Why am I so unhappy after sex?

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I feel most guys have a small penis and cannot please me or get me to orgasm. Most of the time I feel like sex is a waste of my time. Especially when I'm not getting please or pleasure out of it.

Fireguy17 · Accepted Answer

are you letting them know what they can do to make your experience better for you or are they like a blind person walking around in a mine field.
I always liked getting special requests, some could only cum when they were on top, some needed some extra help form an electronic device.
Everyone is wired differently, so while size may be a part of it, what is being done with it can also make difference on you going ya, that was nice, or your eyes rolling back in your head, and you end up talking in tongues grabbing at thin air with your hands.
Just some input from you as to what your needs are can be a game changer for you, if not how is someone else supposed to know what works for you.
Isn't that the point of getting naked and sweaty in the first place?
If they listen and do what you like great, if not then why do it again with that person.

tenor55 · Accepted Answer

First of all, can you orgasm by masturbating? If not, you need to explore how to make that happen. Then, you can help your man by showing him what you need.

Many women (my wife included) can't achieve orgasm without direct clitoral stimulation. It has nothing to do with my size. You need to find a position that achieves that. We use a position with her on her back and me on my side between her legs. That way, I can use my finger on her clit. Her on top also works well. because the base of my penis rubs he clit. Another position is on the edge of the bed with her legs on my shoulders, she then can use a vibrator on her clit. Also, look up the C. A. T. position. Hope this helps!

TRACY99 · Accepted Answer

go find the guy with the right size cock and knowhow

surebruh · Answer

In this case , for me it seems you partly answered your own question, "at least" have somewhere to start for Penis size though it doesn't automatically size will satisfy you.

Reece12345 · Answer

If penis size is a problem, would be the, like, minimum penis size that you feel would give you pleasure?

SnowedIn · Answer

Then some of it is the guy and not his penis. If you're settling for him not giving you pleasure, you own that. Make him give you an orgasm before he enters you, either oral or finger or both. Communicate. Even big penises can result in no orgasm -- any size penis isn't guaranteed to give you an orgasm or touch the right places to do so. So, yeah, some of this is the guys but almost certainly not their penis size and a lot of this has to do with your communication.

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

Maybe you should talk more about your sexual fantasys and your desires.  Be open about what you want, what you like and dislike.

Summeroflove · Answer

Because it’s all you care about

Dargil · Answer

Fewer than 25 % of women reach orgasm from PIV alone. What size has ever worked for you? Besides, it's width not length that pulls the trigger.

misogynistic_pig · Answer

Once such a variety of penetration has loosened a woman's vagina, she sometimes begins to need two partners at the same time to feel anything, so she becomes a double stuffer.

Finchie40 · Answer

Then you are choosing
The wrong guys to sleep with , you have to remember a lot of people in today’s world are selfish people that only think of themselves, find a guy that isn’t selfish find a guy that wants to please you before he pleases himself , it will take some time but they are out there , When I have sex with a girl my mission is to make her have an orgasm first before myself , making her get off turns me on and makes her come back for more , so be more picky on why you end up in bed with , find a guy that has a lot in common with you that wants to be by your side as much as possible treat him the way you want to be treated and you will find him , when you do hold onto him as much as possible cuz they are hard to come by , same goes for us guys that don’t want a selfish girl

DavidRaul · Answer

Looks like they weren't experienced enough in pleasing a woman. Most of them are not even skilled for a proper foreplay. All they want is to penetrate

stratford · Answer

Perhaps you haven't met a guy that understands your sexual needs?

To help me understand and offer advice from a guy's perspective, when you start getting intimate, does your pussy get wet? How about when you masturbate, do you orgasm?

Sparkie460 · Answer

If you're with different guys do you discuss your sexual needs and expectations or do you just jump in bed and hope for the best? Every person has different needs and desires in bed. It's hard to know what each person likes if you don't discuss it. Communication in a relationship is key for it to work out.

TheFlak38 · Answer

A good question for all the lying women here who say that size doesn't matter.

shanshu · Answer

I'd say find yourself a fuck buddy, be specific on what you are looking for and see if you can get you to orgasm

Guardian45 · Answer

It IS a waste of time with the guys you're choosing. Choose more experienced caring mature guys (NOT necessarily older!)

driven159 · Answer

you need to find someone that is good at sex and foreplay and will take their time with you

Rohaan2020 · Answer

Pleasure doesn't necessarily comes with a huge dick

Yellovv · Answer

I think you didn't make it with right guy..

panamared1 · Answer

how adventurous are you

scotts2310 · Answer

Is your vagina small or large

Anonymous · Answer

Find a Guy with a Bigger Dick. Can't you ask some women you know. I know it's a Crude Question to ask, but if a guy is packing word gets around.

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