Why am I questioning my sexuality?

[Anonymous]

I don’t think I am lesbian or bisexual, but during this quarantine I’ve had second thoughts. I’ve never dated a man before, or anyone for that matter. I’m physically attracted to the male penis, not so much vaginas. I see some of these trans people on Tik Tok (haha yes I have a tik tok) and I think “man, I would totally date them”. Some of these trans men are so f*cking gorgeous, only problem is they don’t have a penis. In public I see women and I think “damn look at that body, I wish mine looked like that”, or “look at that ass, I bet if I worked out x days I could look like that”. There was one time when I was 5 (preschool) where I asked my dad “why can’t girls like girls, and boys like boys?” I went to a catholic preschool, but I am not religious right now. My father recorrected me and told me there is nothing wrong with homosexuality. Going to elementary school I had this one instance where this girl at sleep over I was having at my aunts house tried to kiss me, I felt like throwing up. She literally tried to kiss me out of the blue and I backed away. I was probably 8 yo. The thing is, I’ve always had crushes on men, boys. I guess I’m just confused. Like I’m totally open to the idea of sharing an emotional connection with a girl but I can’t imagine myself kissing them. I also watched this show recently and there was this complex relationship between a gay couple and I was rooting for them to.. be together/have sex. I’ve played basketball and I’ve been asked if I was lesbian (in a mocking tone), but I said no. I’m just confused. I guess you should also know I have a lot of gay friends that are female. Do I like girls? The larger part of me wants to say no but after putting everything together I guess you can say I am questioning my sexuality. Thanks for reading this

[Stellargasm]

I’m in a similar situation. I’m pretty much straight, I’ve only ever dated girls and only ever will and still hope to marry a nice woman someday if I meet the right one. When I was a kid I experimented with another boy and really liked going down on him. I don’t really find any men attractive, I don’t want to kiss touch or do anything romantic with one. I do however like penises and really want to try sucking one again.

My ideal situation would be with a bisexual woman and we’re committed and in love with each other but are free to have encounters with the same sex in a safe setting and possibly even try threesomes sometimes if she wants. I don’t know if that will ever happen, a lot of Women are surprisingly close minded toward bisexual men.

[Obtuse]

I don't get what's so confusing. You licking a girl's thinger, and she's licking yours, and you have some way to get things in the holes, or you got a guy who puts things in your holes. Which one do you like? If that's complicated, then you got the abstract like man overpowering you, and woman being your equal. Then again you might find the butch type of girl who overpowers you. I don't know.

Do you want babies or not? And if no, do you really want them or not? And if no, do you really, really, really, digging down into your whole subconscious Freudian childhood hopes and dreams and whatnot, want them or not? Cause maybe that's the bulk of it. Do you want babies or not?

[ovie_obvs]

Its totally okay to act like this. These things need time to process. Ur thinking about between the two. It might just be a case that ur just admiring a girl. But it could be that ur interested in them. Ur older now and there is more opportunities and knowledge out there about these things. Sometimes u might just look at a girl and it will click. But this isn't just a topic u can think about for 5 minutes and then hav ana answer. If u had to think about it in the first place then that's all gonna take time. Be true to urself. And make sure u know what ur doing/saying if u make a decision

[blkgold33]

I guess the first you have to do is finally date someone good luck now

[Iron_Man]

Just date a man and one day marry one and never cross that line. You need to get back to work or school your mind is playing tricks on you because your in lock down. Be strong. Seek out a Christian professional sex therpist. Laying with the same sex is an abomination not something you experiment with.

[theCobbler]

It's only natural to question ones preference, especially from time to time depending on current relationships ! Nothing wrong with exploring the possibilities; just be careful with whom and make sure you talk about anything that may be involved or come as a indifference later on!

[COMMODOREII]

There is nothing wrong having gay friends or finding women attractive and still be straight. 😎

[lofii]

Your brain has been rotted by media to think that way.

[jimmy2]

Well i think you might just want to explore. You seen more to men though

[Zach1457]

You might belong to Salmon gender. Act like a fish