Which is harder for you to deal with as a man, a woman who refuses to have sex with you or a woman who has had sex partners before meeting you?

Don't be that person who says neither case bothers you. Just of these two scenarios which hurts or makes you more upset?

I'm just curious because I see both complaints here about how women are either forcing men to be mgtow/incels or that women are "low value" if they have any partners before marriage. So which is worse to you?
A woman who refuses to have sex with me.
Vote A
A woman who has had sex with a partner (s) before I even knew them.
Vote B
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Not gonna lie, I didn't think this would be such a blowout, but of the two I am happier that this one is a winner. Thank you all for participating!
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  • I require my partner to want to have sex with me, and only with me in the present time.

  • I love hearing about my lover's past.

  • Don't mind if she has past sexual partners but if doesn't mind having sex with other men but when it actually time to have sex with me but she chooses to refuse than we have a problem.

  • I lived option A, and it was hell.

  • I'm a follower of the Abstinence lifestyle, so whether someone wants to have sex with me is kind of irrelevant since I don't want them to in the first place. #notouchy

    As far as the issue of having sex before me, I just see it as a cultural difference, and I take a "live and let live" attitude. I don't personally want to be with someone who's already had sex with other guys, since I'm a virgin and I want to start a sexual relationship (within marriage) with someone who is also a virgin so we can discover sex together. I just think that will be a really special and beautiful thing. But as for the people out there who have already had sex, I don't judge them and I have no ill will against them. They're just different from me; that's all. They're following a different life plan. We're kind of parallel to each other watching each other proceed along our own separate paths.

  • I have no problem is she had sex with guys before me. That the past as long she is having sex with me now and nobody else I am fine with. I do have a hard time to deal with a girl if she doesn't want to have sex because I think I have a lot to offer during sex like skills eating pudding and a above average size dick but it's there loss but it's her choice.

  • I feel like I can usually be fine with either as long as we can figure something out.

  • I generally let the women I date that sex is important to me, so they know right off the get that if there is no sex than there won’t be an “us” either.

  • Hm. I think the body count one bothers me the most

  • If a woman does not want to have intercourse, then that is totally alright with me. If that is where she draws the line, then so be it. As long as we love each other, then it is totally okay.

  • A - and the good (or bad) part of that would be to find out why does that happen and learn something new about the woman and myself

  • I dont care about her past unless she has an std tbh so when she doesn't let me

  • Pervious partners don't bother me at all. Not having sex... now that's a problem.

  • Neither is hard to deal with at all.

  • Woman who refuse to have sex

  • I'm not looking for a relationship, so none of this actually bothers me.

    But about relationships, I don't want a person with higher count than me

  • Both women

  • Actually neither. IF a woman does not want to have sex with me, that is her choice. If a woman has had multiple partners before, as long as she is STD free, I don't care,

    • Lol I just said not to say neither. I am glad that neither bother you though. Wish more people had that mindset like yours though 😊

  • the only thing that makes me mad is when i learn another guy hooked up with the same girl as i did but with less effort/drama. Like i was the sap that had to pretend to listen to her bad stories on a date but this other guy hooked up with her by just talking to her at a bar for a bit 😂😂

    • Lol or you know... actually listen? It comes in more handy when trying to be in a longer term relationship

    • to her in general or her bad stories? 🤔😂 and who said anything about long term relationships 😂

    • To her in general and who knows, you might want one someday.

  • What if she had had sex only with women before? that should also be an option

    • Why would that make a difference?

    • Because straight women having sex with women isn't cheating

    • Sex is sex and straight women don't have sex with other women, otherwise they aren't straight.

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