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Who should make the first call/text after sex? Why?

Man, explain why.
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Woman, explain why.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • It's generally expected that the man will, also there's a lot of blame placed on women for coming across as clingy so she may be trying to avoid this, especially as she's given it up to him now, it's almost like a test in a way to gage his real interest.

    • However I think any party can, if you enjoyed it and had a good time then why not let them know. I do think that the whole casual sex approach ha caused a lot of confusion in younger generations now though from what I hear.

  • I can't answer the pole. I'm the type of person that'll sometimes make the first text or call. It's 2017, women or men can both text/call first.

  • Anyone under that Fun Sun, hun, Who Really Cares.
    No Need to stand on Ceremonies Here, dear.
    Good Luck. xx

  • whoever the thought/desire to remain in contact with comes to first.

Most Helpful Guys

  • I would say the woman cause it mainley gets men to feel special something that they want , but either one is not realy important.(applies to male as well women deserve respect)

  • Whoever takes a notion. There are no rules about this. Just do what you feel and if the guy gets upset then he's not the guy for you.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Either one. Nobody wants to seem needy, but don't make it a game of chicken. Just call. :)

  • the man still has to court her for each & every sexual favor but
    a gal can OWN a normal guy by calling him first and courting his little head always

  • The man, to show that he isn't just going to pump and dump. The text isn't nearly as important as the sentiment behind it and what is actually being said.

  • Really? It's 2017 for fucksake... this sort of shit is what perpetuates the idea of a set way of dating and doing things... this sort of bullshit is why 90% of you are on this website, because of this concocted crap you all place on yourselves. If you want to call him, call him... if you don't them forget him and walk away...

    • Calm the fuck down. I was the one who made the first call. I was wondering what other people think about this. Watch your mouth next time. And may I ask why you are on this website Lady Perfect, who doesn't wonder opinions of others on questions because she is so perfect?

    • I am fucking perfect... but please, do continue with your archaic social traditions... they really help everyone...

  • Doesn't matter. It's a new night. Whoever has something to say or do should call or text first.

  • Depends on who house you did it at.

    • woman's

    • I think the one that doesn't live there should text say they got home ok and to wish the other a good night, say how much fun you had. Whats messed up with the world is that people ALWAYS want the other to do things first. Come up to them 1st, ask them out 1st, 1st to go in for the kiss, first it initiate foreplay/sex. All that drives me insane... and pisses me off... that's why I only date girls that know what they want and are confident enough in their own sexuality to make the first move when she's horny... I make the first when I am.

    • It was very late like 1:30 am and he had to wake up at 6:30, and he lives about 50 miles away. So I asked him to text me once he is home alive, because I am worried that he is too tired to drive. So he texted me about an hour later telling me that he is one piece at home, and wished me good night.

  • I never thought about it. It doesn't matter now days does it.

  • Women. But only because I am a man but a pussy who would die while waiting for your reply, if I were to text first lol

  • The one who wants to see the other again more

  • Doesn't matter as long as someone does. There's now "should first" by specific gender. Don't play games. It won't end/go well.

  • I'm not texting when she's laying down next to me... lol. J/K. I don't mind because it will be in my mind, and men are always expected to call first.

  • What? No, this isn't a gender thing. Either one can do it if they feel like it.

  • Guy should, so she knows where he stands on it. Is it casual or something more. Women need to know that or it fucks with y'alls heads.

  • I say the man. I never do. I never want to come off clingy.

    • I can feel that some guys also don't want to come of as too clingy.

    • I get that. Somebody has to do it or it won't get done, and the people will start thinking something went wrong.. Lol

    • The woman won't come off as "clingy" and guys want/need to feel wanted and desired as well. You MUST show some interest. Or we'll just assume you're not, as you would in the same situation.

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  • A man of course,😎 if you do it... you'll appear desperate and easy. That's not ever a good image of you if you want a fruitful relationship and if you want the man feel love respect for you. If you appear easy he won't ever value you

    • If you don't text him first you will prove that you would rather sleep with a new man and become a hoe than simply showing your man that you're interested

  • The one who wants a second meeting

  • Men are typically the initiators in relationships, so it would make sense that the guy should follow up with his conquest to make sure she had a good time too.

  • Why can't they just meet up again instead? Is a call/text the only way communication should be done?

    • how will they know when and where though?

    • @agirl537 that's what i was thinking

    • Well... "The usual place" is what I would like to say.. but it's situational.

  • This is why dating never works for people, because they are stuck in the gender roles and dating rules.

    It doesn't matter who texts who or who contacts who. If you like the guy, contact him.

  • Men should take the lead and be responsible, no sex before marriage is preferable though.

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