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Where do teenagers have sex?

I just don't get it. Teenagers and young adults on G@G are having sex and breeding like rabbits. Where in the world do they get this level of privacy? Where are their parents? Do their parents put any curfews and permissions to limit the number of places they can go and at what time? I'd figure that they may have sex in cars, movie theaters, bathrooms, pools, or even their parents' own bedrooms. But then, wouldn't their parents have to be so absent-minded enough to not know what their kids are doing and not really care? Sorry I have to go on a rant. It's just that, from my point of view, the parents are either not concerned what their kids are doing or are too lax about their children's sexual behaviors.
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  • Well, here in western Europe we have a much more relaxed attitude towards sex than Americans do (we actually sometimes love about Americans being so prudish about everything). My parents (and pretty much all other parents in my country) just let their teenagers have sex in their bedrooms. I have lived in the US for some time and I think there's a huge difference in terms of how teenagers are treated in America vs. western Europe. In America, I feel like teenagers are babied all the time. You don't get any rights whatsoever and everyone does everything for you as though you were some kind of idiot. I even had to ask my teacher in my high school in America for permission to quickly go to the bathroom. I mean... how humiliating is that. In Europe, we raise our kids to be independent at a relatively young age. Once you're 13 or 14, you get quite a lot of privacy and freedom from your parents but you also have a lot of responsibility for your own life. You're expected to act maturely.
    We're also generally very easy going about sex, which is why parents usually talk with their kids about sex (not just in super serious talks but also casually during dinner etc.) and why they don't mind their kids having sex in their bedroom. Our approach in Europe is to educate our kids about sex. That's our way of caring. I believe it's a MUCH better way to handle this topic than American parents who love to play some kind of autocratic dictators pretending their teenagers don't have a sexuality.
    So basically when I was 15 I invited my girlfriend to spend the night at my place. We had dinner together with my parents and after that my girlfriend and me went upstairs to my room. When it was getting late, my dad knocked on my door and came in to say good night. Before he left, he also asked me whether I have condoms and he told me to make sure I use them if we decide to have sex. He knew that it was a possibility that we might have sex since we were gonna sleep in the same bed and he wanted us to be save. I thought it was a very sweet and nice (open minded) way of dealing with the topic and I will definitely do it like that with my kids as well. My girlfriend and I ended up not having sex that night, we just cuddled. But it was still nice to know that we don't have to lie about our sexuality or hide it. In the US, part of the reason why there are so many teenage pregnancies is because American parents pretend their teenagers don't have a sexuality and they make their kids

    • lie about and hide their sex lives and because the kids can't have sex at home (because American parents somehow think that's rude or whatever), they're forced to do it outside in cars or behind bushes and whatnot. That doesn't make any sense whatsoever because if you're concern is that your child is safe, you should rather openly talk with him/her about this topic and let them do it close to you where you could help them if there was an emergency, rather than being all stuck-up and prudish about it and say "in this house you can't have sex!"

    • It is common courtesy to ask to use the bathroom. Teachers may not want students to get out while the teacher is speaking or giving out instructions. That would be considered rude. Sometimes, teachers do give out passes to students who need to use the bathroom, so the students don't hang out in the hallways and smoke weed or do something illegal. Some teachers may explicitly say, "Well, if you gotta go, then you gotta go. Don't even ask." But as far as I know, those types of teachers occur at the university level, not high school level, which makes sense because college students are basically adults. I guess it's different for you in Western Europe, eh?

    • It is. We treat our high school students like college students in the US and the point is: it works. They are treated more like adults and that automatically also makes them behave more like adults. Frankly, apart from the legal problems this might cuz in some US states and countries, I don't think teachers should care about students smoking weed in the hallway. Let's maybe take a less controversial example. Let's say the student isn't smoking weed but he's just hanging out in the hallway or in the lobby talking to other people. Isn't that his problem? For example my chemistry teacher in high school didn't even care if we showed up for class or not. He just told us "look, there will be several difficult exams this term. If you believe you can pass them without doing your homework or coming on time, that's fine. It's your school career, your life, your choice. However, if you end up failing, it won't be my problem either. You alone are responsible for your academic success and I won't

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  • I usually did it in my car unless one of us had an empty house to use. My mom was a stay-at-home, so it usually wasn't my place. I think I just fucked in my car most of the time, or at the house of the family my girlfriend at the time stayed with, they weren't around a lot. And this other chick, at the place she used to babysit at. She used to lock the kids in another room hahaha, I feel terrible about that now😂 But most times I'd just go to an empty beach parking lot in my car and we'd tuck the corners of blankets into the windows to block the view. The cops rolled up on us once because she got loud and a passerby reported it thinking she was in trouble. Oops😂 We'd fuck on the beach sometimes in the summer, but that was kind of sandy even with a blanket, and it was cooler in theory than practice, haha. So it was pretty luxurious anytime we could get a house to ourselves and an actual bed, haha, I couldn't even really start learning to fuck properly til then😝

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  • well my boyfriend and i can't drive so we don't have cars but both of our parents work long hours and r out of the house... its also convenient bc my boyfriend lives a block away from our school lol so its easy 2 go 2 his house when his parents r at work and we have the place 2 ourselves 4 hours. when our parents r home his older brother has his own place that is within running distance (my boyfriend and i r both runners) from both of our houses and the school that he doesn't use unless his school is on break that he lets us use

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  • My parents never cared if I was having sex, so long as I was safe and over the age of consent. We used our car, a park, and our own rooms.
    And as for being a sexually active young adult... parents should have NO say in that whatsoever. They are adults, and can make their own decisions.

  • When I was in high school we did it at our houses when parents were at work. We did it on the beach. We did it on golf courses. We did it in cars. We did it in hotel rooms (prom) we did it in friends houses. We did it everywhere possible. Lol.

  • My husband's ex had a very relaxing attitude about it. I think she started having sex in her house around 14 if not younger. At 15, her and my now husband lived together inbher moms boyfriends home for around 2 years.

    • Wow. I can't imagine living such a lifestyle or having that kind of upbringing. Though, it sort of makes sense, once I get to understand the background that promotes non-committal sex relations and weak emphasis on marriage.

    • I wasn't brought up like that either and I can't imagine myself being like that. I was really angry at him at first for accepting that as right, but I forgave him. If it is a really bad sin, God will judge them later.

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  • When I was a teen I had sex in my bedroom during 5th period, after that usually at their house, my first real boyfriend his mum didn't mind that I slept over and such, he had the basement all to himself so we had a lot of privacy.

  • You can do it anywhere! Park the car and get to it, public restrooms, theaters, anywhere!

  • What century were you born in?

    • 20th century.

  • where there is a will there is a way. Has nothing to do with "parents being too lax"
    what do you want parents to do? hover over the kids non stop?
    I let my kids have privacy. I trust them to do the right thing. They have all the information they need. You cannot stop sex. It will happen. as long as kids are informed they will take the right precautions. it is the morons that think abstinence is realistic that end up with a girl 15 and pregnant. but accidents happen. you can just do your best to hope they don't.

  • I've been with my boyfriend for four years and we haven't had sex though we could anytime if we wanted to. I think it really just depends on the person and their personal values than their parents.

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