Why am I weird?

Question

I have a kink… I want to meow to a dominant man and get f u c rough , crawl , spank , and then I want my throat slammed… why do I have these thoughts and what do you call someone like this

Makeushiver · Accepted Answer

All pretty common fantasies so you aren't weird at all. There is a problem with discussing sexual fantasies in an age of political correctness. The most common fantasies are on a bubble that means that if you use the terminology we have available, sound as if the fantasy is something completely different.

One of the most common fantasies - which sounds a loit like your explanation is called a "rape" fantasy by sexologists. It has nothing to do with the ugly actual crime but it does have to do with desire- the element behind almost every fantasy. In this case, the desire is so strong that the man ( of your own choosing not a sexual predator) whose desire for you is so powerful that he can't abide by normal social constrsaints and takes you, often by force but usually in a way that is a surprise or is something you can't stop. Actually describing it makes it sound much closer to the crime of rape since it often involves force. In reality it is completely unlike the crime because it is someone whom you choose and the "force" is a result from the desire you instill in him. Unless you are with some very understanding friends when you discuss it someone who wants to bust your chops will liken it to the crime of rape. Often people choose a deliberate misunderstanding of the fantasy in an effort to make you feel bad despite them knowing what you are really saying. Its also difficult for a woman to voice ideas like those because the fantasy can be made to sound like the oppression that is behind the crime that you probably are as against as any other politically correct woman but language can be used to can make you sound sick for thinking that. I think everyone really knows what it is that's desirable behind the fantasy but tagging it with the name can cause deliberate misunderstanding by people who know better. by the way, all sounds hot to me

bowenw · Accepted Answer

Your are not weird, you've simply figured out what you like. There is no normal. Everyone is different.

LindaF · Accepted Answer

Sounds fine to me! It's important to know what you want. You have to tell him your fantasy beforehand to see if he's into that. And first, be sure you trust this guy. Get to know him. You don't want to be vulnerable to anyone who won't respect your limits. Safety first. But this isn't weird. Who told you it's weird? Sounds like a fun evening to me.