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While getting fingered by my boyfriend, is this a normal reaction?

So the first few times my boyfriend fingered me, (he had never done it to anyone and I had never done it to myself) he would rub my clit and I would have an uncontrolled reaction of jumping up a bit or flinching and he thought that was a good thing so he would go harder and faster with the rubbing but in a way, it felt good, but also bad because I would feel like I was about to pee? And I couldn't control the flinching! My legs would kick up and I didn't even mean them to! So I would tell him to stop and he just laughed and smiled and did it again until I said more seriously to stop and he knew I meant it. Is it normal to flinch, kick, or squirm and feel like I'm about to pee when he rubs my clit?
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  • Sometimes. My advice is that you pee as soon preceding fingering as you can. If you are in an intimate setting, excuse yourself, pee, rinse up and get right back with him.

    When you feel these reactions coming on, don't resist them and when you feel the need to pee, let it go or even push a little, since you won't have but a few drops. "Pinching up" will work against your orgasm.

    If you are getting too much sensation at your clit to the point of discomfort, use lotion and even have him rub you lips closed until the moment approaches.

  • The sensation of feeling like you need to pee is a feeling some women get when they are about to reach orgasm, its mostly common in women who can 'squirt' (dont worry, this is definitely not a bad thing)

    Basically what im saying is to just embrace the feeling and let it flow over you. Dont make him stop. im willing to bet that you won't regret it.

Most Helpful Girls

  • It's normal for you to react with very jumpy, jolting mannerisms. To be fair, that's a part of the body that doesn't get quite much attention so it can be more prone to sensitivity as there are a lot of nerves circulating in your body. As for the uh, the pre-urination feeling, I mean, your vagina is basically right next to your bladder to it could be triggering something near your bladder giving off the illusion that you need to pee. It is a lot f friction after. Overall, yes, these actions are quite normal.

  • That's normal. When you have an orgasm, it will feel like you have to urinate because you use the same muscles.

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  • I'm PRETTY sure that's what an orgasm is.
    If you're worried, next time it happens, try peeing before hand (badoom-tss).

  • I have a question: how did you guys first start doing that? I want to with my gf, but am a bit nervous.

    • It was about 3 months into our relationship and as we were making out, out of nowhere he slowly moved his hand down, and put his hand over my underwear, did things, then went under the underwear. It was out of nowhere but I was okay with it and liked the fact that he went ahead and did that

    • Okay, we're about two months in though..

    • My bf fingered me for the first time at 2 months into our relationship so it was fine but if you put your hand down there and over her underwear and she isn't reacting well or is moving your hand away then stop because she isn't ready

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