating pool to choose from. As you can see from the votes above and the answers in the comments, people like me are often judged based on stupid shit (aka being bi) and told that we will cheat, or are gross in some way, and are more likely to be rejected by both straight and LGBT people because of that.

And for those who think that I can/should hide that I'm bi from potential partners in the future (I've been in the same relationship for 8 years but let's say hypothetically)--that's a weird choice and I would consider that gross. Also, they will figure it out at some point since I have dated both men and women.

Have a nice day to all of you cool people who are neutral on the topic or positive toward those of us who were just born with a different kind of attraction than you. Please just give us a fucking chance. We are people, individuals, and not some kind of strange, hypersexual hivemind.

[Asker]

The options in a poll were taken from an article I read about how people tend to perceive bisexual people. I gather some have never truly gotten to know anyone bisexual or are projecting a societal construct of what they think they should feel about it, but honestly, I agree with the current poll results, in that I think most people don't really care that much, and have a do you, be you attitude, especially the younger they are.

[Anonymous]

I don’t give someone else’s sexuality a second thought. It’s their business not mine.

[AviatorTom]

TBH, I'm a bit envious of bisexuals. They have a much larger pool of people to choose from for dating and other physical pleasures., than us straight people.

[ManOnFire]

That I don't agree with it but I still treat them with the same respect as I do everyone else. That doesn't change.

[provokeesmokee]

Happy. Because I'm bi, too, and would be happy if I only dated bi people.

Also, bisexuality doesn't necessarily mean gender doesn't matter. Gender agnostic attraction is more accurately refered to as Pansexual.

Bisexual means "attracted to genders both like and unlike your own" - pansexuality is under the bisexual umbrella, but not all bisexuals "don't see gender".

[Rei13]

I honestly believe that if you’re bisexual you’re still more attracted to either same-sex or the opposite-sex since it is on a spectrum. So yeah you like both, both are great, but may still go for one over the other. But honestly it doesn’t really matter. Build your life with whomever brings you the most joy and fulfills you. I really don’t care what someone does behind closed doors so long as it isn’t hurting someone

[EricSummer]

I have no particular thoughts about that. If I knew them more closely as a friend, I would want to ask how it feels different to them to be with a woman compared to a man.

Like this one actress with the eyebrows from that sci-fi flick. She said that with a woman she is dominant but with a man she is submissive. It's the conventional within the unusual I suppose. I found that entertaining to read about.

[scentoflavender]

Good for them. I hope the find happiness

[RobT312]

They like men and women…it doesn’t make them cheaters it doesn’t make them gay or lesbian.

[Anemone978]

I would immediately assume they are very promiscuous...

[ObscuredBeyond]

My first thought is that she's going to lie about everything, be a massive pervert, cheat, and probably be carrying a ton of STDs. Any single one that can prove me wrong about them as an individual, I'm thankful to be wrong. Because I've been right all too often.

[CaptainOverthink]

Larger datingpool. Moving on..

[Berethor]

Probably promiscuous and more likely to cheat, but it might worth it if a man want a FFM.

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/Three-Way_Sex

[Samantha36]

I generally think they're greedy

[Miah05]

Doesn't make a difference

[Miristheiss]

If it was a girl that I had some attraction to I immediately scratched them off as an option because that was a deal breaker.

[Bricealan]

Before COVID, I had a 3 some with a Spanish couple in Fullerton. Wife told me her husband was bi-sexual and it did not bother me a bit. I ate his wife's pussy with him watching. Sorry to say, I could not get hard with his wife afterward and the husband started to jack me off, and I stopped him. No big deal.

[artgorgeous]

They are gay.

[dreamstar72]

Whatever their life not mine

[exitseven]

If it is a girl I wonder if she has any hot looking friends that might be up for a rhreesome.

[Danny_dan92]

They love people

[Tessafowler03]

No thoughts really

[worldscolide]

its irrelevant to me as long as they dont use it as an excuse to cheat.

[Nikki1989]

They are open-minded, so someone I would feel comfortable being around.