Who do you think or prefer to be the submissive one in sex?

Shout it be a mix of both or do you have a preference?
Men
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Women
Vote B
50/50
Vote C
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Thank you for the votes, I guess I kinda knew girls are preffered but 50/50 wasn't far behind
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Superb Opinion

    • if you get a couple with 2 dominant types (alphas) they tend to clash and butt heads. while often trying to one up each other. in pretty much ever aspect of the relationship. which can lead to many fights.
    • if you get a couple with 2 submissive types (betas) they tend to never get anyway or do anything. because their often to scared to try something new.
    • if the person who is alpha is 100% dominant. that can often lead to a abusive and controlling nature however.
    • if the person who is beta is 100% submissive. that can often end with them being abused or control in a negative manner. also may never speaking out against it when they get hurt very badly. physically, mentally or emotionally.
    • ideally both want to be a blend of both. roughly in the 80/20, 70/30, 60/40, 50/50 ranges.
    • because there are times when it is better. if one or the other takes the lead on select matters.
    • traditionally the male is the more dominant one. but in a same sex couple that is a bit different.
    • but dating a fully submissive person is like dating a love doll. when it comes to having a sex life with them.

Most Helpful Guy

  • No doubt women tend to be generally more submissive and men tend to be dominant, however, it is not always the case. Childhood plays a major role in deciding whether someone is dominant or submissive. Someone who has lived their life carefree, with no responsibility and had someone else make all the decisions for them are more likely to crave power and control and be dominant in bed. On the other hand, someone who was burdened with responsibilites from a young age would want someone to take that control away and let them be free from responsibility and thus be more submissive in bed.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I love it when my husband dominates me in bed! I love him taking control of me, ripping off my clothes, and doing whatever he wants. It makes me so much more attracted to how strong he is. It also makes me feel more sexy and desired

  • Might want to rephrase the question -- it doesn't make any sense

    • Everyone else seems to get it 🤔

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  • Personally I like being dominant and in control in the bed room. However i have surrendered control before and it can be nice to let your partner take the lead. Builds trust, keeps the sex interesting, and can give you a different outlook on how your partner sees you.

    However i do enjoy being the dominant on most occasions. Im okay giving up control once in a while

    So maybe 80/20 split?

    For sex anyway.

  • 50/50... a bit of both is fun.

  • We share, and close to evenly, and I love when she likes being the one on top! :)

  • It's always good to switch it up

  • I feel it should be whoever enjoys that role but for me it's 50/50 sometimes I can be dominant some I can be submissive

  • exploring my submissive side

  • everyone's different does it matter, i mean if you are dominant then find a submissive partner if you are submissive find a dominant one, whether man or woman it doesn't matter as long as you both are happy about that...
    Me personally i prefer to date submissive women, as i am dominant

  • Not really into that aggressive/submissive game.

    I like sex to be imaginative and creative, show you put some thought into it, and didn't just start thrusting like a rapist.

    I try a couple of things on top, then she does. It makes for more fun as you have your favourites and try a new thing. Keeps things interesting.

  • Can't answer using your poll options.

    I think male or female doesn't define dom or sub, some people are doms and others subs.. so I think people should just be what they feel.

    Some are also switches, and enjoy both dom and sub depending on their moods. I switch from time to time, but am more often sub, so there's varying degrees of that too.

  • I be the dominat. Unless she fights for it 😉🔥🌡️.

  • I am submissive
    My partner must be dominant

    • @yamajazaki do i know you?

    • I have no clue? Maybe saw me on insta or Quora?

    • @yamajazaki Don't know maybe

  • I could play submissive is she would be nice I'm really not in the anybody being submissive.. and I thought we had a sexual revolution that men and women are equal

  • I'm naturally dominant, so it's really hot when she takes control.

    • How?

    • How what?

  • I like a bit of a mix

  • It would be nice if it were split more evenly but I'm guessing almost all doms are men. It's the role I normally adopt, It's a turn on to really get into roles.

  • There is no way in hell I'll submit.
    I'm the lead she'll do what I want and how I want. She'll have to take the hard spankings, hair pulling, ear/nipple biting. It's all in or all out!😘🤬😂

    Yeah but no. Just call me "The Dom"

    • Sounds like a good movie

    • @tjbyrd39 rated X for Xplicit

    • Boy that went right over your head then didn't it.

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  • I’m the submissive one, and I’m a girl. Y’all can do whatever you want.

    • Sounds perfect!

    • @andy530 my husband likes that arrangement

    • I’m sure he does! I would too if I were him!

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  • I like to be dominant

  • Females. Duh.

  • Equality is important

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