Why are girls blowjobs so lazy and terrible?

[Anonymous]

What has happened? Do girls not like sucking dick? I’ve been getting terrible BlowJobs for a while and it’s like they just don’t know how to use their tongue, hands, or any rythmic motion or swivel. It still feels good but comparatively, when I eat a girl out, I make her clitoris go through 40 different baskin robins flavors, motions, until she is seizuring and screaming in pleasure. I know for a fact it’s a lot harder to please a girl than a guy. What is happening? Are girls just not enthusiastic anymore or do they not care about pleasing the man? I’m barely able to orgasm from BlowJob’s and that’s from focusing extremely hard to enjoy it.

[BullShark]

To answer your question, no. Maybe not most, but a lot of girls don't actually enjoy giving blowjobs, even if they might enjoy receiving them, so the whole saying that "make sure you please your woman orally and then she'll do the same for you" doesn't always apply to all of them.

Then again, I'm not saying that all women are selfish lovers either. If she's very young and you were her first or second boyfriend, then chances are she'd just be inexperienced and nervous about giving you head because she normally wouldn't know what to do with a throbbing cock in front of her face. In that case, ask her for her reassurance if she actually does want to go through with it because I cannot stress this enough but consent is ALWAYS necessary and important even if you guys have already started. If she's ready to go through with it and actually wants to give you head as well, coach her and tell her how you want it and how she should do it. It isn't embarrassing to tell your partner what you want.

That being said, it's also important to establish a good emotional connection with her as well, so that you both are comfortable in each others' presence. A stranger you randomly picked up at a bar who you don't even know the name of may be reluctant to do a lot of the things you want her to, as opposed to your actual girlfriend whom you've known for months now and who you share memories with and an intimate connection. She may still be inexperienced, but chances are if she really truly does love you, she'll not only want to do everything she can to make you feel good, but she'll enjoy doing it too.

[TheSpaceGnome]

If you have been blown by enough women to do a statistic about it, then you aren't going to ever be blown by one that cares enough to do it well.


Quality over quantity is definitely a thing here. Want enthusiasm? Commit to one woman and ignore the rest.

[chrissykerdock]

i enjoy sucking dick very much... i'll suck it without getting the equivalent back or anything back... because i enjoy it so much i'll suck his cock until he cums and swallow his cum... now having said that guys always want more... they want to be rimmed they want to be deep throated for hours which is a no can do for a girl... her throat would be ripped to sheds... it's not to say i don't face fuck from time to time but let's be real... i really don't believe girls in general have stopped giving good head.

[Asker]

Deep throated and rimming is all fancy stuff. It feels good but not gonna make a guy cum. A girl who knows how to give a good blow job will make him cum in 5 minutes. If you can’t get a guy to cum in 5 minutes then either he’s really good or girl needs to step her game up.

[chrissykerdock]

realistically it's 10 to 20 minutes but who's really counting... but if you really want to guy to cum in 10 minutes there's things to lick and suck

[MysticAngel5000]

If you don't like how she does it, gently coach her. Communicate what feels good and what doesn't. Let her know what you like. Encourage her to do the same with you so you know how to best please her as well.

[Asker]

Trust me I do. But as I said in another comment, it’s like teaching someone to dance. Some can do it, some can’t, or they just don’t put in the effort.

[MysticAngel5000]

Well, then time for a new partner if you're so unsafe with her performance.

[NamerOfStars]

Well, are you giving feedback? Making requestl or suggestions? It's not like you're born knowing how to do it.

[Emiliamazing]

Sometimes in order to truly enjoy pleasuring another person there needs to be a strong mental connection and perhaps you don’t have that with the ladies who have been giving you head.

[Asker]

I guess. I know a good orgasm for girls needs some trust. I give my all when I pleasure girls. Make sure they get the greatest sleep and keep asking me for more. I don't know what’s happening though, feels like they don’t know how and need guidance or I’m not easily pleased.

[Kori1236]

I feel like you should address that complaint with those who give the BJ. I personally don’t like them or oral in general. So I try to avoid it

[spartan55]

Although every woman on earth claims to give 'the best blowjob' there are some really bad actors out there.

[Asker]

I think the guys don’t tell them they aren’t that good and they believe they are great. Maybe guys are just happy to get bj and don’t complain.

[spartan55]

That's true, you definitely don't want to seem ungrateful..

[Apple1996]

Your probably just getting with girls that give bad head

[Asker]

I guess so. Gotta keep the good ones and marry

[Apple1996]

For sure that's what my husband did 😛

[Asker]

He must be extremely happy

[Faith18letsgo]

I think it’s kind of embarrassing to give a blo job. I’d get a strap on put it on her and show her how you like to be pleased. This will put you on the same footing and she’ll understand better.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Talk about an OXYMORON & A Terrible Blowjob is one of them. On the other hand practice makes perfect & I think some girls need to practice more.

[Dalisay409]

Maybe you just haven't earned it.

[Asker]

Have u ever given terrible bj’s?

[Emiliamazing]

That’s rough! But maybe you have a point.

[Dalisay409]

I've given plenty of token bjs to a guy who hasn't earned anything special.

[Emiliamazing]

Fair enough!

[Asker]

So u boast about bj but never intentionally given bad bj or been lazy about it? So that’s my point. Nobody intentionally tries to be bad at sex.

[Dalisay409]

Nobody is boasting.

[Asker]

What’s a token bj mean then?

[Dalisay409]

A plain vanilla

[Emiliamazing]

I’m starting to think that maybe you should address this complaint with those who are giving them to you. None of us here are going to help that situation, all we can do is give you our experiences should we choose to do so

[Asker]

That’s called a terrible bj

[Asker]

@Emiliamazing I usually guide them. Tell them to twist their head and stroke the frenulum with the tongue while they go up and down like a twisting motion while using one hand to swivel as well. That’s just the basics. It’s like trying to teach someone to dance. Some people just can’t and I notice more and more.

[Autember]

Have you told her that you just aren't happy with her skills? Maybe you should guide her better. She can't fix what she doesn't know is broken.

I've never had a guy complain about me... but I have had guys make suggestions like "suck my balls" or "go deeper", whatever. Makes it hotter when they tell me what to do. Regardless, they cum within a couple minutes, so I assume I'm not awful at it.

[bean2k21]

Coz you ain't paying her 💸. She sitting there thinking, damn years of feminism and what do I get for this blowjob? I might as well be on my hands and knees scrubbing your damn floor, you misogynist son of a bitch.

[KatherineJ]

You do know that since girls don’t have a dick that she might not know what you need, right? Communicate with her what feels nice to you.

[JPresidente]

Maybe they were never taught. You gotta tell her what you like and don’t like. Smile and make her laugh while you explain so she doesn’t feel like you’re disappointed and upset.

[maximumpower]

Bc they don't give a damn about pleasing the man.

[KralArthur]

Whoa you don't like girls blowing you? Such a luxury...

[dean53AU]

Never had a reason to complain about any blowjobs I've received. 😊

[Zolly99999]

Not all girls are like this. .. some are very "enthusiastic " about it 😉

[harrison102]

Apparently girls don’t like giving them because they get nothing out of it. And they get board really quickly

[landingout2]

I've been through it before

eventually a new girl changed my mind

its based off the girl

not all girls

[Asker]

Well said

[Anonymous]

depends on the girl i guess , some are more into that than others , but not sure if blow jobs are as big a thing as they used to be but still pretty common thing for people to do

[Anonymous]

I don't think that ALL women are that way, so the real question is why do you keep selecting sexual partners who are lousy?