Why am I always think about having sex with other men and not my husband?

I have a high sex drive and sexually active and need sex at least once per day. Sometime I need it multiple times a day.

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  • I'm sure you know you are not alone in that. Problem is, most/many men are hard pressed to accept your feelings without calling you a "whore" or worse. I know, and have known women in the past that seemed to feel the same way, and honest to god, I really don't know what the definitive answer is.

    I sometimes wonder if the answer is to not marry, and stay single until your libido cools down, but then who knows how you will feel or what will happen to you physically and mentally in the interim. A woman I worked with said she "quit counting men, after 100" and I had no way of knowing if that was true, I just took her word for it. That said, she said she 'lost her husband as a result, of her many affairs.

    I guess it has to be said, that you can't have your cake and eat it too. Most of us, or the majority seem to want a marriage and family, but don't know how to reconcile that with the elevated sex drive that some women have.

    I had a close relative that claimed to have the same feelings as you, and she had affairs that lasted years, before her husband found out, although she claimed her husband lost his 'sex drive' shortly after they married.

    I will say this from my perspective... she lost her sex appeal, from my POV as she let her body/figure go to hell and that may be why hubby lost his desire for her.

    Indeed it is a tough pill to swallow, to be sure for a woman in your position, and I wish I had a better answer for you.

Most Helpful Girls

  • OMG I know the feeling... because you wish he'd do things to you that really turns you on like grab you from the back and just stroke it when in private. Or just rip your clothes off as soon as he sees you showing you he desperately wants you and misses you and get straight into it.

    Maybe it's just time to have the talk... And take him to the bedroom and do to him what you want him to do to you honey and talk him through it. Things will probably change, can't knock it until you try it!!! And if that doesn't work maybe that fire is gone.

    I experienced that and he figured it out, and changed the game on me and it's been better ever since he realized I was imagining another man. I was giving up on the relationship and everything until he flipped the script. You got this girl, it's probably time for you to become kinky if he's not in the mood, make yourself cum in front of him and if that doesn't work, he's a goner... Get him into you and what you like and show him how to love you. And maybe don't be on the receiving end all the time, do things to make him feel good also until your jaws get tired. Then he'll be like man my wife loves me 😂🥰😜.

    Play the "Kevin Gates" song called "Jam" I think every freaky woman wants that in her man/husband. If he doesn't know what you want from him he'll never know how to please you honey. Maybe try some horny goat tea to get him in the mood, check his testosterone levels that could be an issue to. Take him to the "Sex Store" see if something there will spark a fire in his eyes.

    You'll figure it out, you got this...💯💝

  • Like you said in the comments, you never loved him and you already cheated on him. Here’s a solution: Divorce him and give him full custody of your kids.

    • I want my kids

    • You don’t deserve them or your husband. You’re a bad wife and a mother.

    • You just want to slut around and cause your family pain. They’re better off without you in their lives.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • You’re either a sexual deviant, or you and your husband have not made enough mutual effort to keep attraction alive. Maybe both. I suggest you work on your marriage relentlessly if you want to save it. It’s usually never just physical attraction. He’s likely done things and have created habits that emotionally turn you against him and he’s likely consistently showcased these habits that you don’t like for years. You never want to allow your spouse to turn into someone you don’t like. Seems like you got there. Fix it or leave. Sink or swim. Where do your values lay?

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  • May be heis not able t complete your desire upto mark. Guide him the way you like before taking any other step. Mutual understanding is always best ☺️.

  • I hope you don't mind me messaging you by pm but I just saw your question "Why am I always think about having sex with other men and not my husband?" and would prefer to comment here, privately, will that be ok?


  • sex addiction

  • You answered your own question. 🤔🤷‍♂️

  • I think you explained why before.

  • Are you sexually attracted to your husband?

    • No I don’t

    • That sucks. Do you guys have kids? If not, maybe you should think about divorcing him and finding someone you do like. You might be happier.

    • We have 3

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  • Nothing wrong with that. Talk to your husband and he might give you permission to have sex with other men to fulfil your needs. I would

  • Maybe monogamy is not for you.

  • @princesspd Ok if only in your thoughts.

  • Your husband may not be able to keep up with you or you want variety.

  • please, consider divorce if u feel like u would cheat on him

    • A little too late. I already been with other men

    • behind his back or?

    • Yes behind his back

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  • Get a divorce.

  • This person should be banned. Either lying or just a POS.

  • Because you need me in your life.

  • Invite your husband to join you and have a 3-some

    • @princesspd or maybe he would just like to watch

  • Sounds like a serious you problem that you are inevitably going to blame on your husband

  • You should just leave your husband and start tricking on the streets.

  • Because you have a high sex drive

  • You aren't in love and haven't healed your trauma

    • Never love him from the start. I married him to make my parents happy. My heart is always somewhere else.

    • You answered your own question, then dumbass.

  • I think it's because you feel there's no surprise excitement in your marriage, you tried to spice things up like roleplay, public sex

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