While on a date with someone you’re attracted to and they mention no sex until marriage, what will you say/do?

While on a date with someone you’re attracted to and they mention no sex until marriage, what will you say/do?
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  • Nothing wrong with someone wanting to wait. But for me sexual compatibility is very important so I would not want to marry someone if we had not had sex quite a bit first. Imagine if you get married then discover you don't enjoy the same things in bed. You can learn some of that by talking, but not everything.

  • Sorry but I would let them know I'm not willing to wait for that and wish them well.

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  • well, I'm not interested in being married, so that wouldn't work out lol

  • I would follow up with the question, "And do you also believe in very short engagements?"

  • Not sure I’d say much. Maybe I’d ask a little to find out why. The thoughts in my head however would be, this isn’t going to work out

  • I'd say that's totally fair. But if I can never kiss her, and she starts dictating what the outfits of my characters have to look like when I write, make comics, or draft concept art, so that dresses aren't allowed to show any cleavage whatsoever, no matter what type of character is being depicted, and starts helping herself to rewriting entire scenes to make characters more wholesome when a particular character's failure to be so is to be a major plot point, then she's truly gone too far.

    Also, if she tries to ban me from philosophy discussions, out of fear that her favorite rock star might sound like an idiot, especially if she does so when the two of us aren't even dating yet? That, I will not stand for!

  • I would respect their opinion but ask if some sexual activities are still on the table such as handjobs or bjs, fingering, oral etc.

  • Thank you for the date but I have to be honest and let you know I don't see this going further after this date. Good luck to you and I wish you well.

  • Assuming they're not lying, it speaks highly of her self-worth.

  • I will most probably say "goodbye"

  • I would probably say "Oh.. well then I'm sorry but that's not something I'm up to or willing to wait for. I also think that marriage is outdated and clearly you value it more, what is fine but I think we don't match for the long run and I wanna lead you on, so we should end this."

    • *i don't wanna lead...

    • Nah bro it's a plot twist 😂

    • Or just keep it simple and say you don’t want to wait that long

  • Just one word...Goodbye.

  • it's been a different scenario for me. they've said no sex until you're willing to put a baby in me. it's happened twice. and i said good luck in life peace

  • I like where her head is at

  • Sounds like my kinda date!

  • This is hypothetical for me... I'm way beyond that situation ever happening.

    We would talk about it. If she's only talking about intercourse, I could probably deal with that. But if she's talking about all sex-related activities, I would politely say goodbye, wish her luck finding a guy for her, and leave.

    • i couldn't date a guy and not give him oral

  • Break it off after that date. Sex is a sacrament for me, and a desire. If you will not or cannot do so, I don't want you.

    • I'm a little confused, because people who say "sex is a sacrament" usually mean they want sex to be within the context of a marriage, which is also called a sacrament. But you seem to be saying that you would not want to wait. When you say "if you can't do this for me," are you saying, "if you can't wait for marriage for me," or are you saying, "If you won't have sex before marriage?"

    • I'm saying in my religion, with my matron, sex and passion are heavily encouraged. For us it's not just physical pleasure, it's honoring my goddess and her gifts to us. So if they cannot or will not do it, I don't want them. Because there will be no point

  • I think the first thing I think but not necessarily ask is are they a virgin.

    Probably I will ask why first and I might get the answer from that. If she isn't a virgin then I'll think she is just being a revisionist bitch and terminate.

    If she is a virgin, then I will consider if I am thinking of marriage. After all if I want a low body count then it isn't getting any better than this. It will be a niggling thought that maybe she just doesn't like sex and never will.

    If I am not wanting marriage yet, then I will terminate.

  • I had a long term relationship with someone that wanted to save it until marriage and I went along with it. I would not do it again. I would break up with her.

  • I would say to them that it was nice meeting you however our beliefs and views are different in this area as I wouldn't wait till marriage to have sex.

  • The second i learn this, i know this is gonna be my last date with her.

  • I would say that I share that same opinion.

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