Why are girls frowned upon for masturbating?

I don’t really get it, considering how it’s considered sexy when a grown woman does it. Masturbation is a natural thing that every child discovers once they reach or hit puberty, so I was always curious as to why parents were always harder on little girls for touching themselves than they are on little boys for doing it. I can speak for myself, because I recall being yelled at when my parents broke into my room without knocking and caught me masturbating for the first time (I was about 11-12 years old). My female friends had similar childhood experiences. Whereas my male friends always told me that whenever their mom caught them jerking off during their childhood/teen years, they’d just stare all awkwardly and then leave. Not yell at them as if they stole something. I don’t even get why I was yelled at, since they were the ones who decided enter my room without knocking on the door. 🤣🤣😭

Also, please don’t give me something like: “Because females are seen as pure, and masturbating is dirty.” First of all... masturbation is not dirty if you keep your genitals clean, it’s natural. Second, masturbating does not take away a girl’s purity. Having sex does, if you really want to go there. 😂

So I’m asking this, because I never really understood it. You can’t slut-shame someone for masturbating. So, why are girls chastized for masturbating yet boys aren’t? Both have raging hormones, especially in the teen years. If older people want to preach equality among the genders, then wouldn’t shaming your daughter for touching herself in the privacy of her own room and yet ignoring your son when he touches himself in the privacy of his own room be hypocritical?
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  • Guys lie about those stories a lot first of all. Second a lot of guys have a thing for being caught by female members of the family and like to exaggerate it telling said story. Also moat males or females are not shamed at all.. your situation sounds like it is just your parents. Some are open to educating their kids etc and some are old school and prudes etc.

    • But it wasn’t just my parents. It was my friends’ parents too. Also, are you saying that most parents do unnecessarily punish their sons for masturbating?

    • No most do not punish either...

  • It's an innocence thing , like my girl would never do this or do that...
    I don't see anything wrong with a girl/woman masturbating.
    It's a perfectly normal natural and healthy sexual activity.
    If you want to diddle your skittle then go for it , no shame in it

    • Diddle your skittle. XD

  • Since when is it frowned upon?

    • Since forever. Mostly by older parents.

  • Please keep wanking girls

  • They aren't

    • But they are, by older generations of parents.

    • That doesn't really happen nowadays, as well as that. It's mainly religious people and it applies to both men and women

  • no they are not frowned on.. thats what you think..

  • Wow your parents barged into the room when you were masturbating? Did they just happened to be barging in anyway and saw you, or did they somehow know before they came in? That's weird behavior on their part. And to slam you for it is just senseless.

    • They barged in because I had no privacy since I “didn’t pay the bills”. Lol.

  • I don't know. Personally, if I had a daughter, I'd be relieved to know she masturbated. Sexual desires are bound to happen, and I'd much rather she relieved them herself (a totally normal thing to do, that hurts nothing) than that she experiment on other people (all other consequences aside, she could regret it later)

    • True. I really don’t see what the big deal is with some parents. Masturbation doesn’t hurt anybody, so why does it bother them if their child does it?

    • below a certain age, you could argue they are sexually ignorant, and shouldn't do it because they don't even know what they're doing. but on the other hand? kids gain sexual awareness as different ages. i started masturbating very young (around 8) but I also had some sexual awareness, even if just barely.

    • I mean I guess, but not knowing what it is doesn’t mean that they should be forbidden from touching their genitals. You’ll have to learn somehow, right? Lol. Anyways, I get what you’re saying.

  • I was slapped when I got caught once when I was very young. I dunno if my mom ever caught my brother doing it, and I’m not sure how she would have reacted. I can see parents being harsher on girls for that, though, and it really makes no logical sense.

    • I agree. It doesn’t make logical sense. What makes even less sense is that my parents both advocate for gender equality. Like, okay, so then WHY did you yell at me for playing with myself so many years ago? XD That’s textbook sexism.

    • Wow you guys must live in an alternate universe

    • @chris_987 How so?

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  • Not frowned upon by me!

    • Well that’s good!