Who picks the position?

So someone asked me if I have to control the bedroom stuff since I’m 40 and my new boyfriend is 21. If we’re going in and having long marathon sex we kinda just go where the mood takes us. If it’s one of our quick hitters yea I usually tell him how I wanna take it. Loys of times I’ll build up the anticipation during the day telling him how I want it later on. Who picks the position on your bedroom

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  • Usually my wife, I'm not too into that kind of things and I lack imagination so I follow her lead.

    As long as it makes her happy, I'm happy as well.

    • Smart man

    • Thanks. Happy wife happy life as they say.

    • Exactly

Most Helpful Girls

  • Ik I'm not as experienced as you. But i believe great sexual chemistry usually works. Either he takes control or you do. Maybe if he's in missionary you tell him lie down you get on top. And maybe he can suggest another position you know?

    • Lol yes I yell switch and that means I take the top lol

  • There is no planning with us. Things always happen in the heat of the moment.

    • Cool! When we’re having our long session we do it lol that our quick hitters I usually tell him exactly how I want it lol

Most Helpful Guy

  • We have this big 8-sided die that we picked up at an adult bookstore. Each side has a different position or activity on it. We roll it and whatever side comes up...

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  • It's not planned. We "tell" (either words or actions) each other what we want to do.

  • You ask the same question every day 500 different ways. My answer will always be the same. You shouldn’t have sex before you’re married and if you feel he’s using you. There’s a good chance at this point.

  • She likes Cowgirl. That settles it.

  • Age doesn’t have to do with this question.

    choose what suits you and him on the mood

  • It's never planned. Like you, it's where the mood takes us.

  • It’s multiple choice.

  • Usually me

    • I’ll move here around or tell her what to do. Does your boyfriend tell you?

    • Sometimes I do more of the instructing I guess. He’ll tell me but more often I’ll tell him how I want him to give it me. Ok this is a little bit embarrassing but doggy is my favorite. So I’ll be like baby do me doggy. Or switch me that means I hop on top… things like that

    • Ya sometimes you know what you want. When he decides you let him move you into position?

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  • I’m open to any position so I will let my wife choose unless I’m really set on another position. I used to think she would do doggystyle just for me but then I found out she really enjoys the deep penetration.

    • Shhh 🤫 it’s my fav too lol sorry tmi

    • Yeah, she told me why and it made sense that it feels better. I think it’s most people’s favorite. 😉

  • Well depends on if I have a partner at the time and just do whatever comes to mind

  • both choose the position

    • What do you guys have like a debate and then agree on a position?

    • yes simply

  • I do most of the times. If she tells me she wants to switch I don't mind

  • It doesn't matter who picks when you are both experienced players

  • You realise your boyfriend will end up ditching and finding someone his own age. He is going to to want kids and get married eventually. That doesn't happen with 20 years difference

    • We got an angry incel. I’m 40 and widowed I don’t want any more kids and I probably won’t remarry

    • But what about him though

    • I thought he was gonna “end up ditching and finding someone his own age.”

  • It really depends on the mood as you said. Most of the time we just mutually gravitate towards a position and switch when one of us wants to switch.

  • Who is dom in therelationship